Topic: Sex before marriage???
green407's photo
Sun 09/28/14 05:05 PM

Is it ok if you get partner, who have shared intimacy with someone else,
Is that affects current relation?


I believe it has an effect. I was raised with the teaching that sex should only be between a husband and wife, and I still believe that.

valtheponytail35's photo
Sun 09/28/14 06:35 PM

I believe it has an effect. I was raised with the teaching that sex should only be between a husband and wife, and I still believe that.


So you were told to live de facto in celibacy till you get someone to marry you?
I'm glad to see a person who doesnt place great importance on sex. Helluva willpower you got there, man. I couldn't live like that.

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Sun 09/28/14 06:59 PM


I believe it has an effect. I was raised with the teaching that sex should only be between a husband and wife, and I still believe that.


So you were told to live de facto in celibacy till you get someone to marry you?
I'm glad to see a person who doesnt place great importance on sex. Helluva willpower you got there, man. I couldn't live like that.


Hmmm... Doesn't this place a HUGE importance on sex??

Yinka83's photo
Sun 09/28/14 07:04 PM


Is it ok if you get partner, who have shared intimacy with someone else,
Is that affects current relation?


I believe it has an effect. I was raised with the teaching that sex should only be between a husband and wife, and I still believe that.

Rock's photo
Sun 09/28/14 08:55 PM
If the sex is great, I might be willing to discuss a relationship.

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Sun 09/28/14 09:18 PM
Being that I would never consider marriage again, therefore, that is all there is for me is "sex before marriage".

Yes, I would hope the other is experienced who's had other partners. If you don't know what your doing, a cougar isn't going to explain it. :tongue:

m3k4y's photo
Sun 09/28/14 09:31 PM
I think most people fall victims to their raging hormones combined with the feeling that they are in love..I believe that sex before marriage s a choice that is yours to make..right or wrong.. people have to do what they think s ryt for them.

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Mon 09/29/14 01:36 AM


Is it ok if you get partner, who have shared intimacy with someone else,
Is that affects current relation?

in regards to a relationship live gets you started. it tajes effort to build the relationship. it takes respect, trust, communication and understanding to keep it going.

this is really a question of your own beliefs and a conversation you should be having with your potential partner.

im always a person who says take me as I am. that means being willing to accept the whole person including flaws and everything. likewise, I look at the whole person.

are you willing to accept all that your potential partner is? are you willing to treat her with respect?





I do hav respect for women of any background..
but what if her past becomes my present?

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Mon 09/29/14 01:39 AM

I think most people fall victims to their raging hormones combined with the feeling that they are in love..I believe that sex before marriage s a choice that is yours to make..right or wrong.. people have to do what they think s ryt for them.


I appreciate

green407's photo
Mon 09/29/14 03:48 AM
Edited by green407 on Mon 09/29/14 04:00 AM



I believe it has an effect. I was raised with the teaching that sex should only be between a husband and wife, and I still believe that.


So you were told to live de facto in celibacy till you get someone to marry you?
I'm glad to see a person who doesnt place great importance on sex. Helluva willpower you got there, man. I couldn't live like that.


Hmmm... Doesn't this place a HUGE importance on sex??


valtheponytail35;

What do you mean was told, I still live a celibate life style, yes I would like to have sex, but I don't foresee it happening anytime soon. yeah willpower, lol.

Happiness2U;

Sure it does, but what is most important on this earth?

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Mon 09/29/14 04:26 AM
your thinkng is nice

nish69's photo
Mon 09/29/14 04:33 AM
are you a virgin?

valtheponytail35's photo
Mon 09/29/14 10:52 AM



I believe it has an effect. I was raised with the teaching that sex should only be between a husband and wife, and I still believe that.


So you were told to live de facto in celibacy till you get someone to marry you?
I'm glad to see a person who doesnt place great importance on sex. Helluva willpower you got there, man. I couldn't live like that.


Hmmm... Doesn't this place a HUGE importance on sex??


Sex is like air. You normally don't put much importance on it... until you're suddenly not getting any.

green407's photo
Mon 09/29/14 11:11 AM




I believe it has an effect. I was raised with the teaching that sex should only be between a husband and wife, and I still believe that.


So you were told to live de facto in celibacy till you get someone to marry you?
I'm glad to see a person who doesnt place great importance on sex. Helluva willpower you got there, man. I couldn't live like that.


Hmmm... Doesn't this place a HUGE importance on sex??


Sex is like air. You normally don't put much importance on it... until you're suddenly not getting any.


you may compare it to air, but I can't. I've been breathing my whole life, but I've never had sex.

valtheponytail35's photo
Mon 09/29/14 11:19 AM

you may compare it to air, but I can't. I've been breathing my whole life, but I've never had sex.


Well, if you feel the man in you slowly suffocating... if it really bothers you, if you can't get your mind off it and whatever you do to distract yourself eventually fails, bringing you back to the sad truth... then you could still compare it to the air.

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Mon 09/29/14 11:45 AM


Is it ok if you get partner, who have shared intimacy with someone else,
Is that affects current relation?


I believe it has an effect. I was raised with the teaching that sex should only be between a husband and wife, and I still believe that.


I totally agree. Happy to know that I am not the only one :angel:

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Mon 09/29/14 12:12 PM
"I believe it has an effect. I was raised with the teaching that sex should only be between a husband and wife, and I still believe that."

Amen, I was ashamed when I had sex before marriage, but it is what it is now, I don't look back, I receive my forgiveness as fast as I'm known to give it.

But Mr.Ponytail, "if it really bothers you, if you can't get your mind off it and whatever you do to distract yourself eventually fails, bringing you back to the sad truth... then you could still compare it to the air." That is why you don't build a foundation on failure, your self-control and will power is found in Jesus Christ alone, along with your confidence, mercy, grace, boldness, power, joy, and eternal life. EVERYTHING in this world fails built upon things that crumble, fade away, and can't sustain, but Jesus Christ NEVER crumbles, NEVER fails, and CAN sustain ALL that is good. Surrender your life to God Val, that IS the ONLY way, it is the only way to defeat ALL addictions PERMANTETLY.



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Mon 09/29/14 12:50 PM
Edited by kingazar on Mon 09/29/14 12:48 PM
Stiill i am virgin honey

valtheponytail35's photo
Mon 09/29/14 01:09 PM
Edited by valtheponytail35 on Mon 09/29/14 01:09 PM

"I believe it has an effect. I was raised with the teaching that sex should only be between a husband and wife, and I still believe that."

Amen, I was ashamed when I had sex before marriage, but it is what it is now, I don't look back, I receive my forgiveness as fast as I'm known to give it.

But Mr.Ponytail, "if it really bothers you, if you can't get your mind off it and whatever you do to distract yourself eventually fails, bringing you back to the sad truth... then you could still compare it to the air." That is why you don't build a foundation on failure, your self-control and will power is found in Jesus Christ alone, along with your confidence, mercy, grace, boldness, power, joy, and eternal life. EVERYTHING in this world fails built upon things that crumble, fade away, and can't sustain, but Jesus Christ NEVER crumbles, NEVER fails, and CAN sustain ALL that is good. Surrender your life to God Val, that IS the ONLY way, it is the only way to defeat ALL addictions PERMANTETLY.

Hmm... should I get a girlfriend or should I get a God instead? Tough choice indeed, what should I do?


I have not problem with self control if it's for the right cause.
Abstinence is NOT the right cause, it's not natural and when servants of god really do give it all up, then THIS happens:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catholic_Church_sexual_abuse_cases
and i can google plenty of links to the news threads of members of other religions having similar scandals.
Quite shameful isn't it?

There is no real chance of you and me having an open and prejudice free conversation because while talking to me you think of only few things such as "how can I prove that he's wrong" or "how can i make him believe". And should i respond with some archeological facts or quotes from Bible that shake your beliefs... you'd just shrug it off as u never heard me.

I have read a fair share of history of Judea and I have also read the Bible through 2 times. Comparing it to actual archeological findings from the Palestine gives a somewhat different picture though. If I could get really bored, I could write you a list of Biblical characters who were involved in sexual immorality while outwardly serving your God. But again I don't believe that this will become a constructive conversation.


green407's photo
Mon 09/29/14 02:48 PM
yeah, we could debate this till the cows come home, but my thought is that it would be; nice, special, romantic to have something that only you and your spouse share with each other.