Just like I said, whatever I could, could being the operative word .....For me one of the primary components of a perfect match is when each person puts the other person's NEEDS 'NOT NECESSARILY WANTS' ahead of his or her own and if there are children both partners put their needs first...When this happens balance becomes a given...I feel certain that in a perfect match, which is what the OP is referring to, most of the specifics you mention would not be a concern, let alone an issue...The question asked was not what would you put up with, it was what or how much would you sacrifice for a perfect match...I think some of us (me) are looking at it as being in a relationship with the person you consider to be your perfect match and some of us (you?) are looking at the question as, "What would you sacrifice to turn an imperfectly matched relationship into a perfectly matched one?"...Even some of the things on your list I would easily sacrifice if I thought it meant that much to him...If I had a pet I loved and my man developed allergies I could see myself being willing to find a good home for my pet rather than expecting him to medicate and/or "just deal with it"...Same would apply if we hit a financial crunch and needed to eliminate the expense of owing a pet or indulging in a hobby...I think sacrifice is a necessary part of life and that includes any and all sacrifices I might make to protect and preserve my relationship if that is what I wanted to do...

Both Pansy and Leigh's posts resonate with me. This topic is similar to another 'What would you give up for...' and in that one, I answered 'nothing.'

The posts Leigh and PT put up here made me rethink that some.

Had I been thinking instead of just responding, I'd have said, 'I'll sacrifice anything which doesn't violate my core values.'

Flexibility is a really valuable trait in general, and even more valuable in a relationship. 'My way or the highway' rubs MY fur the wrong way; It'd be just stupid to expect something different from someone I chose to share my life with.

Learn something new every day. Thanks, Leigh and PT.

There is no such thing as a perfect match in a relationship.

That answers this for me, too.

Plus, I've been through the whole "make sacrifices for each other" game, and I learned the very hard and painful way, that the way to INSURE that a relationship drags you through hell, is to think you have to "make sacrifices" to keep it or make it work.

Here's the key: if it feels like a SACRIFICE to you, don't do it. You will only be planting seeds of resentment inside yourself.

If instead, you are surprised to feel ONLY the pleasure of seeing your loved one happy, such that you barely notice that you are changing, then things might work out for you.

Woman, you obviously never owned a pet. The man goes.