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I finally got the nerve to break up with my bf last night.....He had it coming.....I just couldn't see it going anywhere because he was boring.......
I did it via phone...... So minglers how do you usually break up with a person you aren't into anymore....is it through txt,phone, email, or snail mail........ Or maybe you do it face to face...... |
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A breakup is a breakup, regardless of how it's done...what difference could it possibly make...the end result is the same, don't ya think???
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Actually I'm not sure if you were with a SO for years and you broke up in a text it just might matter......
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I tried to break up with my ex in person but she had to cancel 3 hours before meeting up because she had just woken up
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I just up going around... lol
Honestly, if we are spending enough time together to warrant the title boyfriend and girlfriend, I care enough to tell them face-to-face. I value the integrity of my character enough to be the kind of person that I am looking for in someone else. |
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I just up going around... lol Honestly, if we are spending enough time together to warrant the title boyfriend and girlfriend, I care enough to tell them face-to-face. I value the integrity of my character enough to be the kind of person that I am looking for in someone else. I hear you and that's a valid point but sometimes being face to face is a way for the other to distract you..I guess it depends on the situation... |
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Edited by
no1phD
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Wed 06/25/14 09:51 PM
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.. if we have been together for a long time.. have a lot of history together..
I would want to see you face to face. let you know I still care about you. just not in that way anymore.. .. and perhaps we could sleep together just one more time.. just kidding.. about the other stuff.. not the sleeping together one more .time... .. of course I'm kidding about the sleeping together... |
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it doesn't matter ...if it 's over it's over...I would tell them in the way that suits me best ATM or not at all
my last boyfriend? I simply moved and did not inform him ... |
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I wasn't with this guy for years...it was 3 months so breaking up on the phone is a good avenue....
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Edited by
isaac_dede
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Wed 06/25/14 09:58 PM
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I prefer face-to-face, but it depends on the situation/mental stability of the other person, If I know she is likely to throw a knife at me, or pull out a gun...i would probably opt for phone, I don't think I would ever do it over text/email but I maybe, it again would depend on the situation...
but in order it would be 1st choice face-to-face 2nd phone 3rd Letter(snail mail) 4th text/email I would want someone to tell me face-to-face, I realize breakups happen, and generally both parties are not completely innocent, i would want the respect/insight on things that might have changed the result(but not just specific to her)...that is just to grow as a person ... |
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I just up going around... lol Honestly, if we are spending enough time together to warrant the title boyfriend and girlfriend, I care enough to tell them face-to-face. I value the integrity of my character enough to be the kind of person that I am looking for in someone else. I hear you and that's a valid point but sometimes being face to face is a way for the other to distract you..I guess it depends on the situation... If it is a breakup, it is no longer about pointing the finger at someone else, my mind is usually made up and it is about me telling them that I basically cannot accept whatever it is. It's not their fault for being who they are, some people are simply doing the best they can with what they have to do it with. They do not have the wisdom from some of the experiences that I have experienced as I do not have wisdom from some of the experiences that they have experienced. If we are in a committed relationship, boyfriend and girlfriend, there must have been some kind of mutual attraction to take it to that level. I believe that sometimes, timing is just a little off. During the break up, if I can be completely honest and only talk about my faults throughout the relationship it has been my experience that most are not capable of talking on those types of terms and they will confirm that you have basically made the right decision. Don't look at it as a distraction, look at it as confirmation. |
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it doesn't matter ...if it 's over it's over...I would tell them in the way that suits me best ATM or not at all my last boyfriend? I simply moved and did not inform him ... I was wondering what happened |
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Okay okay, here's what I really do.
I have my mother call and tell them for me. |
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I just up going around... lol Honestly, if we are spending enough time together to warrant the title boyfriend and girlfriend, I care enough to tell them face-to-face. I value the integrity of my character enough to be the kind of person that I am looking for in someone else. I hear you and that's a valid point but sometimes being face to face is a way for the other to distract you..I guess it depends on the situation... If it is a breakup, it is no longer about pointing the finger at someone else, my mind is usually made up and it is about me telling them that I basically cannot accept whatever it is. It's not their fault for being who they are, some people are simply doing the best they can with what they have to do it with. They do not have the wisdom from some of the experiences that I have experienced as I do not have wisdom from some of the experiences that they have experienced. If we are in a committed relationship, boyfriend and girlfriend, there must have been some kind of mutual attraction to take it to that level. I believe that sometimes, timing is just a little off. During the break up, if I can be completely honest and only talk about my faults throughout the relationship it has been my experience that most are not capable of talking on those types of terms and they will confirm that you have basically made the right decision. Don't look at it as a distraction, look at it as confirmation. Dang Thomas preach.....wow that was a pretty fantastic description of a good man with integrity.... |
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I just up going around... lol Honestly, if we are spending enough time together to warrant the title boyfriend and girlfriend, I care enough to tell them face-to-face. I value the integrity of my character enough to be the kind of person that I am looking for in someone else. I hear you and that's a valid point but sometimes being face to face is a way for the other to distract you..I guess it depends on the situation... If it is a breakup, it is no longer about pointing the finger at someone else, my mind is usually made up and it is about me telling them that I basically cannot accept whatever it is. It's not their fault for being who they are, some people are simply doing the best they can with what they have to do it with. They do not have the wisdom from some of the experiences that I have experienced as I do not have wisdom from some of the experiences that they have experienced. If we are in a committed relationship, boyfriend and girlfriend, there must have been some kind of mutual attraction to take it to that level. I believe that sometimes, timing is just a little off. During the break up, if I can be completely honest and only talk about my faults throughout the relationship it has been my experience that most are not capable of talking on those types of terms and they will confirm that you have basically made the right decision. Don't look at it as a distraction, look at it as confirmation. Dang Thomas preach.....wow that was a pretty fantastic description of a good man with integrity.... You caught me being serious for a split second I actually love people more than I lead on (but no need to tell you that) ha ha |
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it doesn't matter ...if it 's over it's over...I would tell them in the way that suits me best ATM or not at all my last boyfriend? I simply moved and did not inform him ... I have done that as well.....that's hard though but freeing.... |
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Okay okay, here's what I really do. I have my mother call and tell them for me. Bad boy..... |
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I just up going around... lol Honestly, if we are spending enough time together to warrant the title boyfriend and girlfriend, I care enough to tell them face-to-face. I value the integrity of my character enough to be the kind of person that I am looking for in someone else. I hear you and that's a valid point but sometimes being face to face is a way for the other to distract you..I guess it depends on the situation... If it is a breakup, it is no longer about pointing the finger at someone else, my mind is usually made up and it is about me telling them that I basically cannot accept whatever it is. It's not their fault for being who they are, some people are simply doing the best they can with what they have to do it with. They do not have the wisdom from some of the experiences that I have experienced as I do not have wisdom from some of the experiences that they have experienced. If we are in a committed relationship, boyfriend and girlfriend, there must have been some kind of mutual attraction to take it to that level. I believe that sometimes, timing is just a little off. During the break up, if I can be completely honest and only talk about my faults throughout the relationship it has been my experience that most are not capable of talking on those types of terms and they will confirm that you have basically made the right decision. Don't look at it as a distraction, look at it as confirmation. Dang Thomas preach.....wow that was a pretty fantastic description of a good man with integrity.... You caught me being serious for a split second I actually love people more than I lead on (but no need to tell you that) ha ha No that's good...that's food for thought......I like it.... |
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Edited by
rebelgeek
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Wed 06/25/14 10:31 PM
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I have my new fling break it to my old partner. Lol, kidding. If it's been a few dates and a relationship hasn't started and I can't see it going anywhere, I will do it over the phone. If we have gotten to the point where we say we're in a relationship, I do it in person whenever possible.
Although, the last relationship I ended was with a girl who was a workaholic. She canceled on me twice when we planned to get together and I was going to break things off, so I ended up doing it over the phone. I felt bad doing it that way, but it was better than to keep indefinitely extending the situation while I waited for her to make time to see me. If she had the time to see me, we wouldn't have broken up, lol. |
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I finally got the nerve to break up with my bf last night.....He had it coming.....I just couldn't see it going anywhere because he was boring....... finally! |
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