I want too send my ex and E-mail that will get her attention. It's hard to get her to reply just for example this is the last E-mail I got from her, it will give you an idea of what I'm working with.

Adam,

I'm going to give you some direction nothing more. Because you need it more then anything.

I Heard you lost the suv. I understand why your upset, but think about it on the bright side. atleast your dad gave you the corolla. which is much better on gas more affordable if something happens to it, and just over all a good car. a toyota corolla will last forever, atleast it should. That's why I wanted one so bad. If you recall I even thought about buying that corolla from your dad so trust me it's not that bad. it may not be an suv. but it's still a nice little car.

One thing that is very unattractive about you is how you don't let things go. Girls hate it when a guy just wont let something go. You sending me those emails I understand there sweet and all, but its in the past let it go. not being able to let go drives girls such as myself off. Learn to find constructive ways to kill time.Focus on a goal...(that's what I do)

Another thing that you need to work on is how you constantly need someone.whether it be me the other crystal or a girlfriend or even your parents you always have to have emotional support. Learn to be more independent.**** what everyone else says or thinks you can show them better then you can tell them.

These are some things you need to work on. I have my own problems I need to work on you don't need to send me an email pointing them out this isn't a **** flinging contest.

Crystal


SO WHAT DO YOU ALL THINK ABOUT THIS.

if someone can read between the lines on this one for me it is a hard call to make what is the problem

good luck adam

dont email her back

Here is an E-mail that I have before she sent me that one so I' m getting somewhere. Her mom thinks I can still convince her that I'm still the best choice but she does not think I have what it takes to play the game and win. Here it goes.

I"m writing you because well theres really no nice way of saying it. But I just can't be friends with you anymore. I'm not mad, you havn't said anything to hurt my feelings. I just can't take the emotional rollercoaster you put me on,on a day to day bases. What we have is not a friendship. I just can't take the critisizim, and the constant slams I get from you. It's always something. I just can't do it anymore.

Your emotional instability is causing me to emotionally unstable. You make it difficult for someone to be friend with you.I've tried so hard for so long to make it work and to be there for you. But you can only push a person so far before they just throw their hands up.

Yes I realize what I'm doing, I've done a lot of thinking about this before I typed this message. I'm sure since the other crystal is such a good friend that she will be more then happy to be your only friend.

I've got to make some changes in my life, or I'm bound to fail as well.

I wouldn't write back either...

If you want to get your exes attention this is what you write!!




Yo b!tch!!
What the f!ck??
You feft me you b!tch but my heart still says i wanna f!ck you sometimes!!
Just like you did me you lousy good for nothin peace of sh!t!!!
But i still love you!!
YEP THAT SHOULD DO IT!!!!!!!!!!

Dude I know i'm stupid for saying this but I want her back and I don't think that will do anything but start a $hit flinging contest lol but that's funny though I like

I know its hard not to email her, but don't! When you email her it puts her in control. Let her think you don't care for awhile and then things might be different. Right now she knows your sitting there waiting for her only!

Yea, I did that and it worked. But it's to the point that I have to do something. This has been going on sense last Octber so I have to make some sort of move

adam hun move on its the best for you. if she is the one she will come back.

It sounds like she wants to put you down to justify her own emotions and make herself feel better.

I dated a guy who did that to me for 2 years... sometimes love blinds us to flaws... and sometimes we confuse being belittled with them giving us advice because they care.

I am no relationship expert. I have 2 divorces under my belt... and that's just scratching the surface...

But from an objective viewpoint... I think she's hurting... but she's stubborn. Don't email her. Give her some space. Let her go out and make her mistakes.

If it's meant to be, she'll be back. (Yeah, it sounds cliche... but it's the truth).

I am also a person who doesn't like to be alone... I'm very independent, but I need people- family, friends, etc around me. There is nothing wrong with needing people. This world has become so anti-touch, anti-social... it sucks... and I am contradicting myself, because I am communicating over a computer on an online dating site...lol...

but hopefully you get my point:
Stand on your own two feet. Don't let one girl crush you. (Don't turn into me...).

Yea. I was and still trying to move to Sumter SC that is where she lives now with her mom. Her mom said if I move there it will cost me my happiness and my ex will take it swearing I deserve the lost and she deserves the benfit

Then email her about you NEW girlfriend! Really, that might turn her head. Take it from my experience, no matter how much you love her, this IS the time to be tough!

Also thanks for that advice it helps and means a lot coming in.

man playa you need to replace her.love comes and go, spending time with someone new will make you feel better.replace the girl

if you love them set them free.
if its ment to be its ment to be.
i would move on.

you have ot let go - no matter how hard it is. Can you picture this going on the rest of your life? If htis is how it is now -- it most likely wont change. People think they can change the other person even in sneaky ways but it always back fires.

Let her go!! This is for your own good and no it wont be easy but you have friends and family to help out in those times of needs!!

Hang in there!!

BJ

lol you have every body here telling you, what you should do and how you should leave her a lone etc. There all right.

I had one bad time with a girl in high school and all she wanted to know wss if I still had any feelings for her.

Bottom line it's all about making them feel like the bigger person and you like noting.

Move on and put a block on her email so she can't email you any more unless for some crazy reason you want to read her emails etc.

But again just move on and be with whome ever you choose to be with.

She is not worth your time and every body else here has pointed that out to you here.

Best of luck dude.

Thanks BJ I guess I have too. But without her I don't believe in love nor a happier ever after.

Later
Aj

We can't help who we love, just as we can't force another to love us. All we can do is be someone that can be loved by someone.

Love doesn't come and go. Ya never forget those you truly loved... but LIFE goes on...

It isn't worth the heartache to dwell on what isn't.