You're 18 (or 19 or 20...) and you're still a CHILD. Okay, legally/technically you're an adult. But realistically, you still have so much growing up to do. You're not yet the person you will one day blossom into. Serious relationships are for the birds at your age. You don't need to be weighed down by feeling some unnecessary obligation towards another human being. WHY ARE YOU ON A DATING SITE?

You have only just graduated from High School... (go to college). You must still have friends there. Go get a part-time job and do some traveling (no time like the present- it gets harder as you get older).

I'm asking honestly: what is the purpose/situation where someone your age feels like a dating site has anything you may want?

Also, stop messaging me. You're closer to my kid's age than mine. And that's just creepy.

Very well put
They seem to all think the same.....no morals is their strong suit....

First of all, you're an attractive woman, so you can't blame them for trying right? ;) Secondly, with the internet being at our finger tips and social media, etc. now a days its only natural that they would venture to dating sites as well to seek out others to socialize with and possibly have a relationship with. Basically its just the changing of the times.

Don't buy it.

They seek socialization. So go OUT OF YOUR MOM'S HOUSE and socialize. The times are changing in the worst way possible.

Have goals! Go be amazing!

I have baggage, including a wack-job ex-husband, a gazillion dollars in student loans, PTA drama, and like, responsibilities, dude.

I don't think its more to do with being an "ADULT or GROWN UP"...we all simply have the same needs and wants despite age and clearly those needs and wants we cant simply find in our everyday lifes - so therefore "dating sites or whatever sites" are made for that purpose, which brings us all here :)

and ''kids'' is a baby, toddler, infant a year/term not to describe 18.19 and 20 year olds - just to clarify that for you as you seem to have used the wrong terminology for "US"

we are here to see how u oldies act

Well thank you for clarifying.

One thing you can learn (medo05), is that you will change a lot between now, and say, 30.

Julie, If the term "kid" bothers you, you're really focusing too much on semantics. Physiologically speaking, parts of your brain (important parts at that) are still not completely developed yet.

This is a topic for discussion that I'm sort of boggled by, no need for offense.

believe me MOMMY i won't stay single for 30's and start to look for my partner on a dating site
if t happens then it clearly proves that i had no life but now is the age for dating sites cuz am planning to marry at 22-25, i dont want to end my life living alone or having an old wife and look like a grandpa to ma kids instead of a young energetic father

I apologize, I think that's my reason as u seem curious to why we're on here, I know not all have the same answer but that is mine.

Yeah, I don't have time for the youngins either, but I've always dated women older than me.

I have student loans and debt from medical bills and responsibilities too. I don't have kids or any issues with any exes, but I take care of myself as well. At our age its kind of a given and if someone isnt on that same level with us, why bother.

mate that was very inappropriate.

though I wish you all the best of "finding your wife"

Ouch Medo! Was that necessary?

Karma's a b*tch, ya know. Be nice.

I'm not saying you shouldn't be dating. You TOTALLY SHOULD! Have a blast with it!! But... I guess I associate dating sites with people looking for a long-term, serious relationship in situations where it may not be convenient/ideal.

So, maybe I'm wrong, but you being so quick-to-temper isn't really going to help your cause, is it?

i was just being sarcastic cuz i find oldies here on this site hate on us (teenagers) so much as if we are their enemies
anyhow what i meant is that like normally a stable family should be (mother, father, kids) right?? i want to have that good family at a younger age so that there will be no BIG age difference between me and my kids thts my point.

it gets worse than 18-19 year olds.i've ran in to quite a few profiles that might have their age as in their 20's but have it written in their profile saying they're only 14-16.i report atleast one every day to the mods

I understand where you're coming from and many are here for that, some just want friends, others just want some strange.

to me "developing" doesn't come from thin air, nothing develops in a blink of an eye or a snap of a finger. it happens when one discovers about whats out there, whats really life. even if it means going on dating sites (as this is the main topic). we do things that develops the brain.

Julie, I suppose it really just is a"sign of the times". When I was your age

(Pause-- DID I JUST SAY THAT?!?)

ahem... it USED to be that these type of sites were pretty taboo unless you were older. But then, we had AOL chatrooms... which while not so overt, could be argued to have had the same overall purpose...

Anyways, I appreciate your input ma dear (I guess I'll just own the 'old woman' image)!

I was using the more literal sense of development. I think it was 25-ish (don't quote me) that is the age when your decision-making part of the brain is fully 'wrinkled' lol. Scientists/doctors agree that until then, a person has not reached the full capacity to make decisions that adequately weigh all factors.

Maybe pre-frontal cortex.... brb. "Google is thy friend!"

Youre only 2 years older than me, you're still young. lol

there you go, finally spilled the beans. "long term?" hmm I cant say I am at that stage esp age in my life to be settling down anytime soon, got waaay to much to look forward too in life.

though dating sites are for "long term" (I say this all in a non-temper way)I may just have to respectfully disagree with you on that.