Have been lied to by them all but I feel like I need someone here for me...are they all liars? I didn't get much attention from my mother so I thrive for a woman to be there for me people say "just stop" it's not that easy... I put my trust into someone and they just break me down or I let my guard down and they shoot me down however you want to put it...want something real what should I do where should I look what should I look for ....Young&Lost

Spend time observing a potential girlfriend first. if it is possible in this cyber age. :)
It is better to be patient and looking than be involved and hurt.
Know what qualities you are looking for in a gf first too before you get involved.
Good luck

Indeed you are young & lost.
All i can advise you is be a Man,.not a p***y. Most females prefer a Man & the day you naturally become a man within your inner self will be the time you attract a lot of females.
I speak from experience. I was Young & lost too at one point too



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Broken at 18??? Wait 'til you're 45...

young and lost: yes, most are all liars... get used to it, you have a long time to learn about who to trust... and listen to the people, your young and don't need to be so serious with a woman right now... go have fun, and make them pissed at you for a while

I would suggest that you work on your for awhile maybe?
get yourself involved at school, work and find a good group of friends
maybe strike up a conversation with a girl you have gotten to know

So? People lie. Everyone lies. We have industries based on lying.
Hollywood. Lingerie. Makeup. Sex enhancement and hair transplants.
Politics.

Have you been learning how to spot lies?
How to stand up and say to someone "you're lying" and confront them?
That's more important than feeling pity about someone lying to you.


People are willing to be there for you.
Just not necessarily when you want them to be, how you want them to be, and singing about how wonderful it is to be needed by you.


To some extent, yes. In many cases people don't even realize they are lying because society has a ton of built in lies, part of the social contract. e.g. don't ask, don't tell.


Doesn't matter.
If you got a lot of attention from your mother you'd probably be on here saying "I had an overbearing mother."
There is no perfect mother. All mothers messed up their kids. All parents mess up their kids.
You want a guaranteed PhD? Go into a psychology program and write another dissertation on how to blame problems on the mother.


That's life for you.
If it wasn't your relationship it would be your parents, siblings, teachers, employers, friends.
No matter what you do you are going to be screwed over by someone at some point.
There is no utopia hiding under any rocks.

Life is a constant boxing match against everyone.
You learn to take a punch, you learn to throw a punch, you toughen up and build muscles.
If you find a relationship then you are either teaming up against others, sometimes sparring with each other, or looking to be someones whipping dog, a pet living on emotional scraps that justifies you feeling sorry for yourself.
You ultimately get to choose which you want to be, and there are pros and cons to any choice you make.


Learn. Get smarter. Make choices for yourself rather than asking people to tell you what to do.
Decide if you want to give up and be a victim or if you want to keep pushing yourself, getting hurt, getting back up, and get stronger.


Everywhere with which you can directly interact.


Self knowledge.