why dont people reply when you message them it cant be that hard to say sorry not interested

hi. first of all, welcome to mingle and I wish you all the best on your search.

not receiving any reply should be indicative enough that someone's interest isn't mutual.
often I've tried being nice and said thank you but im not searching.
it's never that simple because people feel they are owed an explanation.
some even respond with insults and profanity, which then reminds me why it's easier to just ignore.

In so many reason i think. They might be not interested or they might just be observing of what are the people here. etc...

Do you find yourself getting blocked often? That's the first step to becoming a creeper.

I wouldn't read too much into it. It would be nice if you received a reply from everyone you reached out to, but some people just don't reply.. its not their thing. Most are juggling work, home and who knows what so they don't get to their computers a lot.

I also think, the woman most likely get many more messages then the men and they many not have the time to respond to all or they are just not interested, so they delete them.

thanks for messages but i gey about 1 reply in 20 so disappointing

Mingle rule Nr. 01: No reply is a reply.


Possible reasons for no reply in your case might include:

-Distance
You live too far from and that person doesn' want long distance relationship, an online friendship or an exchange of messages on Mingle, by e-mail, phone etc.

-Age
Some people have age limits, while some don't mind dating ten or more years younger or older persons

-Marital status: separated
Some perceive it as still not divorced, therefore there is a risk of making up with a spouse in which case they just wasted time

-Looks
Some might not find your looks appealing, so they decided not to reply and waste your time or theirs

-About section of your profile
What you wrote or the way you wrote about yourself may not motivate them to ask any questions, as some people do not want to ask, but to read profiles and follow your posts on forum to get to know you better before deciding whether to contact you or not

-They can be simply too shy or not really ready to meet someone (but they still joined Mingle just to see if there is someone interesting enough to make a move)

etc., etc., etc.

Do not take it too personally and don't let this discourage you. You are who you are and there is nothing wrong with that.

However, you might want to consider telling a bit more about yourself in a profile, rather than inviting potential match to ask you questions.
Is makes some people feel bad, as it puts them into a role of interrogators. Why would they take time to question you? There are many interesting profiles that make an impression and look inviting.

Normally, I wouldn't reply to questions like yours, but you seem to be decent man who deserved to get some answers.

Good luck Mingler!

Be honest, OP. You're writing more than hello or hi, right?

In the real world when you say hello to someone it's a social norm to respond. This is the internet. Two completely different stories.

That too. Many people ignore "hi", "hello", "how are you doing today dear" and similar messages or nudges, kisses etc.

It's a good idea to send a message that shows that you have read this persons profile and have reasons to believe you have some common interests to start a conversation.

Good luck and do not give up.

What is the difference between spam mail and unsolicited private mail from a complete stranger?

Answer: Nothing.

Its similar to a job application.....you send out your CV to a lot of companies and not each of them will respond will they?

This is so true. I stopped replying to mails and being nice because some people are crude/rude. So its better to just ignore.