does love is incomplete with out sex?

what do you think, opie?

Yes

damn!

every dude will try to prove this one a yes!

hehehe...

yeppers...

that'll bring a lots more sex sex sex proving this one true!

smiles

does love exist without sex ?? most definitely to many times we put more emphases on sex then the exploration of the true value of a person , their heart mind and soul which tome is a priceless treasure to explore and discover for life . when you see a older couple on a park bench holding hands and kissing is it about sex ??? no !! but there journey in life together , through all the diversity and trials of life together . when we look out of selfish narcissistic eyes view a woman or a man for more then a sexual encounter you truly discover the person you wish to fall in love with . many people are afraid to make love because it demands involvement of the heart and soul and a commitment of an unselfish connection sex is all about release , making love is about a joining of two souls discovering exploring the inner most intimate parts of your passion and libido few yet need to discover (erotic ) where the satisfaction of each person is a true commitment not just one. you wish to be disconnected , shallow empty , and selfish ?? this is sex !! you wish for a more full filling experience where it touch every avenues of your heart and soul exploring not the just the body but one's heart and soul , then make love . "like tricks are for kids " so is sex !! when we were teenagers exploring for our first time , when you become a man and a woman its about its a more rare and pleasurable experience taking one's time with foreplay exploring the body all of it looking into their eyes , a kiss that makes you explode from within , a touch with fingers that drives your passion out of control , one lips and tongue exploring your endless libido !!! making love leaves a lasting connection for weeks even months ,even years , sex is a heat of a moment !!then disappears !!! why are we afraid of making love ??? it requires exposure, being vulnerable , emptying of one's self , not a power thing or control , but a freedom without limits or time your lost within that person why time seems to stop when your truly making love to a partner , and an endless lesson taught very time you make love is a different experience !! ...................

dudes got true heartfelt game.

they don't have a smiley with one tipping his top hat, but they need one!

picky picky picky

doe sentence make sense is with out grammar?

I think sex is not the true love its lust

why in all life

Ummm I have never had sex with someone I didn't love

true manhood versus boyhood.

this one will surely find his pot-o-gold at the beginning of the rainbow.

ditto's

Because to me sex is a very big deal and I won't have sex with someone I don't plan to have a future with so for me love has to come first

will u have a plan to have a future with me

Why We Have Sex




Some of the top-rated videos on porn sites provide the somewhat surprising answer.







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I was sprawled across my bed, utterly wrecked, one morning many years ago. I'd just had amazing amazing phone sex with someone who, to this day, remains the most attachment-avoidant person I've ever met.
"Holy ****," I mumbled, made dreamy by ravishment. "Why was that so...good? We were on the phone."

"People need connection," he said simply. To my surprise, even he had known this, deep in some barely accessible part of his poor love-avoidant heart. And it had been a connection, an intense sexual communion that felt like something real had happened, even though no body parts had been touched or even seen.

This private connection between lovers--This is why we **** each other, even though there are plenty of promiscuous toys, pillows, and shower spouts that can do the job quite well. And, yes, it has to be ****ing (of some sort) because other human interactions--a nice chat in the bank line, for example--just won't do it.

Bearing witness to someone surrendering to their instincts--just being with them in the moment they lose themselves--is powerful. And to find someone you trust enough to fall into that void with them, well, it's a rare and beautiful gift.

On a less sublime level, I think it's also about being present in the Now and existing in a state of Flow, where you are wholly consumed with what you are doing. These are purportedly optimal (and often needlessly Capitalized) states for achieving happiness, inner peace and well-being. (See also: Ekhart Tolle's The Power of Now and Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi's Flow). The orgasm is, like, a bonus to what's really going on.

Caitlin Moran describes this kind of focused-attention-on-another in her book How to Build a Girl about a teenage Brit who transforms herself into a badass music journalist/sexual adventurer:

"Here's the amazing thing about sex: you get a whole person to yourself, for the first time since you were a baby. Someone who is looking at you--just you--and thinking about you, and wanting you...You are in a room with a closed door, and no one else can come through it....It seemed to me that this was the real reason people wanted to **** so much. To get here. To get to this tiny, quiet place where there was nothing else to do but be with each other. Just to be two humans who had--for a short while--stopped wanting."

That idea fits nicely with what I discovered when I looked on PornHub the other day for the Top Rated Video of All Time. It wasn't "***** takes *** in her hair" or whatever I was expecting, but a sweet little clip of a sleepy, tousled-haired woman waking her lover up and giving him a blow job.

This top-rated video--OF ALL TIME!--showed two people portrayed as affectionate, familiar lovers happy to be waking up together in such a nice way. They weren't over-the-top porn excited, but just enjoying the everyday-yet-so-amazing swollen pleasures of taking someone you like in your mouth and/or being taken thus. In the world of porn, this was maybe about the squarest, most vanilla thing ever. And yet it was the most loved...of all time! (For that one day, at least. Today, alas, I can't re-find it. It has been replaced by "Hot blond maid having ****." Top-ratedness is apparently fleeting. )

The point of all this being: sexual connection, in whatever form it takes, is something we all seek, including the millions of surreptitiously wanking users of Porn Hub on that particular day. Even my old friend, dear attachment-avoidant boy, needed this intimacy, albeit from the distance that felt safe to him.

We all need to get this place, however we can--where you get to be two humans who have--for a short while--stopped wanting.

Go find your place.

Hmmm...?.. does online sex count..

porn sites are indeed the superior wisdom when it comes to the human species.

Ahhhh...you're doing it wrong, then.





On a seemingly unrelated side note, I'll bet you're looking for an older woman, huh?

I love my son, my daughter and my dog. No sex with them required.