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Edited by
technovative
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Wed 04/30/14 05:06 PM
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Hi Techno   Big hugs!!  Hey (((Mel))) Haven't seen you here in a while.
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Wed 04/30/14 08:10 PM
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I pretty much leave the emotional door open as far as why I am here ... which is apparently the topic of this thread as I did not really understand the OP....I think he musta been smoking sumthin
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Me and my friend have a running joke, I have three too many friends.
I maintain strong anonymity in most online sites and in public as well, I have security set up to the sky maintaining that anonymity. I simply do not want to know more people than I do now, and I don't want them to know me. This way, if and when I accomplish something great, it will be all the greater due to my anonymity. I've written several papers that have never been tracked back to me, used at least a dozen different pseudonyms to write them, I can't even remember the author of most of them now. I don't let people in, I remain a mystery...The perfect anonymity. My own "Social experiment," if you will. |
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Is there something unnatural Not at all. about this whole experiment? I'm in touch with a friend with whom we tortured our 5th Grade Teacher (and need to track down for apologies), another who was prolly slightly more bullet proof when we knew it all, a HS crush unrequited who is an amazing friend, cyber friends whom I adore and more, etc., etc., and MOST obviously "Family"....even and especially "extended"....(It's so nice to peer into what they share of their lives and know them better)... It's an amazing time! Me: Online and chatting on predecessor to M2 7/2006 (late bloomer)....11/2006 I went to Amsterdam/Berlin as a DIRECT result. It seems organic in certain ways, yet not. What are we doing here? We're meeting in cyber space because we have the innate need to connect and belong. And those with the skill to open the superhighway for everyone to have access to what we want in our lives made it possible. Where we once walked in darkness now we have light. |
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In the time that I've been doing the internet dating I've become more and more reluctant to get sucked into playing the "building a connection" online game with women that want to do that, rather than just deciding whether they want to meet or not after a relatively brief period of online communication. Those ones are less likely to ever make a date in my experience and then it can be quite upsetting if you do allow yourself to get emotionally involved. In that sense I suppose that I do tend to treat it as a convenience "fast food" sort of thing but that doesn't mean that I'm just looking for casual hookups and am not trying to meet someone that I want to develop a longterm relationship with.
It's not that I'm just pushy with the women on these sites and sometimes I'm happy enough to just chat but that's more when I'm just in time waster mode and I'm not feeling that bothered about it. It took a long time before the first one that I met from here finally made up her mind that she was going to actually do it (rather than just saying that she was) and it was quite exhausting and frustrating at times. At one point I thought that she was just a scammer and I had given up hope when it did happen. All of the ones that I've dated since then were ones that just liked my profile and wanted to meet to see how we got on, rather than being roadblocking connection builders. It can get quite ridiculous with them telling you that they need to get to a point where they trust you before they will meet you. I can no more prove that I'm genuine than they can by just sending emails and the only way that you can really do that is to meet and get to know each other properly. That's the way that I feel about it now anyway and I no longer take anyone seriously that isn't keen about meeting up. There are just too many time wasters to do it any other way. |
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In the time that I've been doing the internet dating I've become more and more reluctant to get sucked into playing the "building a connection" online game with women that want to do that, rather than just deciding whether they want to meet or not after a relatively brief period of online communication. Those ones are less likely to ever make a date in my experience and then it can be quite upsetting if you do allow yourself to get emotionally involved. In that sense I suppose that I do tend to treat it as a convenience "fast food" sort of thing but that doesn't mean that I'm just looking for casual hookups and am not trying to meet someone that I want to develop a longterm relationship with. Same here...I only "build connections" with peeps I meet on the boards...If there is a spark from someone who does not hang out here, I will request we meet ASAP...If they can't or won't, I'm out.... |
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I like to be where people are looking for the same things as me. You'd think hanging out in a singles site would bring me love eventually, In my case, It has brought me friendships that no matter how long I've been away, I'm always welcomed back.  Pucker!!! Happy to see that Canadian bacon :-) ^^^ A fine Western gal...  Soufie!
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I like to be where people are looking for the same things as me. You'd think hanging out in a singles site would bring me love eventually, In my case, It has brought me friendships that no matter how long I've been away, I'm always welcomed back. Strait up! canooky still want nookie  I think maybe you have to get a little meaner with the hags..lol Yeah you might not want to listen to me. Welcome to mingles You are the master of disaster brother... Even if I wanted to follow your advice, I couldn't LOL |
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