I'm not exactly new here. I've been here for a little while, but I still feel a little lost. I don't really know how to connect with interesting people.

speak and tell the great and cool you see about all, not caring whether any tell you your great back to you or not, and if then any tell you the same back, you have your self created a human friend equal energy equal place equal mindset, equal mentality connection!

peace

Aim in the same way sometime.....
Is not easy talking online....for me better face to face...so why I like to chat with local people....and meet up for coffee, and talking relax.
But if I meet /chat with real person even from another state..aim okay as long have connection for conversation....I like jokes/teasing...that's help relaxing communication.

I mean, I have conversation skills and I think I can be interesting and tactful, so that's really not the problem. I guess I just don't know how to approach people, and to be frank nobody's really approaching me.

certainly one that does not drop it's line it's honest opinions into the waters will catch no fish and so even sometimes can starve.

Yeah, alright. Thanks.

OP, if you'll cruise around the forums, you'll soon discover there's a LOT of people who "don't really know how to talk to people",


but they don't let that stop them.



Just dive right in!!!

That may be the most helpful thing. I'm trying that, actually. Thanks.

grand great insights!



and you'll find many who think they know better how to talk to people, so will try to tell you how you should speak like them, but then in the end, only what achieves it's own goals, did succeed.

Maybe my problem has more to do with confidence than anything else.

Nahhhh...typically, while online, men prefer women with little or no confidence;


you'd only have a 'problem with confidence' if, as a woman, you WERE sure of yourself and who and what you are, while online.



TRUST me on that one!!!

Actually, when it comes down to it I'm very firm about my needs and boundaries. It's started some "fights" but there's a block button for a reason.

I prefer a woman with confidence, so to say that men prefer one without, is inaccurate. The men your talking about may, or do have control issues.

There is a difference in having confidence and being over confident.

u mention what the whole world secretly desire...

some create confidence by being the FIRST to slander others, hence making them selves feel important, deriving a sense of confidence...

one can achieve it this way...

but it's confidence feelings will only be able to be felt around others who do and are the same as self.

very self limiting, and only polarizing one self to others who have the same delimitation's as one self.

or...

larger overflowing confidence feelings that will never leave one self, in any environment or around any certain type of people, and, will create what one wishes to have for it self into exist, come simply by free acceptance of all ideas as words as equal to one's one, hence, this creates a natural freedom within the mind and body of one self to express one self with confidence uninterrupted and without want to be protected by some authority figure to maintain it confidence.

which creates a natural "free" feeling of free to express one self, somebody long ago somewhere coining this feeling as self confidence.

self as just one cent in a poole of many equal cents make the most money added up.

ditto's

I agree that the kind of men who take issue with confidence are not the ones I'm having trouble approaching because I have no desire to approach them. There are plenty of jerks around, but it's respectable ones I get nervous around because their opinions actually matter.

But that's NOT what I said...nor even what I wrote.


I DID type "typically", "while online", and "little or no"...three very important qualifiers, which change completely what you believe you saw me say...or type.


It is FROM my online and public *conversations* with men, while in the forums, that I'm able to make MY observation, from my point of view.

Is there someone else's point of view you'd like me to use while making my future posts?




My money's on you'll be further assisting me in better proving my point than I was already able to do, all on my own.

Well, that escalated quickly.

I'm *known* for *causing* online "escalations".



It's a talent, really.

what one first believe, it self do create to occur back to it self, than use that for proof, it self was correct in it's first assumption...

there was a letter "E"...

the letter e knew it self was a great letter, many words needing it to be formed...

and so the little letter e did look into a great file cabinet of letters, containing all data on earth, and say to it self, all the files starting with the letter "M", are stupid files as M be not a very smart letter...

was "M" a stupid letter...

stupid be what see stupid as some unstupid did see...

or was M just a different letter of the alphabet than one self...

but since lil e thought M was so stupid, so proved such to it self, to empower it self as wiser and more brilliant, to create more false self confidence, than now e find it must do the same again,v to another letter, than another, to gain it's false self confidence, and soon had declared all other letters but E to be stupid letters and so contain all dumb files...

how much data from the file cabinet did e add to it self to make it self actually smarter...

none.

Apparently, the "scroll" button was created for much the same reason as the "block" button was.