well this is actually a thread that came off of what i read i Kojack's thread...
he brought up a good point about people flirting in the forums if they're involved with someone and so on, you can read it yourself title "Involved"

then i got to thinking about it since as providence would have it there was a conversation on the phone about this very thing as well...

what is flirting? What is it defined as and is it different for different people?

Of course, I have a definition and explatve, since why not right? We all have opinions, but what is the perception of the knowledgable experts in regards to the concepts of flirtation?

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Flirting is a form of human interaction, usually expressing a sexual or romantic interest in the other person. It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact. It may be one-sided or reciprocated.

The origin of the word flirt is obscure. The Oxford English Dictionary (first edition) associates it with such onomatopoeic words as flit and flick, emphasizing a lack of seriousness; on the other hand, it has been attributed to the old French "Conter fleurette", which means "to (try to) seduce" by the dropping of flower leaves, that is, "to speak sweet nothings". This expression is no longer used in French, but the English gallicism to flirt has made its way and has now become an anglicism.

Flirting is often used as a means of expressing interest and gauging the other person's interest in courtship, which can continue into long term relationships. Alternatively, it may simply be a prelude to casual sex with no continuing relationship.

In other situations, it may be done simply for immediate entertainment, with no intention of developing any further relationship. This type of flirting sometimes faces disapproval from others, either because it can be misinterpreted as more serious, or it may be viewed as "cheating" if the person is already in a romantic relationship with someone else.

People who flirt may speak and act in a way that suggests greater intimacy than is generally considered appropriate to the relationship (or to the amount of time the two people have known each other), without actually saying or doing anything that breaches any serious social norms. One way they accomplish this is to communicate a sense of playfulness or irony. Double entendres, with one meaning more formally appropriate and another more suggestive, may be used.

Flirting may consist of stylized gestures, language, body language, postures, and physiologic signs. Among these, at least in Western society, are:

Eye contact, batting eyelashes, etc.
"Protean" signals, such as touching one's hair
Casual touches; such as a woman gently touching a man's arm during conversation
Smiling suggestively
Winking
Sending notes, poems, or small gifts
Flattery
Online chat, is a common modern tactic as well as other one-on-one and direct messaging services
Footsie, the "feet under the table" practice
Teasing
While some of the subconscious signs are universal across cultures, flirting etiquette varies significantly across cultures which can lead to misunderstandings. There are differences in how closely people should stand (proxemics), how long to hold eye contact, and so forth.
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I personally don't flirt. I'm nice, and playful but i usually cut it short, and quick and move on to more relevant topics in conversation then the amorous... I think that the reason that I've been privileged to meet many of whom I've met here of the fairer sex is due to my forthrightness and lack of overt flirting, or undue representation of intent.

Of course only you each can tell me that based upon your perceptions, though likely I will not change my stance, realizing that each person is going to respond based upon their own triggers and insecurities as well.... also... hell hath seen no fury as a woman scorned... so I'll also take that into account... heh

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so then. Having read the professional copy/paste above? Do you think you are a flirt? Do you think that you fall within these categories? Do you completely disagree with all the world reknowned data and think you have a better way of describing it?

lets see what this thread does :)

and thanks Kojack for that thought provoking little nibble :)

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Sorry I could not resist...

I am a big flirt. I wrote her a poem sent lots of notes yesterday, more than ususal. Talk to her at work via IM or email. Talk every morning as I wake and every night before I close my eyes.

I'm with Teddy on this......flirting is fun!!

hmmmmmmm interesting comment.......

Living,

Any post longer than 5 lines makes my narcolepsy kick in!

Do you really type all that out, or do you copy-paste??

With my definition,... if you are not offended, I reached the purpose of being a cheeky flirt.

hahaha baygurl!!!! My thoughts exactly!!!

Hi Ladies!

Is that being flirtatious?

major flirt, i dont cosider it cheating one bit, hell, i've watched jeff make out with other girls in bars, flirting makes us feel confident and sexy which can in fact HELP a relatiionship that may be feeling a little out of energy because of someone feeling kinda dumpy about themselves.

flirting is good for the sould.......

kinda like instant mac and cheese eaten right out of the pot with a wooden spoon!

bay girl anything in between
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is a copy/paste.
everything else is written by me, sorry to hear about your narcolepsy. did you know a steady diet of reading, and meditation will kill that A.D.D. and A.D.H.D. inflections

oh! and of course you'd have to stay away from about 99% of television as that tends to bring on the "flicker syndrome dysfunction" that rather triggers the "can't keep attention for longer than a 60 second commercial" ....

:D

Hmm...maybe you should stick to flirting??

I am kidding!

Naaaaaaaaaaaah, you need to work on that kidatheart70. How about add more emoticons to it

heh sorry ... i was distracted by hiphop abs lolololol

gigantuous tatas will do that to you....

I was blinded by the light!

Thank God for flirting. It's the only thing I'm good at!
Wait a minute....

no tatas... just the "diet of all the junk food you normally eat and still have great hip hop abs"

i am stunned that they actually said that on national television as "medically supported"

geez...