Personally I think many go way too far asking personal questions way too early but a gentleman and a lady will relay basic facts like name and some kind of reference point/person, usually an address, so you can at least be careful about not telling a criminal too much info. I would not get in a car or go to a place with someone who I had not done a minimal background check on. I would verify they are single since I sure don't need a wife or kids involved. I would certainly expect it of anyone who wanted to date me as a relative stranger.

I would find it outrageous if someone demanded my work information because I sure don't need some looney calling me at work and risking my employment. I can see general conversation about career but just tacky how some think they are entitled to a financial statement and everything down to your shoe size. I would expect any man in that situation to respectfully excuse himself and never call again. That said most legit guys will at least say something that makes it clear they are employeed one way or another as a matter of building trust after a couple of dates.

One thing that would make me drop some relationship like a hot rock would be them driving by and verifying when I am where. That kind of paranoia/stalkerish balogne would but them in the Frog Prince Association Hall Of Fame for sure. lol

I'd like to respond to this but I'm gonna have to see your tax records for the past seven years before formulating my response

There is a proper time and place for all questions. Truth be told I have kind of given up on the whole question and answer game. When you have spent 10years with someone, known them for 25years and they throw you a curve ball so far off base that you question what you have spent your whole life believing, a 60min date, a 6week fling, even a 6month relationship hardly holds much water in the establishing who we are and what does all this mean business. Just go with it and enjoy life is beginning to be my new motto.

I hate that!

if the first date feels more like an interview, instead of casual conversation I'm out, i owe them nothing, and they owe me nothing, if they tell me their name is wilma Flintstone, thats fine, if I like them enough to go on consecutive dates hopefully they would open up as the relationship progressed and they realized that we could begin to trust each other

hahahahahahahahahahaha you might have something she wanted Hahahahahaha
This is funny.

I'm sorry if you felt violated.

Hi....my name is Wilma.....Wilma Flintstone....

I don't know.

I never experienced an interrogation as if I was a liar and cheat.

Maybe it's just you.

What do you do, what happens on your dates, that their brains/thoughts focus on wanting to interrogate you as if you're a liar and cheat?

Hi I'm Moby, moby di...you know

Well hello Mr. Moby..........got any good stories to tell

Waaaaiiiiittttt a darn minute.

Why IS there an indentation around your married ring finger as if you just took off a ring before the date?

Answer that first, bubby, and then we'll consider the rest of it.

Frankly, I've found that when lots of people are suspicious of the same person like this, it's for a real good reason.

Asking?! Honestly, isn't "Asking", Obsolete when one can do a complete background check with a modicum of computer savvy?
I mean, isn't it a bit absurd to think that a cyberspace scammer, catfish, lier, cheater, or fraud will provide an honest answer to any questions regarding his/her character or motive[s]?!