I am basically new to this dating site and to be honest, I have been out of the dating scene for more than 20 yrs. My comment is I have noticed that there are a lot of men who are widowed and are pretty young. I've also noticed that there are a lot of military men. Your comments are welcomed. I'd like to understand. Thank you

most likely they are scammers........if they are widowed and are military.....a lot of them say engineers as well

This site is rife with Scammers. They are groups of people who are often from Nigeria, sorry all you genuine Nigerians, who you will soon get to recognise by these things...
Their english is bad, they dont construct sentences very well.
They will say they are widowed for sympathy.
They will tell you they are from anywhere but where they are from and then say they are 'deployed', 'contracting' or 'working' in Nigeria or where there bank account is.
They do not answer your questions.
They always say 'godfearing' we dont use that terminology.
Any more questions, just ask...

I do not know. I noticed that as well, lots of men on here who are young widowers and lots too at the military. The widower ones who wrote me were kind of scary because they were so pushy and saying they knew I was the right one mystically. Now unles I want to have a harem of men, which is legal in some countries and might be interesting, there is just one me, so I was very sceptical.

I get the following

the 19 year old widow
the super model from a small mid western town
the 47 year old full time student
the people who list their home as Alaska and NYC
The ones who start the comment off with " I go by the name of".. but they are supposedly born and raised Americans.
The one's who list their race as native American.. but the photo is of a black woman

Outstanding you are honest

Other words such as-know you better
read back from you
Pretty, Dear
The last three I received are posing as a member and make reference to scammers, no scammers, no fake profiles in their profile they have made up to throw people off.

am genuine widower aged 67 6 in family not all scammers

Welcome to mingle.

I see you have already placed limits as to who may mail you. That's a good start.

The rest is to learn by reading the forums. Yes, it will take some time to do this. It will be worth your time if you are really willing to invest the time. You will find a thread about this topic and many others related to it. Just look, read and learn.

And you will see most of the people posting here are real and genuine.

I hope that everyone keeps an open mind and don't assume everyone who says they are a widow is a scammer. Use your own common sense. I look at their grammar and how sincere they sound. No talk of sex. As far as military people, I avoid, but it has to do with personal experience, not because I think they are scammers or not who they say they are. As always, each person should be treated as an individual.

I don't think anyone is saying that all widowers are fake.. but when you see a abundance of widows in the 19-22 year old range. well.. that 9 out of 10 times.. is scammer. If you see widowers in older age brackets.. that does not send up the red flag.

I could count on one hand how many of the military posters I saw were actually in the military.. the rest.. scammers.

They ruin it for the legit ones.. but scammers pull at the heartstrings.. its their angle in

Well that's a scary thought an im new to this just kind of seeing what this site is all about getting pretty discourged to be honest related with this reply

solid and informative thread, thanks to those who posted.

Wow! I didn't expect so many responses! Thanks everyone. I have already had 2 military guys, widowed, ask for phones, shoes, money, clothes. I immediately block them. But what threw the flag is that they instantly love me! I cannot tell you the # of men who love me after a few chats. Do I think I look like a model? Not hardly but I keep telling these guys they like not love. Anyway I have also noticed the choppy grammar yet they are American. I'm a very honest, to the point woman and was honest on my profile. I can't believe the liars on here. But o have to remember that I'm new at this. Thanks everyone!

I was scared too but just be careful

Yes they have all used all of those sweet nothings! I would tell them to slow down!

We are all here to offer advice...
Take care and good luck.....
And keep blocking...

I'm hoping this is true. I'm new here and learning!

Same here. Scary.

i have met the same type of guys too on here scammers.