today at safeway i couldnt believe my eyes.. at the check out stand my son crawled out of the child belt on the cart (mind you if i tightened it any tighter i would have cut him in half) and had crawled on to the next check stand... if my dad hadent been with me who knows what would have happend...

hes starting to walk to things in the house.. like the tv or nah-nah(grandma) and likes to put his fingers down his throat durring dinner and make himself gag.... he only does that when he wants attention during meal times.... what should i do? how do i keep him in the cart and should i just let him puke to show him its not fun?

My 2 year old does the same thing... Amazing that your 10 month old is already climbing out of carts.. My daughter did this one time and since then I have let her hold something to play with to keep her attention, such as a box of cheezits or whatever is in the cart that won't hurt her, and when the last of the groceries are on the belt, I am in front of my daughter watching her, and let her put the cheezits on the belt herself.. Sometimes it isn't that easy though, because she wants to keep whatever is in her hand...lol..

As far as gagging at the table,I have always been told to ignore bad behavior and it goes away... I found that it is not always true, but what kids are after is your reaction... they feed off of that... if you immediate react to when he does something negative, he is going to keep at it, but if you don't react to it, he will eventually stop... just clean him up like you would if he didn't gag himself.

well see today i thought letting him hold my bottle of strawberry milk would do the trick.. keep his hands off the things in the shelves but he decided to throw it and it exploded all over.... good thing no one was standing next to me... i dont know how in the world he wiggled himself out of the cart.... and thats what i thought about the gag thing.... but i would feel horrible to watch my baby puke.... he had a horrible flu when he was 3 months old and puked all the time and it would come out his nose and it hurt him but i know its not the same but i would feel horrible..... so just ignore it? how long "should" it take for him to grow out of it?

Every child is different... there is no way of telling.. Let him puke a few times and see if he don't stop. If not I would ask his doctor... I am no specialist in children by no means, I just go by what I learn in books and through parenting classes that I took years ago when my oldest was little..

I know it is scary, but I am thinking that if you let him puke maybe he will not like that feeling and won't do it again..
Maybe even taking him away from the table until he is finished might do it... He is aweful young for that though... Tapping him on his hand is a reaction but if nothing else works, I would do it... Like I said, I never had this issue, so I am just giving you some ideas.

thank you so much for your adivice... i'm just wanting to do things right.... need all the answers before my daughter is born..... didnt have time to learn all the tips and secrets .... if you think of any more just email me or something... thank you and good night,,, yawn i'm sleepy

Please don't just go by what I tell you... get advice from others... like I said, I am no expert, and I am not a doctor... Get advice from others here on the site.. They may have some other ideas. I don't think a tap on the hand at 10 months is going to hurt him.. Just don't get mad and smack his hands...

I have learned that when you are upset at a child for doing something wrong, and you go to spank them or whatever, you use more force because you are angry... In parenting classes, I learned to NEVER SPANK A CHILD OUT OF ANGER...

but then if you really sit and think about that statement... if that was the case you wouldn't be spanking them at all...ever...

Here is why:

First of all if you are mad and walk away until you are calmed down in order to spank your child for what him/her did... and you go back to your child and punish them, they forget what they did... My 4 year old is like to this day... He will do something wrong and if I don't punish him, he will forget what he did minutes later because something else grabbed his attention.

You can't spank a child out of anger, and you certainly can't spank a child after the fact because they don't remember what they did... So in that in that case you would never spank... more like talk to them and ask them if they know what they did wrong, and talk to them about why it was wrong...

I am sorry but I believe in spanking your child...I think thats whats wrong with todays youth!! It seems like the younger generation is telling their parents what to do....maybe if they were a little bit more disiplined, they wouldn't be acting that way. You can spank your child, you just have to be in control.

Your baby is only 10 months old...right now you should be using the word NO all the time. Babies do react to the word NO very well. I think the last thing you should give him to keep him sitting in a grocery cart is a glass bottle...give him something that he can't break!

I am with unsure on this. There is nothing wrong with spanking your child. BUT at 10mos thats a bit extreme. Is your youngin cutting a back molar preggers? It sounds like he is. Most times when youngins are shoving their fingers in their mouths like THAT they are teething. NEVER give them glass bottles like unsure is saying as they break and your youngin can get cut. Try running your finger around his gums and feel for some teeth that are more than likely coming thru!
You know what i used to do when at the grocery was take along some baby toy keys or something that jingles I could hand my son. As for climbing out of that baby seat I am not surprised. Just wait until he is about 2 and the todzilla moments hit. RUN LIL MAMA!! RUN!!!.....

Oh don't get me wrong, I do believe in spanking, but not at her sons age... he is too young... later on yes.. and you are right, kids do react to the word no... but not all children react the same way... When I told my son no on different things he would laugh and do it anyways... So its better to be prepared for both...

what I was saying was that if you hit a child when you are mad at them, you tend to use more force than actually meant to use in the first place... Some people don't know self control and that is why so many children get hurt... but spanking is good thing... even though you have these dumb social workers who think that you can't spank your kids... what do they know... they are young and don't have kids... They'll see... but in KY if you spank your child and you are caught or reported, your kids get taken away... I seen it happen to a girl in walmart not to long ago... I watched the whole thing...

My mom and I were in the checkout line and this lady and her child was behind us.. She was about 2 years old maybe 3, and she was wanted one of those push pops candys... well her mom told her no, and she called her mom a "B" and her mom pulled her out of the cart and whipped her but... She was arrested before she walked out of the door at Walmart... Anymore, you can't punish your kids, or you are in trouble, and I agree... that is why kids turn out the way they do... I am not ashamed to say that if my child called me a "B" it wouldn't be their behind that I smacked... thier mouth would get smacked because that is where it came out of...

oh i dont spank my son "yet" lol but i do "love tap" his hand i use a deep voice when i say no, if i dont he just giggles guess my voice is known for the calm and loving words not the big meanie.... and i tried the bringing in the toys but all he does is throw them on the floor and want whats on the shelves. and barbie.... i already know hes cutting his back teeth but he only does it when hes stuck in one spot.... like in his chair or the car seat.... no one is paying attention to him like they do before they start eating.... or driving.... i think its his way of saying look at me touch me love me for heavens sake do something with me....lol he is just like his mama....*or his daddy*

I am with unsure. Spanking is politicly incorrect but needful. My son got his first spanking at 2. Lilpreggers is right in that it should be age appropiate. The little love taps work when they are at the appropiate age. I teach school and watched as the paddle was taken out of the classroom. When that happened, the kids brought the guns in. That is an oversiplification but still has merrit

Well I do work as a cashier at the check out line in the store. The best thing I can tell you is to give the child something to play with that can't be busted easily(not something with liquid). Maybe a favorite stuffed toy from home or a favorite blanket. I've noticed that the children that have something like that to occupy them won't be as tempted to climb out of the cart for whatever reason.

all is true.... but toys dont work with my son..... hes learned if he gets his hands on it and someone trys to take it away he pulls it back..... its the mine and mine only....lol but now i'm in NC with thumper and grandma has him for two weeks..... damn its only been a day and i miss the little monkey...

OH NO.... you think he is bad now... you just wait until you get him back... he is going to be more spoiled staying with grandma... depending on what grandma lets him get away with.

preggers,
i put my son in the big part of the basket and brought his favorite toys with me.did the trick.
As for spanking i'm with unsure though a babe of 10 months is young but it's good you say no.my son gets spanked because when you have a kid like mine its the only thing that gets his attention.
When i was a kid i didnt dare say squat out of line or i had a sore ass.

its all good.. love taps work just fine... but he cries like you chopped his little hand off...and yeah my mom does let him get away with everything...i'm adopted she was never able to have babies sooo guess what.....yeah..lol having a great time up here with thumper..... dont know what i'm ganna do when i have to leave..*sniff sniff* hes such a teddy bear.. LADIES HES MINE.. LOL

glad to hear that.......was worried about both of you!!!