A question – Do you ever consider that the limitations you place as the to type of relationship you ultimately want may be limiting your ability to discover that you may want something else?

In other words, if an individual says that they’re looking for something “without mind games” or that they are looking for a “true commitment”, does that possibly persuade them away from all of the experiences that exist outside the periphery of their desire, and potentially limit their chances of finding joy.

Are you looking for something specific? Do you think this enables your ability to find that thing or have you ever questioned whether or not the search for something specific may be giving you tunnel vision, and impeding your ability to find it?

maybe when your young and thinking narrow mineded, butt as you grow older,you know what you want and dont settle for the little boys and girls games any moor,wasting my time with playing kids games is not something on my to do list,in a few years you,ll know what i mean,

In all fairness part of what I'm positing is that if on were to say that he or she is looking for something leading to marriage, doesn't that asphyxiate the very breath of getting to know an individual on their merits as a person rather than the utility that they could serve to you?

Also, why would you think that I couldn't at the very least empathize with your point? I've met individuals of all ages that are consumed with the idea that they have discovered some invaluable knowledge that time itself grants any wisdom, rather than the frequency of experiences.

I merely mean to present the possibility that in looking for something so specific, once again, one's emotional periphery may be lost, as as one would be focusing on such specific desires rather than the very exploratory nature that provided one with such "wisdom" in seeking in the first place.

Here's a picture of some girl in a tunnel to lighten the ambiance -