Yeah, apparently. With those lame emoticons.

I ask for clarification when I am not sure what something means. Assumptions can prove wrong, so it's better to ask, then to guess. However, sometimes answers are not honest. People say one thing and do the other. That means they lie for some reason. So, even answers do not always help. It takes time to get to know someone to find out the persons true taught, feelings and motives behind some actions.

Do I really have to be Sherlock Holmes to find a companion online for activities from walking, chat and coffee, going to theatre or movies together etc. in order to avoid unpleasant surprise even on a first meeting? I am not into mind games, but they are not uncommon in a virtual word. They seem to be equally present in both virtual and real world.

One of the Minglers shared a little story on a forum. It was a story about a woman whose heart was broken when she found out the men she loved was married. She walked away. He died in an accident. Sad end, indeed. I am sorry she lost him not once, but twice. First time due to a lie, and second time by the touch of a destiny. I hope time will help her heal. Sharing the story was quite a brave move which points at an inner strength of a person who has chosen to move on.

Calling things the right name is not complicated at all. No one can be both married and single. Married people have spouses, unlike single ones. Friends are friends, not lovers. So if you choose to talk to me, I'd rather hear things called the right name, not the way I see them or define them, but the way we as a society accepted to define them. If you choose to call being married single, because that's how you define your marriage, it means you are manipulating others who do not expect a single person to be married.

I never contacted any married or separated men looking for friendship with women or those for who clearly stated they look for intimate encounters on their profile. So that's an example of how things can be simple and helpful for everyone who joined Mingle to find the right person. Those people wouldn't be right for me and I definitely wouldn't be right for them. This isn't about what I want or what the other person wants, but about what we BOTH want to share with each other, weather it is just a companionship, friendship, intimacy or anything in-between.

I know everything takes time, so it would be unrealistic to expect to become anything to anyone over night, except the one night stand and that's not what activity partner means.

Long story short, I have no problems with what some of the Mingles who have their own definitions of relationships expect and want, but I do have problems with those who try to get what has never been offered. Mail filters can help and so can some other things.

Thank you for the reply. Enjoy your quest!

No, I didn't try to insult you. If you are looking for examples of poor attempts of insults look no further than few pages back on this topic. There are many ways one can make an insult or choose to react on insulting or rude behaviour. I'd rather not waste time on commenting that.
Your business is not any of my business. That is true. But you are probably aware that forums are publicly accessible by anyone, even those people who are not Mingle members. So, you have put it out there, just as I put this topic for anyone to read and make any type of comment.
You may continue to label women of your age as you like. It is not my problem, but it might cause you problems in future. You replied to my question because you have chosen to do so and that's OK. However, there was no need to make assumptions that I, as a woman, made assumptions about you, as a man, based solely on gender and most common stereotypes.
Feeling a bit tired of endless correspondence leading nowhere myself; I can understand your frustrations. I wish both of us, as well as other fellow Minglers the best of luck with our quests.

Well, to be honest, I skipped past most of the posts in this thread and just replied to you. I don't know you. I take it that you're fairly new here but I read a thread and it's that old chestnut about... Well, come on. It's a dating site.

Why do men say that they're looking for a lady to have fun with or whatever? Because they don't want you to think that they're creepy.

Yes, I'm well aware that anything that I post in this forum is a public declaration or disclosure that I'm making. If you knew my posting history on here actually you would know that I've gone on about my girlfriends and sexual history so much that people are tired of hearing about it and I have also stated my opinions many times about how I think that people that want to drag it out with the email correspondences instead of just making a date are time wasters. The last time I stated that opinion Leigh (who is not a man and is a well respected member of this community) agreed with me about that.

As far as what I've said recently about women my own age goes; I am aware that I have ruffled a few feathers but again, I have said many times that I don't look at this forum as a means to meet people. You all live too far away for dating and nobody that does live near me that I have ever chatted with or met bothers with the forums at all.

Anyway, it's late and I have had a long day and I'm sorry if I'm rambling a bit. You were the one though that quoted me from elsewhere about some forty year old that I chatted with on here and it was never my intention to derail your thread and opine about middle aged women here. I don't even know how old you are. I could make an educated guess and I did notice that you viewed my profile a few days ago but I haven't looked at a profile on here for ages.

I think creepy is when perspective date lies on their profile and do not appear anything like what they claim when met in person. Then trust is ruined for anything else they have said. Obviously.

Everyone has their own ways of doing things, so does every Mingler. I would reconsider posting your reply from the other topic if I knew it would lead to ruffling feathers, because I never intended to insult you or anyone else here.
Yes, you are right about one thing. People seem to enjoy correspondence for a looong time and I really didn't come here to make any online friends, but to meet for real.
Just minutes ago I replied to a message, sent a private photo link from my profile and communication has stopped, not by me, but by the person who asked for no mind games in a first e-mail. Funny! LOL Strange world of an online communication. ROFLMAO
So, what to say... it is late, so I wish you to have a nice evening. Enjoy!

setting clocks to daylight savings time.!

Too late! Windows already took care of it.
Sorry, but you will have to think of something else equally exciting.

Oh, I have no any such concerns, having equally "(un)appealing" looks on my photos as in person. One gets used to it. LOL

Now, what I find really creepy is a question do Canadian woman shave during a hockey season. I guess some urban myths are funnier than others.

I think people are confusing activity partner and intimate encounter.

Even if a profile stated "looking for friendship" some people would still read it as "friendship with benefits". IF they bothered to read a profile at all.

No worries. I just didn't get what your point was when you quoted my post from that other thread. I haven't been on here for a while. Had better things to do and I got bored with the trollings of some of the older women that are regulars on here.

I wasn't really insulted by anything that you said. I just expect to be insulted when I go on the internet. The other forum that I go on is a bit dead at the moment though. It's unmoderated and the feminazis and other retards on that site won't post in it because we just chew them up and spit them out.

Hellow There :) .