Still new at it but had a successful venting this morning. I probably used too many expletitives; My voice got a little too loud but I remained calm throughout the whole thing and I didn't have to shake violently or bawl afterwards. It was like I just puked up all the anger and felt immediate satisfaction so that I was back to my normal serene state and even smiled. The nurse was understanding and asked me who I was mad at. She told me to calm down and not to let the residents hear all of my cussing. I didn't feel the usual embarrassment at myself for being angry or having human emotions and feelings. Had I had more experience with venting it probably would have came up better but I didn't have to go into a rage. It was very helpful that she took me serious and was there for me. I even laughed with her after it was over. It stills feels kind of weird but I sure felt better afterwards. I am just wondering if there is an art to venting.

speaking softly and carry a big stick

may I borrow a vent ? ((its a personal thing no art just do it !))


thanks for the vent ..it helped .....

Having true friends that understand the need to vent and still will speak to you afterwards.

agree

Could not have said it better myself, John.

It really felt like an exorcism of sort. She assured me that I wasn't crazy and that she took me serious. I overdramatized badly when I assured the nurse that I didn't need this other's person attitude that I already had an attitude of my own. What was cool was that I felt trust; Felt that she took me serious and I didn't make a complete ass of myself like I usually do. I just couldn't control the anger any more and it had to go somewheres. In the past I would just bottle it up until I exploded but the venting seemed a more humane way of dealing with it. I was happy that I didn't take my anger out on a resident or some innocent bystander. I can see why it is good to have a friend to do it with.

I need some help, raking the gum leafs from my front garden, are you up for it? haha

Don't let stuff get to ya, then ya don't need to vent. It's always better to solve the problem than to complain about it.

Great advice freeonthree, i totally agree with you!

Note to self: Don't let the stuff get to you. Thanks. I will add it to the note of don't worry be happy.

Hey, that is cool. I am glad that is working for you.

When you realize, the only thing you can change in this world is self, it gets even easier!

I can sure agree with that.

Hill...

Everyone needs to vent from time to time. I am glad that you handled yourself better this time. Taking it out on a patient is NEVER good. You should be proud of yourself.

LOOK OUT! IT's GONNA GO OFF ANY MINUTE NOW!!

tick tick tick...

LOL, Slowhand.

Puffins, I do feel proud. The first time I encountered a similiar anger with a resident she was about 90 something years old. I was told to get her up. Well she didn't want to get up and she made that apparent to me. It was like it was my job to get her up. It was like how dare my job doesn't want to cooperate. The resident I found out thought I was her ex-husband. Evidently they must have had some words in the past. The cool thing about venting is that I can own my own anger and get it unmixed up from who I am angry with. After that first anger I had with that old lady I got the nurse's permission to just walk out the door till the Alzheimer return to some kind of normalcy. That day I just had dealt with too many Alzheimers.

John is right, having the right support and friends around when you vent, can actually diffuse your venting and make you realize that it is just a vent.