The word sexuality has so many different connotations yet directly evolves around our innate need for human contact both physically and emotionally.

How do you define its application in life?

I think intimacy has reached a point that it will never come back from, objectification. Movies have made Love out to be this cliche thing that will never really happen... 2 people have to be in complete agreement that they want each other, you can't just say that you don't like somebody right now and later down the line thing they're actually the love of your life.. it happens.. but it's more likely to get struck by lightning twice, why do I start talking about love? cause sexuality topics don't include it, and an aspect of sex is making love, yes.. you can have meaningless sex and it'll feel the same, but that goes to show that nobody values what its worth anymore, its just a "good time" I can rant about this all day, but I'll just make a quick addition to the "sexual power over others"

"if you do not have sex with me, you don't really love me" the sick twisted method used by both guys AND girls to get their partner to partake in sexual acts to which they do not feel ready for.... if that person needs sex to realize you love them, well.... hmmmmmmm

have a great night.

IMHO, some people absolutely worship sex. So, they define sex as a necessity of personal living.

sex really does not feel the same in the absence of intimacy. But a lot of people seem unwilling to make that investment. Personally, at this point I don;t leave home without it. No intimacy, no sex.

I don;t have any issues regarding my sexuality. I have pretty wholistic views, so I know I could never find intimacy with someone who tries to manipulate me into having sex so that is a red flag. And I know that I could not be intimate with someone who does not regard me as an equal partner. I could not have have sex with someone who forgoes intimacy on a regular basis and has frequent, different partners.

That's my triage :)


also my edit is to say that I could never get involved intimately with anyone from the blood and gore gang. A lot of the non gore/horror threads have been turned into that which is a hijack (and against the rules). it's ruined some really good threads. it's got so bad I 've considered leaving 'cos I am uncomfortable in threads I used to post in all the time. I could never be involved sexually or intimately with anyone who thinks that's normal...eh, just me I guess, But that to me does not belong in a dating site and i don;t think threads should be hijacked with it.

It is a specialized topic that not everyone is going to like.

Sex,sex,sex and MORE sex,ABUSE IT,get it?!

Hmm.. abuse the "hell "out of it..
before you lose it!!.. because when that happens... you'r gonna wish, you really used it...

Hi Slowliving, welcome to Mingle2 and the forums. I hope you don't mind that I checked out your profile because you seem to be so young with such an old soul. And what you say makes a lot of sense.

The way our cultures have changed so drastically since the sexual revolution and media market started advancing quantity over quality it's not surprising that objectification rather than true love is the seemingly acceptable norm these days.

And when I really wrap my head around what you're saying that people can have meaningless sex and nobody values its worth anymore because it's just a good time... that intimacy and love are just cliches... I go like whooooaa... you're right.

In so many ways what we value most in human connection is slipping from our grasp. And once it's gone there's no way to get it back. We dream and fantasize about what we want and are willing to give until our individual needs have to be met. Then it becomes more of a survival of the fittest. Who is more willing to give to get. And when we don't get what we expect we move on to the next and then the next... until sooner or later we could just be running on autopilot, going through the motions.

You're still young yet. And I hope you're best days are still ahead, and you'll be able to find that something special and meaningful that will rock your world.

Thank you for reading and contributing to this topic.

I can always count on you...

Reproduction...I don't really get any gratification from sex because I look at it from this point of view, but I'm a very logical person, mechanical in the way that I look at things.

Foreplay though, I f*ing dig me some foreplay.

^^^^ intellectual foreplay ... yum yum I can really get into a good long mind f***in for sure...

Lost it, trying to find it again.

Umm,did u check under the bed?

Checked, it wasn't there. Guess I shouldn't have misplaced it so flippantly.

Better try and find it soon,time is precious,dont you know you dont go losing stuff like that?Keep looking dude its somwhere there

i dont think my "bean" likes me abusing it. it need gentle rub, every now and then

Sex is great but everyone is different. I used to have meaningless sex, until I was in love with my partner. Then it was the best thing ever! I miss it...oh well now I have sex with my vibrator lmao

vibrator ok. its better than not having it at all. guess im not alone lmao

Agreed!!!!!^^^^^^^

Rawr....

Comes in and gives him a wrap around little
Whisper in his ear...Foreplay time..as I wrap my fist in that hair...

OUCH!!! DAMN IT!!! There's room in here for both of us...