I identify as pansexual, since this site only allows you to choose woman seeking woman or woman seeking man not both how do you pick?

I look for a connection with another person their gender, outside appearances etc. isn't an issue for me.

Do I just swap between both preferences?

What do others do?

you did right, post in the forums that it doesn't matter...
but i guess they need a bisexual tag...

Welcome and good luck....
Boy you are gonna get some interesting mail....

lol.. India servers are getting ready

Haha thanks ppl but general consensus is just good luck lol?

I can't speak on pansexual because I am only looking for females but I would set your mail filters for both men and women and in your profile write up state you are open to both. Welcome and best wishes to you.

Hello Lauren.
I see that you have noted in your profile your preference.
I hope you participate in the forums. I would like to learn more about how you cope with being a single parent as I am one also.

Forgive me if I'm misunderstanding your comment but to be clear I am and was born female. Pansexual is an off shoot of bisexuality, I find personally attractive not gender and am open to a relationship with all identities.

Being a parent can be hard work. Being a single parent can be harder. I hope to participate in the forums as information from others is always helpful. I may be even able to help others with my experiences.

I know I can "Google" it and all, but what is pansexual? Is that a fancy word for saying that you're sexuality is fluid?

Yes you got it!
I don't like labels normally but since I was specifically asking a question that relates to liking more than one gender I thought it might help explain my question.

My sexuality is fluid.

I get it, you're a "people" person. :P

I'm strictly heterosexual, but I have had times where I've thought about changing my gender, but still being attracted to women.

I no longer have any desires to change my gender. I think there were underlying issues that had to do with that, and they seem to have been resolved. I'm in treatment, not for gender or sexuality issues, but for other issues.

I think for me it wasn't really that I wanted to be a woman, but there were issues that manifested in a way in which I interpreted them as the desire to change my gender, identity, and entire world and life.

When I was a child I was sexually abused by an older woman. I sometimes wondered if that had anything to do with my desire to change my gender. I also tend to be attracted to older women, and wonder if my childhood experiences have anything to do with that.

I've only ever shared my abuse a very few times. It's not something that I can really talk, although I don't feel the experience was really negative for me at time. I was too young to know what was really happening, and my memories are pretty vague, but I do remember certain parts very clearly.

I'm just sharing my own personal experience. I don't necessarily feel that those with bisexual, gay, fluid sexualities suffer from mental and/or emotional issues, although of course some do just as some heterosexuals suffer such issues.

I just flip a quarter.. heads its heads.
tails ..well you know..lol

"" LGBPTTQQIIAA+: any combination of
letters attempting to represent all the
identities in the queer community,
this near-exhaustive one (but not
exhaustive) represents Lesbian, Gay,
Bisexual, Pansexual, Transgender,
Transsexual, Queer, Questioning,
Intersex, Intergender, Asexual, Ally
Advocate: a person who actively
works to end intolerance, educate
others, and support social equity for a
group
Ally: a straight person who supports
queer people
Androgyny: (1) a gender expression
that has elements of both masculinity
and femininity; (2) occasionally used
in place of “intersex” to describe a
person with both female and male
anatomy
Androsexual/Androphilic: attracted
to males, men, and/or masculinity
Asexual: a person who generally does
not experience sexual attraction (or
very little) to any group of people
Bigender: a person who fluctuates
between traditionally “woman” and
“man” gender-based behavior and
identities, identifying with both
genders (and sometimes a third
gender)
Binary Gender: a traditional and
outdated view of gender, limiting
possibilities to “man” and “woman”
Binary Sex: a traditional and
outdated view of sex, limiting
possibilities to “female” or “male”
Biological sex: the physical anatomy
and gendered hormones one is born
with, generally described as male,
female, or intersex, and often
confused with gender
Bisexual: a person who experiences
sexual, romantic, physical, and/or
spiritual attraction to people of their
own gender as well as another
gender; often confused for and used in
place of “pansexual”
Cisgender: a description for a person
whose gender identity, gender
expression, and biological sex all
align (e.g., man, masculine, and male)
Cis-man: a person who identifies as a
man, presents himself masculinely,
and has male biological sex, often
referred to as simply “man”
Cis-woman: a person who identifies
as a woman, presents herself
femininely, and has female biological
sex, often referred to as simply
“woman”
Closeted: a person who is keeping
their sexuality or gender identity a
secret from many (or any) people, and
has yet to “come out of the closet”
Coming Out: the process of revealing
your sexuality or gender identity to
individuals in your life; often
incorrectly thought to be a one-time
event, this is a lifelong and sometimes
daily process; not to be confused with
“outing”
Cross-dressing: wearing clothing that
conflicts with the traditional gender
expression of your sex and gender
identity (e.g., a man wearing a
dress) for any one of many reasons,
including relaxation, fun, and sexual
gratification; often conflated with
transsexuality
Drag King: a person who consciously
performs “masculinity,” usually in a
show or theatre setting, presenting an
exaggerated form of masculine
expression, often times done by a
woman; often confused with
“transsexual” or “transvestite”
Drag Queen: a person who
consciously performs “femininity,”
usually in a show or theatre setting,
presenting an exaggerated form of
feminine expression, often times done
by a man; often confused with
“transsexual” or “transvestite”
Dyke: a derogatory slang term used
for lesbian women; reclaimed by
many lesbian women as a symbol of
pride and used as an in-group term
Faggot: a derogatory slang term used
for gay men; reclaimed by many gay
men as a symbol of pride and used as
an in-group term
Female: a person with a specific set
of sexual anatomy (e.g., 46,XX
phenotype, vagina, ovaries, uterus,
breasts, higher levels of estrogen, fine
body hair) pursuant to this label
Fluid(ity): generally with another
term attached, like gender-fluid or
fluid-sexuality, fluid(ity) describes an
identity that is a fluctuating mix of
the options available (e.g., man and
woman, gay and straight); not to be
confused with “transitioning”
FTM/MTF: a person who has
undergone medical treatments to
change their biological sex
( F emale T o Male,
or Male T o Female), often times to
align it with their gender
identity; often confused with “trans-
man”/”trans-woman”
Gay: a term used to describe a man
who is attracted to men, but often
used and embraced by women to
describe their same-sex relationships
as well
Gender Expression: the external
display of gender, through a
combination of dress, demeanor,
social behavior, and other factors,
generally measured on a scale of
masculinity and femininity
Gender Identity: the internal
perception of an individual’s gender,
and how they label themselves
Genderless: a person who does not
identify with any gender
Genderqueer: (1) a blanket term used
to describe people whose gender falls
outside of the gender binary; (2) a
person who identifies as both a man
and a woman, or as neither a man
nor a woman; often used in exchange
with “transgender”
Gynesexual/Gynephilic: attracted to
females, women, and/or femininity
Hermaphrodite: an outdated medical
term used to describe someone who is
intersex; not used today as it is
considered to be medically
stigmatizing, and also misleading as it
means a person who is 100%
male and female, a biological
impossibility for humans
Heterosexism: behavior that grants
preferential treatment to heterosexual
people, reinforces the idea that
heterosexuality is somehow better or
more “right” than queerness, or
ignores/doesn’t address queerness as
existing
Heterosexual: a medical definition
for a person who is attracted to
someone with the other gender (or,
literally, biological sex) than they
have; often referred to as “straight”
Homophobia: fear, anger, intolerance,
resentment, or discomfort with queer
people, often focused inwardly as one
begins to question their own sexuality
Homosexual: a medical definition for
a person who is attracted to someone
with the same gender (or, literally,
biological sex) they have, this is
considered an offensive/stigmatizing
term by many members of the queer
community; often used incorrectly in
place of “lesbian” or “gay”
Hypersex(ual/-ity): a sexual
attraction with intensity bordering on
insatiability or addiction; recently
dismissed as a non-medical condition
by the American Psychiatric
Association when it was proposed to
be included in the Diagnostic and
Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders
version 5.
Intersex: a person with a set of
sexual anatomy that doesn’t fit within
the labels of female or male (e.g.,
47,XXY phenotype, uterus, and penis)
Male: a person with a specific set of
sexual anatomy (e.g., 46,XY
phenotype, penis, testis, higher levels
of testosterone, coarse body hair,
facial hair) pursuant to this label
Outing [someone]: when someone
reveals another person’s sexuality or
gender identity to an individual or
group, often without the person’s
consent or approval; not to be
confused with “coming out”
Pansexual: a person who experiences
sexual, romantic, physical, and/or
spiritual attraction for members of all
gender identities/expressions
Queer: (1) historically, this was a
derogatory slang term used to identify
LGBTQ+ people; (2) a term that has
been embraced and reclaimed by the
LGBTQ+ community as a symbol of
pride, representing all individuals
who fall out of the gender and
sexuality “norms”
Questioning: the process of exploring
one’s own sexual orientation,
investigating influences that may
come from their family, religious
upbringing, and internal motivations
Same Gender Loving (SGL): a phrase
coined by the African American/Black
queer communities used as an
alternative for “gay” and “lesbian” by
people who may see those as terms of
the White queer community
Sexual Orientation: the type of
sexual, romantic, physical, and/or
spiritual attraction one feels for
others, often labeled based on the
gender relationship between the
person and the people they are
attracted to; often mistakenly referred
to as “sexual preference”
Sexual Preference: (1) generally
when this term is used, it is being
mistakenly interchanged with “sexual
orientation,” creating an illusion that
one has a choice (or “preference”) in
who they are attracted to; (2) the
types of sexual intercourse,
stimulation, and gratification one
likes to receive and participate in
Skoliosexual: attracted to
genderqueer and transsexual people
and expressions (people who aren’t
identified as cisgender)
Straight: a man or woman who is
attracted to people of the other
binary gender than themselves; often
referred to as “heterosexual”
Third Gender: (1) a person who does
not identify with the traditional
genders of “man” or “woman,” but
identifies with another gender; (2) the
gender category available in societies
that recognize three or more genders
Transgender: a blanket term used to
describe all people who are not
cisgender; occasionally used as
“transgendered” but the “ed” is
misleading, as it implies something
happened to the person to make them
transgender, which is not the case
Transitioning: a term used to describe
the process of moving from one sex/
gender to another, sometimes this is
done by hormone or surgical
treatments
Transsexual : a person whose gender
identity is the binary opposite of their
biological sex, who may undergo
medical treatments to change their
biological sex, often times to align it
with their gender identity, or they
may live their lives as the opposite
sex; often confused with “trans-
man”/”trans-woman”
Transvestite: a person who dresses as
the binary opposite gender expression
(“cross-dresses”) for any one of many
reasons, including relaxation, fun,
and sexual gratification; often called a
“cross-dresser,” and often confused
with “transsexual”
Trans-man: a person who was
assigned a female sex at birth, but
identifies as a man; often confused
with “transsexual man” or “FTM”
Trans-woman: a person who was
assigned a male sex at birth, but
identifies as a woman; often confused
with “transsexual woman” or “MTF”
Two-Spirit: a term traditionally used
by Native American people to
recognize individuals who possess
qualities or fulfill roles of both
genders""
http://itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2013/01/a-comprehensive-list-of-lgbtq-term-definitions/

I need a class...

Hmm.. I think somebody needs to get a hobby..^^^..lol.. just kidding man..
.. my eyeballs are bleeding..

No worrys brother! Gotta have the terminology down pat these days!

.. ain't that the truth..
.... everything has to be politically correct.... because [God forbid ]we offend anybody..lol

Oh noooooo! You said "God forbid", the SJWs (Social Justice Warriors) are on to ya now! Hide!

is pansexuality same as bisexuality ?