Who cares what others think! The important thing is for you to be comfortable with whatever emotions come about.

Exactamundo.

@ Regularfeller to true mate life is to short for been petty take care mate all the best to ya

So you've discovered that you got feelings, that's great. Welcome to the human family

Not suggesting anyone should feel "shame" for emotions. That is way far away with feeling something is a mistake or will make people react to you in a way that is not your best interest. Strong emotions usually make people in casual situations uncomfortable. You don't know someone you don't know how to react. Creates and awkward moment that is not always going to go well for you.

If I go on a date with a guy and he is all broke down by a sad movie then it feels more like I have a date that came with a job; making him feel better that he watched this upsetting movie. If I feel he is seeking "mothering" that is a major turn off.

I don't know how others handle being a helping professional and dating but if someone right out of the box puts me in a situation that they have and emotional need I feel like I am On Duty rather than on a date and I usually write that person off as looking for freebie counseling and selfish. I think it is something akin to taking a mechanic on a date when your care is held together with bailing wire and you have a slow leak in your tire.


That is ok if you go in willingly. I know a date that brought me a lot closer to someone was a movie date where the movie was about Cancer. We were building a relationship and he told me this was and issue in his life and he wanted to see it but was not sure what his reaction would be. And yea he cried, and I was upset also, but cool with it because I knew going in. But knowing each other we both knew our comfort levels for public displays of emotion and we both ducked out and had a long conversation and a more private intimate moment.

As so often is true in dating timing is everything.

Whad he say??

Fortunately we're all different, just be around people who find your way of expressing yourself comfortable.