This is the deal. I have not talked to my ex in a long time. Everytime we have talked in the past it would start a $hit flinging contest. We have not had a decent phone conversation in four months but we did last night. Does anyone have advice on what to do from here. Please help!!!!!!!!!!1

run...there's a reason they're your ex...

If all you two can do is sling it at each other...
Than why do you want to still talk?
Seems to me you both need to go on with your lifes and
possibly find new gf/bf. JMO Goodluck...

It has been over a year. I can't let go have tried. I want to see how far I can get with it

well..

id becareful just b.c the last phone call was decent dont mean their wont be a rumble next time and they are called "exes" for a reason

If your phone cneversations are usually NOT good. One good conversation should not make up for all the one that were terrible. What kind of advise do you need? It seems pretty clear to me. Things didn't work out, do you still want to go back with her? I'm not sure what your looking for....

You know, sometimes letting go is hard. However, what you need to remember about it is that something wonderful (or someone) might be just around the proverbial bend. Don't jump in getting back together. If you want to test the waters, try another phone call. Sometimes people mature, and you might get along now... but that's not usually the case. If you have a lot of good phone calls, and are really getting along, then think about getting back together.
Just remember, don't try to be someone else just to get back together... that's a horrible way to live!

lol first off puffins thats a really cute pic

second it sounds like yes he misses her and did like stuff about her but like everyone is saying one good phone call doesnt make up for all the major fights after while it gets old and you will break up again and it becomes a cycle.

I can't let go. I need advice on how to handle it and get futher in there again, It took me a while to get the phone call I did so I have to do better. Her mom thinks that I can over time convience her overtime that I am still the best choice but the battle will not be an easy one.

ok hun i know you miss her but you gotta be honest with yur self,do you really want to deal with all the arguing again?

if you both cant talk like adults then its best you both go your seperate ways..your putting yur life on hold for a very unstable thing

Yes I have issues with this. It's a self destruct cycle that continues to repeate itself. Crystal is always, always, always in the back of my mind. I'll never be the person I once was, I had vivid imanges that run through my head it's so hard

I'm not going to pretend I'm a genius, but here goes.

She's the ex man, something happened somewhere to make the two of you decide it was done. Does that mean you stop loving her? No. It took me the better part of two years, before I could even talk to that cheating ex girlfriend of mine. But in the end, I still cared about her and after time, we became good friends again. Ohh, we'll never date again, I just can't trust her, but I still enjoy talking to her when I do, which is just about two or three times a year. All things take time and this is no different.

Also, this is just from personal experience and not necessarily fact, if her parents like you, you got no chance. I've never been able to keep anyone who's parents liked me. Don't know why that is, just is.

honestly i was there.i was so on love with my ex we dated on and off for a year he just couldnt fit right

i miss him badly,but i realizedi didnt like the mental cycle of emotions i was going through

so im working on getting him outta my life
yeah i miss him but every day i think about him less and less

i would have loved to spend the rest of my life with him but i knew my happiness and health was more important then being miserable

She stays in my mind. MORE AND MORE SHE DOES NO WRONG IN MY EYES

i understand that..
and thats whats hindering you trying to move on and get over this hurdle..

you honestly can not have a happy healthy realtionship if you argue 99.9% of the time if wears you down and makes you a very unhappy person