Wowza ! Wee bit of angst and anger goin on in that .. very good write.

No anger at all actually mate.Just sadness regarding the human condition.We are all afflicted. To get bored of another person is a horrid thing but it seems as if it is a natural progression.Now that I am older and a little wiser,I am less inclined to be led by my mind.It gives us all of these loved up chemicals with someone and then takes them away.So you search for reasons.You blame yourself and eachother.Because it must be someones fault right?Alas no. Now I am questioning whether it is healthy to allow yourself to fall in love only to do battle with the loss of the euphoria again.Inevitable. Love is tricksy. I would like to be able to love more people without jealousy playing a part. Why should we have to lose out on the euphoria if that is the best bit? Lots of questions and no clear answers.That is why I write this boll.ks.

No anger at all actually mate.Just sadness regarding the human condition.We are all afflicted. To get bored of another person is a horrid thing but it seems as if it is a natural progression.Now that I am older and a little wiser,I am less inclined to be led by my mind.It gives us all of these loved up chemicals with someone and then takes them away.So you search for reasons.You blame yourself and eachother.Because it must be someones fault right?Alas no. Now I am questioning whether it is healthy to allow yourself to fall in love only to do battle with the loss of the euphoria again.Inevitable. Love is tricksy. I would like to be able to love more people without jealousy playing a part. Why should we have to lose out on the euphoria if that is the best bit? Lots of questions and no clear answers.That is why I write this boll.ks.

No anger at all actually mate.Just sadness regarding the human condition.We are all afflicted. To get bored of another person is a horrid thing but it seems as if it is a natural progression.Now that I am older and a little wiser,I am less inclined to be led by my mind.It gives us all of these loved up chemicals with someone and then takes them away.So you search for reasons.You blame yourself and eachother.Because it must be someones fault right?Alas no. Now I am questioning whether it is healthy to allow yourself to fall in love only to do battle with the loss of the euphoria again.Inevitable. Love is tricksy. I would like to be able to love more people without jealousy playing a part. Why should we have to lose out on the euphoria if that is the best bit? Lots of questions and no clear answers.That is why I write this boll.ks.

But aren't there worse things than losing the euphoria of those initial stages and isn't the real point to embrace this time for the glorious event that it is by staying in the moment and being brave enough to deal with the consequences not matter what happens later?...Just thinking out loud Brug...Your writes do that to me!...

Ah leigh, so bubbly... Even in the down times...

Nice picture young lady...Always nice to put a face with.....well, you know ...Yes, that was some very big talk from me, but crossing the halfway point in your life will do that to you....I take the good stuff when I get it and I do it without fear or regret...I love wearing my big girl panties!...

No anger at all actually mate.Just sadness regarding the human condition.We are all afflicted. To get bored of another person is a horrid thing but it seems as if it is a natural progression.Now that I am older and a little wiser,I am less inclined to be led by my mind.It gives us all of these loved up chemicals with someone and then takes them away.So you search for reasons.You blame yourself and eachother.Because it must be someones fault right?Alas no. Now I am questioning whether it is healthy to allow yourself to fall in love only to do battle with the loss of the euphoria again.Inevitable. Love is tricksy. I would like to be able to love more people without jealousy playing a part. Why should we have to lose out on the euphoria if that is the best bit? Lots of questions and no clear answers.That is why I write this boll.ks.

That^^^pretty much covers it folks....Thanks Sunshine Muffin!

Younger man!*wags finger*
Don't ya know
"Drug pushin'brain" is infatuation
And love? an ebb 'N' flow
As sure as the Scottish tides
She needs to come and go
Love has many layers
Don't you know?
It can take a whole life time
To grow and grow and grow

Sure the brain cuts you off..
to put you in stride
That's the human condition..
that keeps us alive
We can't sustain that pace very long
She'll start getting fat
And I....a sore dong
Yes it does make us tired and lazy
If the brain didn't cut us off
We'd be all pushin'daisies.

You remind me so much of myself with the soul searching.
I remember finding myself at the library some years ago searching for answers.
To understand that the transition is normal but noboby is really educated and thinks they fell out of love.

The pattern I ran into was the female wanting you, begging you, crying for you
And then...as soon as I'm there it seems they're going the other way. (Landing stage) leaving you both to believe there is something wrong? There's someone else? Did they/you fall out of love?does she have surface love, she's a lier, the only thing a woman wants is what she can't F___n' have! She play with my emotions.
I think "Drug pushing brain isn't fooling us but confusing us as we have been ill prepared in the past.Don't chase the high because a house of whores always becomes a house of horrors.
I believe almost always, infactuation can lead to deep love.

Education,preparation,masterbation, strength,patience,and belief.

Cool topic~ very interesting for me.
I have tried to start threads on the subject and thought it would be good but the things I think would be good...people won't engage. So what do I know...well if we start one I'll PM you...or maybe you want to start? You have to post the masterpiece ..BTW-I would like to keep.

I almost did and may start a thread on the Human psyche which could cover this and more as it was based on an observation on
"Rate my profile" as one had requested "female only please" well you could guess what happens.5 guys marching in saying "good luck with that one" Got me thinking
Had he said Men only, not one strait man would have shown up giving him 'what's for'(not that the advice was wrong given by one) reminds me of the old cliche
"The harder you chase the faster they run..The faster you run the harder they chase. (So true)

This could be your answer:

As much as I love sex with past girlfriends,If its with a woman that wants it 3-4 times a day,it's going to be taken for granted unknowingly.one week of that and the "third party" has a mind of his own. This is a temporary condition
And if it's pulled back you want 'HER'
BAD..Real bad.
It's all about how much candy shes dishing out and how much you do
To much sugar doesn't last long and makes a hard crash

Peace <> out

Pony

1. Infatuation.

“OMG, I just met the love of my life.” “He is perfect. I want to marry him.” “I can’t believe we have so much in common.” “He is great in bed.” “I cannot wait to see him again.” “Oh I should eat something. I am going to vomit.”


Oh, the sweet, syrupy stage of infatuation. It's so wonderful and so difficult to resist. Hormones and logic rarely coincide, so we find ourselves doing things like checking email 12-24 times an hour, not eating, going to get our nails done at midnight, buying pajamas to match our bedsheets…

Infatuation makes your dopamine levels soar, producing a full-body euphoria that causes humans to seek out sex again and again. To wit, brain scan studies show that the brain during orgasm is 95 percent the same as the brain on heroin. Your brain cannot, biologically, maintain the high of infatuation: You will fry.

The infatuation will ebb and flow at different points. The sex will not always be that good … it may get better, or it may get worse. But all those lovely feelings of that first initial swim in the cool crisp pond of falling in love: How many movies could we watch about that? Billions. It’s pure poetry. Love magnified; a revisit to the warm womb of security. Then, the negotiation between security and autonomy, that life-long struggle, crawls in and we begin to land.

2. Landing.

The landing from that fantastic flight can be the scariest part. We see things a lot more clearly. There is a great article along the lines of, “The day you wake up and say you have married the wrong person is the day that your marriage truly begins.” Meaning, this is the day where the veil of infatuation has lifted and the 20/20 vision of everyday living comes in. “Wow, she is neurotic.” “OMG, he tells the worst jokes.” “I didn’t think about him at all yesterday. I hope we are okay.”

The landing can be light and sweet, or rocky and discombobulating. But eventually the clock strikes midnight and Cinderella must run home before the stage coach becomes a pumpkin and her dress returns to rags. Landing! Oy, so bittersweet.

3. Burying.

This stage happens when all the to-do lists of life come toppling into the relationship and before you know it, conversations are focused on things like who’s doing the laundry, your boss, or the crazy mother-in-law. During the burying stage, other things — like, oh, life — begin to encroach on your beautiful oasis of a relationship.

Burying is not always bad; it’s a sign that the relationship is real and weaves into your everyday existence. The important thing to remember here is to “unbury” yourselves. Take tango lessons, go relive your first date, go have sex in public, buy some sex toys, tie yourselves up to bedposts, grab the whips … Do something that allows real life to take a break and the gentle, sweet intimacy to resurface, bringing us to the next stage.

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4. Resurfacing.

Resurfacing is the stage where you turn to your partner, and say to yourself, “Wow. I forgot how hot he is,” or “She is stunning,” or “I love him so much.” Resurfacing is the resolution of a relationship: “She is a mixed bag, but so am I.” “He sits on the toilet for an hour reading comics, but I pluck my chin hairs.” And you start thinking things like: “I can’t wait for our next date.” “I can’t believe I have such a sweet person in my life, who always has my back.”

It can be triggered by a massive problem that you two resolved, a great date, an especially good night of sex, almost losing the other person, or good couples therapy. Anything can jolt us awake; maybe a death in the family or even a birth. And then we hit the last stage.

5. Love.

This is what it’s really all about, right? The part where we look across the dinner table, fight over the remote, or go on a great trip to Chinatown and think … “Oh, I have it really good.” “I am blessed.” “I love him/her more than I could ever imagine.” Here, the sex is (usually) better than it has ever been. True love blossoms around year five. The rest is a rotation — sometimes rapid and sometimes slow — of the other stages.

But aren't there worse things than losing the euphoria of those initial stages and isn't the real point to embrace this time for the glorious event that it is by staying in the moment and being brave enough to deal with the consequences not matter what happens later?...Just thinking out loud Brug...Your writes do that to me!...