pls write your views

Best thing you can do is try not to take it personally...I know, I know, it IS personal...But try to remember this...When someone hurts you, it can only be intentional or accidental.....Accidental is easy to deal with, right?...Just means they are dumb azzes ...Intentional is harder, but what it really means is it's not about you, it's about them...It's about a need they want to satisfy at your expense...When someone is trying to hurt you, no matter how subtle, it's hard to ignore...The truth is, their actions have nothing to do with you and everything to do with them and their insecurities...Also, try indifference...It works!

I was hoping Leigh that you were going to jump in on this thread! You always tell it best.

when heart to heart relationship hurting is minmal and better to part--in case of body attraced realtionship it is better to set aside

((((( Carrie )))))...xoxo...

In a relationship being hurt and not hurt should be expected but what matter most is how it comes and how u handle it.

I can tell you what not to do! Dont psycho post in the mingle forums, dont damage property by keying cars or throwing yard gnomes at glass doors and don't listen to sappy music and drink!

one day at a time!

"There are far far better things ahead than any you leave behind"
jst keep dat in mind n u'll b fyn.. worked for me..;)

people get hurt in relationships and sorry leigh I don't agree it is only about the other person, sure it may be, but not always.

I know someone who said he was completely hurt by his girlfriend leaving him, and completely moving out, he was hurt because she left with no good-bye and the poor "pitiful me" story...what he failed to mention was the fact that he had been cheating on her for a while, and when she had proof, she just left and never looked back, but he still didn't think that was an excuse for her to leave like that and that she should have said something and he still blamed her....I say if you're hurt the only person who you can really affect is yourself, start by looking at yourself, and fixing what needs fixed there and if everything is good there, then just move on....some people will hurt you on purpose, those people aren't even worth not one of your feelings, pain or otherwise.

when hurt in a relationship the best thing to do is to say it out to the one who hurt you rather than nursing it in your mind

good suggestion leigh

Thank you Nelson!...

Oh RCB.... but I like drinking to sappy music during a heartbreak...and eating chocolate. Can't forget the chocolate! :)

I think it's important after a break-up not to jump into the next relationship.
Take some time for yourself to perhaps learn from past mistakes, and simply to re-group.
It makes it easier to come to terms with the last relationship and not bring extra baggage into a new relationship.

i dnt knw if we can be frnd leigh because am new here and i like the way you talk

Buy a hooker.

okay! But remember when you get drunk and throw the gnome thru glass door...i warned ya!

correction... "rent

Eh.....interest charges suck though.