there are always "rules" among genuine friends so it is really just a misnomer for serial hook ups lol

How many times have you tried this.

As I stated to each their own. If they go into "FWB" knowing what to expect and what not to expect. It can be mutually gratifying for both parties, as the "benefits" is sex for both people involved. No one said anything about it evolving into more than just that. Eventually "FWB" ends, because people usually are wanting to find someone for more than just gratifying a sexual want or desire.

I've met a couple of women on here recently that said that they weren't looking for a relationship. One said that the last two guys that she was with had wanted her to move in with them and that was when she ended it with them. Sometimes it's people that are happy with their lives the way that it is but they do want a sex life as well with a regular partner. Others don't want or can't handle getting too emotionally involved because they are not happy and are working through "issues", or have too many problems to deal with and they want friendship, support and "fun". Those are the ones that you have to look out for. They get you to care about them because a "nice" person will and won't just want to use them or abuse them.

Not a "nice guy" rant. Just saying that you should think about what you're getting yourself into.

Well said...

exactly

but it seldom follows that nice even path. it also sounds way too mechanical. not the best way to share themselves intimately on that basis.....doesn't interest me at all

well that is really an MYOB

but enough to know what I am talking about and I have probably been around a lot longer than most(including thee)

all I am saying is that this "mythology" has developed around FWB that people use to rationalize using each other

(that we are "friends" "no one gets hurt" "no rules" " we have the rules set from the start" sorry no. relationship rules EVOLVE so that cannot work. and relationships always have rules in the form of commitments and boundaries, especially REAL friendships)

....just say yeah we're using each other. not pretty, but it's honest

A white horse fell in the mud. Ahhhh, dirty talk!!

...just remember friends with benefits usually have other friends with benefits and some of these benefits may stay with you for life ..one of those benefits maybe herpes or AIDS ...don't see much benefit in that..

.... there now I got you.. .
. I have #10.. rules...

If rules where set, then yes I guess I would consider it

It's easy to get into a situation where you're having to tell someone what they want to hear in terms of "rules". She says that she doesn't want anything serious just now and I say that's fine and we will just have fun times together. Why wouldn't I say that? We're hanging out together, having sex and maybe even going out on dates. This is indestinguishable from a relationship I think. We even discuss keeping it exclusive, which is sensible if you don't want to catch something. How is she going to meet someone else that she does want something serious with when we're doing this? "I've got her", I think. She's my girl.

depends on the benefits.

and the friends.

Lol

Best think in understanding each other ... if you understand each other ...no one will cheat... so try make relationship with those people who understand you

If you and I say was friends with benefits for sake of this discussion.
I wouldn't go on a date with you, it would be strictly intimate encounters.

However it could be open from tht start if this worked really well, we could discuss taking it further....
But I would want to know from the start if it was an option or not


And about catching anything, well you would surely expect to use preventatives for that......

Damn! I like this girl!!

Not really. I've heard about something called a dental dam but I don't like the sound of that. Condoms are for sex with strangers.

As for the rest of it, sure, I don't really care if the first date is an intimate encounter or going out somewhere. Done that before. Better chance of getting a second date that way. I mean, this is all for the sake of discussion like you said and we're assuming that we're both up for it. It's a casual relationship and we just see how it goes.

used to say that I wouldn't do that again but when you think about it, it makes little difference what you call it. Even if you say that you want to be my girlfriend when we start having sex it's still going to be a matter of seeing how it goes. Where it runs into problems though is if you keep saying that we are just f**k buddies but that's part of the seeing how it goes. You have already implied that you might want something more serious and although I can't know for sure at this point if you're just playing me I'm getting to know you and finding out what you're really like. Let's also assume that I'm a fantastic lover, so I'm not too concerned about you wanting to go with other guys. There you go. I'm already trusting you and it's all going great so far.

i never charged u cab fair buddy!!!