We all have our laundry lists of what really needs to be filled when we search for a possible match. It would be interesting to see what is important to different people when they are looking for a mate. (For this post shall we say unattached (single, widowed, divorced etc.) is a given.)

no games..total honesty..passion...hmmmmm i'll keep the list short :)

yer only as good as your word

adj are you saying you want me to post the priority list? Well here goes

These are in order as best I could but some have equal priority.

#1. Christian (This should cover a lot of ground)
#2 Female who was never divorced.
#3 Nonsmoker
#4 Thinks Marriage is meant to be permanent bonding of two equals until death. For better or worse.
#5 Wants (our) kids.(absolute Min 6)
#6 Should be in her 20’s. +- 2 years (Part of wanting a large family all our own)
#7 Starting in the relationship light enough to carry.(I know big girls have hearts too – had a big GF once myself)
#8 Must like rural life.

Deal Makers:

Shared interests, passions, and purpose
Honesty, commitment, love of life, laughter
A man of his word who operates with honor & integrity
Willing to be true life partners in all things, great & small
Kind, caring, sensative and romantic as hell!

Deal Breakers:

Don't lie, cheat or steal (basic 10 commandment stuff!)
Poor communication skills
Negative, defeatist attitude about life
Controlling or manipulative behavior
Interfering mother-in-law!

A ward of advice. If anyone ever hears the the wards, I don't know a few times in the short time you know someone. Time to go!

no i'm saying if yer word is not up to snuff

then to me neither are you

and basically that is what it boils down to

Shadow can you explain bc there are a lot of things that I haven't completely "thought through" Does that make me a bad catch for some well deserving gal?

Ok john, from my experience from trying to get to know someone mainly females.What I have run into is the wards "I don't know" it happens alot. It could be as asking a simple question like after knowing them for a little bit and you ask to meet. OM, I don't know. asking for there phone number. I don't know etc etc. But then there is just a normal conversation trying to get to know them a little bit and trying to find things about them. I get this i don't know.

What it all comes down to. Is a couple things that I found out to be true. first one is, they have someone on the back burner. the next is, They don't trust any man so there confused on how far they will be willing to go as far as letting someone get close to them. The one big one that I found out. Is trying to get to know someone that lives long distance from you. So the I don't know poors on alot and that is because they are not sure if they can handle that type of commitment. So knowing they relly might like you. instead of saying I can't handle this. They will say "I don't know"

So, the I don't know part is what keeps some people hangen on thinking that there is a way around that and there is not if you hear it alot.

Keepers:
Honesty
Intelligence
Passion
Warmth
Affection
Drive
Determination
A poetic soul
Understanding and acceptance of my chosen path
Loyalty
Faithful
Sense of humor


Deal Breakers:
Lying
Cheating
Abuse(verbal,emotional and physical)
Constant negative attitude

Shadow's right John..

an abusive nutbag or a cheater really frost my cupcakes.if you dont like my children or family your gone.other than that ,i'm flexible.

honest and open
sincere
devotion
willing to spend quality time
put the family 1st
respect
someone who will be faithful

john, ya know some people have no choice but a divorce to get themselves out of a bad situation. (I.E. abuse, neglect, cheating. ect.)

thanks lilwabbit...coming from an abusive marriage standpoint, it sort of surprises me to see how many people have such a bad social stigma attached to women who had no choice but to get a divorce...

my husband's cheated on me many different times throughout our relationship. and he gets more abusive as it goes along. we have 3 kids, but i think it's better for me and the kids if we split. that way it cant get any worse, i dont have to deal with the heartache and pain and the kids don't have to grow up feeling the hostility or bad feelings between us. some people just dont show their true colors until you're "stuck" in the situation. sometimes it's just what's best. divorce doesn't always mean people just gave up. sometimes you gotta do it to save yourself

I hear ya sista!!!!