why lady's thy like to play hard to get when you are serious about her ?

.. they want you to prove yourself to them... to show them that you are worthy of their trust and affection..
... go figure..

and that you are worth there's

I swear this is a deja vu thread.

1. Who says lady's "like" to play hard to get?
Maybe they don't like it, it's just a necessity?

2. Why wouldn't they play hard to get? Who wants a woman easy to get? You could never leave her by herself?
Kind of like my adopted FAS niece that will go off with strangers if she's left alone.

Easy is not a better solution to "hard to get."

3. Maybe they aren't playing hard to get? Maybe everything up to that point was just screwing around, dating, seeing if you're going to disappear, but now they're being "real" but the communication is totally different? You're just interpreting it as playing "hard to get."

4. Maybe you are communicating, at least indirectly, that you are starting to judge them easy to get, or taking them for granted, and they need to change that impression/judgment?

5. Maybe they simply don't want to do what you want them to do? So you are labeling them hard to get, when really they're just being normal?

6. Maybe they have no way to really tell the difference between someone who is "really" serious, and someone who is only saying they're serious, or is going to be serious for a while but then all of a sudden become not serious?

7. Maybe they are always playing hard to get, but when you decide to be "serious" you expect them to change their behavior and they don't.

8. Maybe they get off on it.

9. Maybe they aren't serious? Maybe they are playing hard to get in order to buy time until they decide they want to be serious?

10. Maybe they just don't want to be "got" but respected and treated as something other than a prize?


There's enough, pick the one or more that makes you happy.

It's there normal behaviour

...grow up...

"Playing hard to get" is another one of those labels which often obscures what it is attached to, rather than making things more clear.

For one thing, lots of people who you think are "playing hard to get," aren't playing at all. They don't like you, and are trying to get you to go away as politely and gently as they can.

For another, most people aren't mind readers. Because they don't know that you DO really like them, and you ARE really serious about them, and you ARE a mature enough person that you aren't just toying with them, or following your lusts of the moment, they proceed cautiously. THEY aren't "playing hard to get," YOU are acting out your own personal fantasy without inviting them in on the details.

And of course, the most common reason people complain that someone is "playing hard to get," is simply that they aren't cooperating. Not everyone wants to have sex with you within the first twenty minutes of making your acquaintance, you know.

But the correct response to the very few grownups who ARE playing hard to get, is to leave them to play their games, and move on.

Ok
1 be straight up, tell her what you want
2 don't play games
3 maybe she is testing you to see if you are serious.
4 treat good and she will move mountains
5 treat her like a dog and she will move you. If you know what I mean.
6 women want love and protection from her man.

Well this is want my mates say when we discuss this sort of thing. Maybe its a kiwi thing
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