So a month ago, I met this REALLY great guy on here. Of course, I think thatlike most people you get a little skeptical about online dating especially when the person you are talking to is in another state and it just seems to good to be true.

First let me start off by saying that, within the first couple of days of becoming a member on this site, I recieved a lot of messages from men who were looking for "sponsors" or "supporters", either to leave their Country of origin or what have you. I have never had to deal with this before and I started to become suspicious of this website in general.I had 2 guys in West Africa "fall in love with me" after 2 texts and then asked me for money. But then I met this guy who after several messages and then texts, really started to tug at my heart and I thought, well maybe there is finally someone out there that is worth some of my time after all.

He has all the qualities that I was looking for and well beyonf handsome. 2 weeks into our budding "romance" he mentions to me that he has a part time business and wants to come and meet me but needs me to take his inventory and he will send me the money to cover it, I just need to western union the money to the supplier. (For obvious reasons I am not disclosing what the inventory was as I dont want to put pressure on him on this website, but it is all legal). When the merchadise arrived, there would be a gift for me and then he would come and get the merchandise from me. I told him how uncomfortable this all made me and he tried to persuade me. Finally he told me that if i didnt want to do it, it was fine. So after a weird couple of days the conversations went back to normal. The feelings started heating up, but then 2 weeks later he advised me that due to his current work, he needed my help again, and I was to recieve money via an online bank and then forward this money to someone else. NOW nowhere in any of this, am I to put money in. BUT I am seeing the big red flags and the word SCAM!!! flashing. Again, the premise behind this is so that we can see each other sooner rather than later.

again conversed about how uncomfortable this made me feel and I just didnt understand that how I was to help him, when there had to be other people that could do this, after all we never met; our phone calls were very short, no facetime or skype and no regular selfies, just one really nice pic of him emailed to me. Now his field of work has me believing that this could be the reason as to why I dont get theses, but there are other guys I have met on here and I get salfies all the time and what appear to be normal conversations. Our conversations will go on for about 20-30 mins and then end. Then back on again.

Now, he isnt really talking to me, because I finally put my foot down and said that if we are gonna meet it is gonna be on my terms and in a way that I am comfortable with. Now he says that he doesnt feel as though there never really was much trust between us. he says that he messaged me because he truly believed that I was a good, honest, decent and trusting person (and i am) and that I could be someone that he could see spending the rest of his life with me. Dont get me wrong, I feel the same way and staring at his picture just makes me melt in ways I have never felt before. But what I need help with is I am afraid that this guy could've been the real deal and I wasnt patient enough and I may have lost him forever. For that I am rather sad over. But there is this spread of suspicion over me as well 1. due to previous encounters when I first joined and 2. how does someone tell you they care for you so deeply after a short while, but yet make you feel guilty for not helping?

AM I THE VICTIM OF A SCAM ARTIST OR WAS I NOT BEING TRUST WORTHY ENOUGH?

Any thoughts from other people would be great, cause I am not sure if I should just walk away and keep on searching or if I should try and be forgiven and make this work?

dude he is scamming you.. they are everywhere...... would you ask somebody.. to do this for you if you just met them..? ..
get rid of him.... now I have a really good investment for you..lol..

Definitely a SCAM.

man all I did was skim read this and know it's a scam


that is a manipulator darling

friggin run!

Your narrative leaves me thinking that you are being manipulated by someone that understands subtlety and psychology.

The advice I would offer is that our instincts exist to protect us and that can only happen if we listen to'em. You appear to have a pretty good 'radar.' This doesn't sound to me like a situation where you should squelch that signal.

Best o'luck. Keep your peepers open.

of course it's a scam...

omg, just don't send money to anyone... doesn't matter what they say, just don't...

I believe he's a scammer. Go with your gut feeling. He should not be trying to make you feel guilty. Good luck.

Scammer

be sure to report him to the mods, use the report button on his emails, and don't say his name here

better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all?(more like a fool and his money are soon parted)

there are plenty of men on this site who have traveled to meet with women they met on this site ON THEIR OWN DIME. if he can afford a computer, internet service, and a camera to send you a selfie, then he should be able to afford a bus ticket to go see you

if you have extra cash, don't send it to him. tell him you'll travel to meet him. plan a mini-vacation to where he's at, and make sure you have plan b arraignments just in case the guy runs into unexpected "trouble" and doesn't meet with you

i guarantee i guarantee that basing a decision on emotions is usually the worst kind of way to make a decision. enjoy mingling

(bulldog double guarantee - patent pending)

i know your new to this, and i'm not being a d-head here, but what does your common sense tell you?

like ese says, don't let your emotions dictate your actions...

Thanks everyone,

Sometimes you just need to get some unbiased objectives. Of course family and friends are all on your side. I said all of the same things to myself. I NEVER ever sent any money and I am alot smarter than most people think. But there is a part of me that feels he is real. But I am walking away. Thanks to everyone. I will also report him to the Mod.

Thank you for coming and sharing it helps many others.
Listen to what the ones above have said because their advice have helped me
These people are true friends with a real concern for others.
Take care my friend. Don't go off this site when they ask you to.

Goodluck & hopefully you will find someone genuine in the future!

All I can say is Run !!! Forest !!! Run!!!
and sorry this happen you are now a bit wiser

Please listen to me!
NEVER send money to people you haven't met in person.
Never trust someone easily.
Plenty of catfish on all dating sites.

even the blind could see that this is a SCAM!

I would never send money to anyone. The plan was to go see him this summer, but he pushed twice with ideas and twice I resisted (pat on the back?) Now I guess, as one of my friedly minglers said is that he not only was trying to get me involved in money, but was also playing psychological "warfare" and in a way I want to retaliate. Even though I am a caring guy, I feel that this guy stole from me. And I know an eye for an eye is not the right thing to do, but I am angry. How do you just say goodbye to someone like this after you have shared so much with the person.... your personal thoughts fears and experiences.

Its all been said...^^^^^, but let me add, for all the blatantly obvious scammers out there...there are some that are wicked smart and masters of emotional trickery....

because you are a caring guy, people will use that against you like this... sad, but true...