Supposedly it's the man's job to plan a date. Here's my plan:

I meet you off the bus and we go for a walk in the park and we have a nice chat and get to know each other. I think that's maybe better than meeting in a pub because I've got beer in the house and my place is just a few minutes walk from the park. I've got a pool table and there's got to be something in my CD collection that you like. If we get hungry we can have some food delivered. A new one just opened in my area and they do all sorts of curries, kebabs, pizzas, burgers and even fish and chips. They have special offers at the moment if you buy a meal for two as well.

I think inviting someone over on a first date is scary. lol but if it's not a first date t his sounds awesome.

Is this just information,or should we comment...likes or dislikes about your date plan?
I don't want to offer an opinion if you aren't requesting it.

Say whatever you want.

Obviously, the walk in the park depends on the weather. I do have to take the dog out for her walk though, so you will have to make your mind up soon.

Personally i don't plan dates. I do not know what the Lady wants as in Entertainment, Food, or otherwise! But would like to Dress for this occasion so Please Advise! I am Old Fashion so "its at my expense" not yours! I will be Courteous as all "Men should be"!! That's it in a nutshell and would dishonor my upbringing by being otherwise!

Some women would say that's lame buddy and they want you to take the initiative. I think that it's alright to ask them what sort of things that they like but that can come across as pandering and if you plan the date they can get a better idea of what you are like and how compatible you are. I mean, things like taste in music can be real deal breakers. I once put on a Captain Beefheart CD and the lady that I was with asked me if it was some sort of test and in a way I suppose that it was.

What if she is a vegetarian and was insulted by being a meandrithal and suggested meat? There could be a mutual understanding between both parties before the dinner date! This way i'm not showing a "controlling" attitude or try to be Dominate! As for being "Lame" as you call it, Its called being Courteous in my upbringing!! Watch the Namecalling!! Not permitted!!

This is your topic and i am respecting it by giving my opinion only! We both are in different countries therefore the "language cultures"differ. Here i drive and don't rely on public transportation to get around and i would not expect to meet in a pub or with loud music of anytype for a first meeting. In such a scenario probably reconsider a meeting! " With All Respects Good Luck"

Personally, I am not sure if you are talking about any date or the first date. Which, in my opinion makes a big difference.

I think when planning a date it would be best to discuss the the proposed upcoming date with the other person, what their likes and dislikes are as well as discussing your own likes and dislikes. I don't want to be on a date that reflects only what you like and nothing that I may enjoy and vice versa. The date begins before the actual meeting in my opinion. The entire idea is getting to know someone, and in order to do that there needs to be input from both parties and not one sided.

Complete planning of a date is usually best when the two know each other and what each other likes or dislikes. Otherwise the date could fail before it ever began in the first place. I would think a comfortable environment is needed for both in order for the date to go smoothly with no hesitation. I am not opposed to the man making all the date plans, just know me and what I like and what WE will both like before doing so.

Hi Tawt ... Long time, no see ...If it's a first date/meet, I think both peeps should "kic it" around, decide together what and how....First dates are hard enough without including a venue that might be outside of someone's comfort zone...I do like the idea of one-on-one conversation, but that can be done in coffee shop, restaurant, or pub too....

Don't be so touchy. Patty from Millionaire Matchmaker says that the man should plan the date and if you want to be in my club you follow my rules.

I have absolutely no idea what a meandrithal is but there are plenty of vegetarian options on this menu and she can have what she wants.

Honestly mate, pandering to a woman has nothing to do with being a gentleman. It's like saying that you don't really care what you do on a date because you're just trying to keep her sweet and will do anything that it takes to get your way with her.

I think when your date plan reflects you as a personality, then it is like an accurate introduction. How is that bad? The right person for you would respond excellently, the wrong person would be screened out.

The only issue with it is that our egos prefer to be the one dismissing inappropriate suitors rather than being rejected by them, but that's just egotistical. When your screening method works accurately, you're doing better than most right there.

Well, I'm not necessarily going to tell you up front the whole plan. Some of it, I think, should be a surprise and it really doesn't matter if you're a good pool player because it's just for fun anyway.

Let's just see how it goes, okay? I don't see why you would feel uncomfortable going for a walk in the park and it does have the advantage of being near my house.

Well on the other hand, being "near your house" also means being near your collection of knives or a basement and shackles...

The uncomfortable part is mentioning your house as a focal point in the date, if this is a first date. If I don't know you and the feel from your post that I get is that most of this date revolves around your house. Surprises are good but not the one that focuses on your house.

I like the walk in the park and the conversation. Being a 1st date... I'm not feeling the go to your place. Id prefer going to a coffee shop or somewhere to grab lunch.
Wait,until you know there is chemistry before going to your place.

.. a little clarity here please.. do you want us to describe.. what we do on a first date. our self??...ie.. where we go.. Park or restaurant.. the whole . date from start to finish.. and this is the first date". correct... the date "after we met for coffee first..

Oh, I don't know. The last time I met a girl in the park and told her that I've got a pool table she liked the idea of having a game.

It's just that I play nine ball pool and you can't do that on a pub pool table.

What's good about this date is that there's a really good bus service and it stops right outside the park. We could go somewhere else after the park but unless you want me bringing the dog along we would have to take her back to my place first.

If you like. Meeting for coffee first isn't obligatory though.

Exactly...Don't forget locked doors and fear of never leaving again.