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Topic: People who do not respond to messages
jenac1966 Joined Mon 03/23/15 Posts: 104	Wed 04/01/15 05:38 PM
Just wondering if anyone else considers this rude. I mean I can understand if they do not log on every day, but I have gotten messages from guys wanting to know why I did not respond to them two seconds after they message me so they do not seem to understand how things work, but when I make an initial contact saying I would like to get to know you or something along those lines, I think it would be considerate of them to at least respond instead of totally ignoring me

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Wed 04/01/15 05:41 PM
Sweetheart, I get tons of messages. If I responded to each one, I would never leave my seat. Plus, the men sometimes get nasty if you outright tell them you're not interested. I let my silence be their message. Silence = not interested.

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Wed 04/01/15 05:41 PM
Nope not rude. No response means they're not interested. Many people have responded back to people they aren't interested in to tell them they're not interested, and get rudeness in return. So I don't blame them for no longer responding unless it's someone they want to continue contact with.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48926	Wed 04/01/15 05:47 PM
Just wondering if anyone else considers this rude. I mean I can understand if they do not log on every day, but I have gotten messages from guys wanting to know why I did not respond to them two seconds after they message me so they do not seem to understand how things work, but when I make an initial contact saying I would like to get to know you or something along those lines, I think it would be considerate of them to at least respond instead of totally ignoring me Uh, nobody is obligated to reply to a message sent by a complete stranger.

stan_147 Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 3441	Wed 04/01/15 05:48 PM
No response is a response.

eric22t Joined Wed 08/13/14 Posts: 27928	Wed 04/01/15 05:49 PM
jen it works that way in both directions. lamw there is a HUGE difference between his and hers inboxes. his are usually barren, while hers are overloaded. torgo i have even received those. but even in a bar in real life i get a nothanks and that's preferable to us "real" guys

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Wed 04/01/15 05:52 PM
I wouldn't generalize. Not all women's inboxes are overloaded and some men get tons of messages.

eric22t Joined Wed 08/13/14 Posts: 27928	Wed 04/01/15 05:56 PM
shall we take a poll? i think the generalization is apt. is it all encompassing ? no but definitely weighted in that direction. so i can understand response overload.

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Wed 04/01/15 05:59 PM
All right, start a topic, take a poll.

bashajones Joined Fri 08/08/14 Posts: 7943	Wed 04/01/15 06:00 PM
I don't reply to messages, and I don't care what anyone thinks about it.

eric22t Joined Wed 08/13/14 Posts: 27928	Wed 04/01/15 06:01 PM
if this tech challenged neanderthal can figure out how but not tonight ( it's past time for me to turn into a pumpkin) remind me tomorrw

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Wed 04/01/15 06:03 PM
I usually respond nicely the first time of thank you but not thank you..After that I don't even open them. they will slide off in 30 days.

bashajones Joined Fri 08/08/14 Posts: 7943	Wed 04/01/15 06:03 PM
if this tech challenged neanderthal can figure out how but not tonight ( it's past time for me to turn into a pumpkin) remind me tomorrw You turn into a pumpkin every night?...Sounds fun!...

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Wed 04/01/15 06:04 PM
Anyone want to start a topic about whether or not your inbox is overloaded or barren here? I would start one but I don't want to come off as a show off.

eric22t Joined Wed 08/13/14 Posts: 27928	Wed 04/01/15 06:04 PM
that's why you never see me hide your keys

bashajones Joined Fri 08/08/14 Posts: 7943	Wed 04/01/15 06:06 PM
that's why you never see me hide your keys

SassyEuro Joined Wed 03/11/15 Posts: 1000	Wed 04/01/15 06:18 PM
I don't reply to messages, and I don't care what anyone thinks about it. Me either. Most are incredibly rude w/ no introduction. They don't read the profiles. So why bother, being polite? If they do have manners, then I usually end up saying " I'm sorry, I don't think we are a match. Hope you find what you are looking for & God Bless"

tta1128 Joined Sun 12/14/14 Posts: 514	Wed 04/01/15 06:27 PM
I wouldn't say I'm overwhelmed by messages but I do get a couple dozen a day. I respond maybe to one and that's because they sound like they are real. Mostly it's a thank you blah blah. I don't say I'm not interested, of which usually I'm not. But if they message back I don't respond and as said before not responding = a response....I'm not interested. I don't think it's rude.

catinidaho Joined Fri 10/24/14 Posts: 10687	Wed 04/01/15 06:41 PM
Is "Hi" a message.?

craigstevens11 Joined Sun 03/15/15 Posts: 113	Wed 04/01/15 07:12 PM
It's VERY rude..but thats how people are in todays world!!! No respect No manners out for themselves...Making their parents proud...based on alot of the responses on here...most dont have enough sense to blow their nose...oh well... waste of time..