Hhhmmm...how tough! I understand how tough it must have been.

But then, I have come to understand very clearly from the Bible and from life's experiences that the path to heaven is indeed (as the Bible has said) very narrow. Think about the pain of finding your way through an extremely narrow road; that would explain to you why we have to battle through so much. Very consoling however is the Bible verse that says, "those who endure to the end shall be saved".

Please pardon me to say some additional things - I think that if all your wife wanted was to get free to continue to do what she wanted, nothing would have stopped her from walking out/away from you and the children.

True forgiveness is one that makes it possible to endure what looks impossible to endure. Sometimes we think and assume that we have forgiven but deep inside, hurt/pain/regret remain. These pains/hurt/regrets are indicative that forgiveness has not taken its full course. Sometimes, the power to forgive totally and completely does not lie in us as human beings (depending on the degree of hurt we have been subjected to) and God's expectation is for us to turn to HIM and tell HIM this and ask for HIS grace to take over and to make forgiveness take its full course.

My biological/older brother and his wife at a point in my life ganged up together to hurt me so terribly - beyond what I can explain to you. I knew that as a Christian, I must forgive and I kept saying I had forgiven but inside me, pain remained. I had to get down on my knees to pray for me! I would get onto the floor in my house (when alone), roll all over the floor while at the same time crying with agonizing tears, and telling God that I lacked the inner strength to forgive these terrible things that had been done to me and that I did not want to go to hell because of un-forgiveness...that unless HE intervened, I was helpless.

God heard that cry of helplessness and did intervene. I no longer think about them or what they did to me with pain. God's grace took over from where I had reached the end of the road as a human being.

Please take this matter to God and DO NOT shut your mind about reconciling with your wife.

Again thank you. I firmly believe my daily prayers send the power and wisdom of god into my life. I try and do the possible things,I leave the impossible to him! "reconcilliation" with my wife is the impossible,at this time as she married recently. I respect, and relate to every word,and emotion in your reply! You have my heart felt prayers,l truly have felt your "agony" you ooze strength and courage! I can tell you I have inwardly forgiven all, I could not function if not. No matter how narrow my path I will walk it,with as little complaint as possible from me to my god..you see I know he wold not ask me to do something unless he knew I could do or get through it,alone or with help. He supplies me with enough grace to get by day to day. Inner wounds that don't heal as we all know,only fester into anger, I truly say not in my case!

I think it is good that (from your writing) you understand the implications of everything.

The bible says that with God, all things are possible and also that nothing is too hard for HIM.

God bless you. Amen.

I admire your selflessness very soon your daughters will understand your plight. That your 9 years effort was out of pure love. Keep on keeping on and be of good courage. The best is yet to come!

Jesus said you will be Hated by ALL Men for my name sake. Remember Paul in 1-Corinthians 15:19=If in this life we have HOPE in Christ, we are of ALL Men Most Miserable.

Remember it was also Paul who also Rejoiced in Trials, Tribulations, and when He was Persecuted. Do you know why Paul did that? Paul did that because Paul KNOW that SUFFERING Created Strength, and it also Created Rewards BOTH in this Life, and in the Life to Come=Eternal Life. So Rejoice, and Humble your self, and in due time God will Exalt you/Lift you up Brother.

Peace to you ALL.

Kurt from Rice Lake, WI.

Thank you for sharing. That was very well said Sister.

Kurt.

Handy53,

Seriously, if you don't know that ALL THINGS are Possible with God then you Truly don't know God or His Power. He is ALL in ALL. Read Mark 10:27, and Luke 18:27. You need to find your Faith in God or you will NEVER KNOW Him. I speak from experience making the SAME Faithless errors. I know them when I see them Brother.

Hebrews 11:6=But without Faith it is Impossible to please Him: For He that Cometh to God "MUST BELIEVE" that He is, andthat He is a REWARDER
of them that Diligently SEEK Him.

Find your Faith, and there you will find your Wife also. If it is God's Will. If it is NOT then know you need to except it. But don't you dare even think of Divorcing Her or giving Her a Divorce if she wants it. Stay True to the Faith/Word of Truth.

Peace to you ALL.

Kurt in Rice Lake.

You may not of read it, but he said she has remarried. So they are already divorced.

Handy53 The past is past, you can have regrets, but now is the time to move on.
Children rarely disown parents for withholding information that would hurt them. Is there more to this than what you are saying?

Handy,

When will you realize that as Christians we are required to Suffer in this life. Please call me at 262-705-6638, and I will give you a bunch of Scriptures on Suffering. Or Email me at: kurtrschwab@yahoo.com

Here are a couple good ones on Suffering: James5:10, and 1-Peter 1:11.

Please understand that we are required to Suffer as Jesus Suffered.

Peace to you all.

Kurt in Christ Jesus.