That "careless behavior" mentioned above is the act of two people choosing to participate in sexual intercourse.

If both people choose it, and if both are legally able to choose it, then both are equally responsible for it.

The issue of a man abandoning his child is a separate issue.
Of course it is cowardice for a man to abandon his child.

you're deliberately putting words in my mouth... and twisting the meaning of mine...

of course women that don't want unwanted or unplanned pregnancies are being smart and proactive if they control their own means of conception...

but we're not the ones who get men pregnant. we can't spread ourselves around. we are the takers not the givers in this instance.

and I will always believe its MORE the man's responsibility to control his baby making capabilities, rather than trying to escape some of the blame for being dead beats by saying, "it was HER fault too cause SHE let me do it." or "she tricked me cause she just wanted to hang on to me by having my baby." yada yada...

men need to MAN UP! accept their major role in overpopulating the earth and use self control (condoms, vasectomies, abstinence) when it pertains procreation. rather than depending on women to take the lead with pills that can irreparably damage them physically.

"careless" ... means a man who doesn't care if he impregnates the woman he beds and then doesn't take responsibility for the child either and never "cares" for his own offspring is care'less and cowardly.

for a man to blame a woman for anything rather than taking responsibility for his own actions is a COWARD! imo.

to me, this attitude of passing the buck to women when it pertains to populating the earth is one of the reasons why our cultural practices have changed through the decades and things are so f**ked up!

a lot of men don't want to be the leaders of their families anymore. they don't want to work and sacrifice to take care of all their responsibilities so they ease their own conscience's by excusing their bad decisions and adverse behavior and simply place the blame on women for not doing more to stop them from spreading their seed around indiscriminantly.

adults know that having consensual sex can produce offspring. and they know that unprotected sex makes it more likely to happen. of course women who know they are having unprotected sex are making a conscious choice to do so and are equally to blame if they allow a man to impregnate her. this is how a woman is care'less.

my main point is about who I think should take MORE responsibility for the creation of unwanted or unplanned children... regardless to what a woman does because she might have ulterior motives for getting pregnant in the first place... is MEN!

and men that let women use and abuse them like this are just plain stupid too... in my book.