Is there any signs that you are working too hard on your relationship? And what can be done to avoid them?

I am struggling to understand the difference between working to hard to make your relationship workout and giving it your all to make a relationship work.

Lets discuss

.. yes I know this feeling well..hmm
. you put all of yourself into the relationship.. you do all the little things.. make the candlelight dinners.
. run errands.
.. send her flowers.
. take her out.
... clean the bedroom make the bed. light some candles. put on the sexy *** underwear she bought you for Christmas...
. and do you think you could get a little appreciation.
.Nooo.. quite the opposite.. so are you working too hard.hmm.. buy her a brand new car.. put a bow on it.. take her to the dealership.. and all she can say is.. I don't like the color of the seats..hmm..
.. make dinner for her.. and I mean plate it so it looks really nice.. and all you get is... it needs a little more salt..hmm..
. are you working too hard on your relationship..

Exactly my point its kinda complicated wish there was an easier way of knowing what you are doing right and wrong or should i say know if you are working too hard or youre giving your all.

In my opinion a true relationship should be more about effort than feeling like work. Effort comes from a good place. Wanting to do something special for someone, or doing that little something to brighten their day. Work is just going through the motions to appease someone's requests. Efforts are usually recognized and rewarded whereas work is just taken for granted. The real key is to find someone who sees the effort and reciprocates as opposed to being the boss :)