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Topic: Why is it so difficult to meet a serious guy on here
Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Tue 11/25/14 06:55 PM
I think it'll help if more women would put as much as possible in their profiles what they're looking for,cause the definition of a good man obviously ain't the same to all women,whats garbage to you maybe treasure to someone else,and visa versa,so the more specific and real you are ,the least time should be wasted,if i read someone's profile and I'm not what the describe,as a"good man,"I'd respect that and move on or just say hi anyway and good luck,but there's good men and women that aren't taken!! Well, I have! But that doesn't keep the scammers and players away! They don't respect boundaries or profiles or anything so your suggestion doesn't help there! Sure it does, ,if our profiles match ,then we at least identify what we're looking for and go from there,but you looking for someone rich tall dark and handsome and lives near you ECT,but all of it is not in your profile,and everyone besides that contacts you,then you're going to say oh,there are no more good man out there,and scammers are going to contact you regardless,but also when good men contact you you're going to turn them away or not reply,I'm not saying that's the case with the young lady though!

dcastelmissy Joined Thu 08/01/13 Posts: 39633	Tue 11/25/14 07:04 PM
I think it'll help if more women would put as much as possible in their profiles what they're looking for,cause the definition of a good man obviously ain't the same to all women,whats garbage to you maybe treasure to someone else,and visa versa,so the more specific and real you are ,the least time should be wasted,if i read someone's profile and I'm not what the describe,as a"good man,"I'd respect that and move on or just say hi anyway and good luck,but there's good men and women that aren't taken!! Well, I have! But that doesn't keep the scammers and players away! They don't respect boundaries or profiles or anything so your suggestion doesn't help there! Sure it does, ,if our profiles match ,then we at least identify what we're looking for and go from there,but you looking for someone rich tall dark and handsome and lives near you ECT,but all of it is not in your profile,and everyone besides that contacts you,then you're going to say oh,there are no more good man out there,and scammers are going to contact you regardless,but also when good men contact you you're going to turn them away or not reply,I'm not saying that's the case with the young lady though! But you're saying that's the case with me? Or what? My profile states the type of values I desire, not what a person looks like period!!

mini1x Joined Sat 11/15/14 Posts: 280	Tue 11/25/14 07:06 PM
I'll offer some positive advice. You gotta sift through a lot of dirt to find a gem worth keeping. Nothing's easy in life, everything worth having takes effort to get AND keep. Ok, done with platitudes. Best luck to you.

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Tue 11/25/14 07:07 PM
I think it'll help if more women would put as much as possible in their profiles what they're looking for,cause the definition of a good man obviously ain't the same to all women,whats garbage to you maybe treasure to someone else,and visa versa,so the more specific and real you are ,the least time should be wasted,if i read someone's profile and I'm not what the describe,as a"good man,"I'd respect that and move on or just say hi anyway and good luck,but there's good men and women that aren't taken!! Well, I have! But that doesn't keep the scammers and players away! They don't respect boundaries or profiles or anything so your suggestion doesn't help there! Sure it does, ,if our profiles match ,then we at least identify what we're looking for and go from there,but you looking for someone rich tall dark and handsome and lives near you ECT,but all of it is not in your profile,and everyone besides that contacts you,then you're going to say oh,there are no more good man out there,and scammers are going to contact you regardless,but also when good men contact you you're going to turn them away or not reply,I'm not saying that's the case with the young lady though! But you're saying that's the case with me? Or what? My profile states the type of values I desire, not what a person looks like period!! Lol no not you,I was meaning in general,I've never read your profile,and I think the scammers messed it so bad that sometimes we don't even know who to trust!

dcastelmissy Joined Thu 08/01/13 Posts: 39633	Tue 11/25/14 07:09 PM
I'll offer some positive advice. You gotta sift through a lot of dirt to find a gem worth keeping. Nothing's easy in life, everything worth having takes effort to get AND keep. Ok, done with platitudes. Best luck to you. Well this I totally agree with!! Need to work a lot of coal to get to the true diamonds!

mini1x Joined Sat 11/15/14 Posts: 280	Tue 11/25/14 07:15 PM
I'll offer some positive advice. You gotta sift through a lot of dirt to find a gem worth keeping. Nothing's easy in life, everything worth having takes effort to get AND keep. Ok, done with platitudes. Best luck to you. Well this I totally agree with!! Need to work a lot of coal to get to the true diamonds!

dcastelmissy Joined Thu 08/01/13 Posts: 39633	Tue 11/25/14 07:21 PM
I think it'll help if more women would put as much as possible in their profiles what they're looking for,cause the definition of a good man obviously ain't the same to all women,whats garbage to you maybe treasure to someone else,and visa versa,so the more specific and real you are ,the least time should be wasted,if i read someone's profile and I'm not what the describe,as a"good man,"I'd respect that and move on or just say hi anyway and good luck,but there's good men and women that aren't taken!! Well, I have! But that doesn't keep the scammers and players away! They don't respect boundaries or profiles or anything so your suggestion doesn't help there! Sure it does, ,if our profiles match ,then we at least identify what we're looking for and go from there,but you looking for someone rich tall dark and handsome and lives near you ECT,but all of it is not in your profile,and everyone besides that contacts you,then you're going to say oh,there are no more good man out there,and scammers are going to contact you regardless,but also when good men contact you you're going to turn them away or not reply,I'm not saying that's the case with the young lady though! But you're saying that's the case with me? Or what? My profile states the type of values I desire, not what a person looks like period!! Lol no not you,I was meaning in general,I've never read your profile,and I think the scammers messed it so bad that sometimes we don't even know who to trust! Well yes you're right about that! I'm a quick study when it comes to scammers. Learned very early on, and then I took the sites suggestion to meet people in the forums, which I've done! Made a lot of friends! But there is still not a guarantee all will be genuine and true to self and honest! So caution is still advised regardless. We just need to use wisdom and keen insight to find the diamonds in the fields of coal!

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Tue 11/25/14 07:24 PM
Are all the good guys taken No, I am not taken.

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Tue 11/25/14 07:35 PM
I really love the forums i actually like thw whole site despite the scammers and just fake people hace it all ****ed up,i just wish more people would relize that this aint the only place to find a date,when i listen to some people mingle story it makes me feel.very sad,i uae to feel somewhat like that,not anymore!!

dcastelmissy Joined Thu 08/01/13 Posts: 39633	Tue 11/25/14 07:45 PM Edited by dcastelmissy on Tue 11/25/14 07:49 PM
I really love the forums i actually like thw whole site despite the scammers and just fake people hace it all ****ed up,i just wish more people would relize that this aint the only place to find a date,when i listen to some people mingle story it makes me feel.very sad,i uae to feel somewhat like that,not anymore!! Well I actually felt sad too for some of the stories I've heard and experienced, but overall, I've made lots of really good friends and that has indeed been with it's weight in gold!!

fleta_n_mach Joined Tue 06/24/14 Posts: 3509	Tue 11/25/14 07:46 PM
Are all the good guys taken No, I am not taken. You are an "IT". Not a serious man.

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Tue 11/25/14 07:56 PM
I really love the forums i actually like thw whole site despite the scammers and just fake people hace it all ****ed up,i just wish more people would relize that this aint the only place to find a date,when i listen to some people mingle story it makes me feel.very sad,i uae to feel somewhat like that,not anymore!! Well I actually felt sad too for some of the stories I've heard and experienced, but overall, I've made lots of really good friends and that has indeed been with it's weight in gold!! Lol one the happiest day for me, would be to actually meet some you folks on here that i be talking to every day,i swear,that would feel soo good!

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Tue 11/25/14 08:03 PM
Are all the good guys taken No, I am not taken. You are an "IT". Not a serious man. No, this is an It: I am a Melmacian guy.

fleta_n_mach Joined Tue 06/24/14 Posts: 3509	Tue 11/25/14 08:06 PM
Are all the good guys taken No, I am not taken. You are an "IT". Not a serious man. No, this is an It: I am a Melmacian guy. I thought you were a hermaphrodite melmacian?

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Tue 11/25/14 08:26 PM
Are all the good guys taken There are no good guys. All guys are a..holes. What you should be seeking is a man who doesn't have many guy characteristics. Unfortunately, all men are plagued with guy characteristics, some more than others. Stop chasing shadows and you will find what you seek.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Tue 11/25/14 08:27 PM
I am a Melmacian guy. I thought you were a hermaphrodite melmacian? Bartender, I'll have what she is having.

Jbros4u Joined Fri 07/18/14 Posts: 1	Tue 11/25/14 11:47 PM
there are lots of serious guys here, maybe because you ladies fall victim of the wrong once and never see the good one passing just like me.

mogss Joined Sun 11/23/14 Posts: 3	Wed 11/26/14 12:08 AM
Hey

davidben1 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 6120	Wed 11/26/14 12:10 AM
good guys only date good women... good women only date good guys... blah blah blah... it sure seems readily apparent all who view it as that have a tough time finding who to create with... simply because there is no good or bad... that is just a mentality adopted... there is only a perfect fit for two... and all those who don't fit self are coal, and dirt... damn, harsh cynical bitter views of human beings... no wonder many don't find that endearing... what will one think of another, the moment they do not do as self wishes... dirt and coal and not a gem? perhaps looking at it through the lens of all other as "good or bad" based on if self wish to be with them, be hiding how to find who to CREATE the enjoyment and happiness one wishes to create in life. certainly no happiness for one self or another is going to be able to be created while one is thinking so than feeling so disparagingly about humanity. peace

unknown_romeo Joined Wed 03/26/14 Posts: 7691	Wed 11/26/14 12:13 AM Edited by unknown_romeo on Wed 11/26/14 12:25 AM
There are no good guys. All guys are a..holes. What you should be seeking is a man who doesn't have many guy characteristics. Unfortunately, all men are plagued with guy characteristics, some more than others. Stop chasing shadows and you will find what you seek. ......said the naked man to the fully dressed nun....