Right on :) I finally found people that use the site for what it was intended for:) how's everybody today:)

That's a very good out look when ur in a largely diverse community site:)

@josh, im great how r u punkin

Lame:(

Good :) this site runs super slow on my iPhone:(

I know right?! It drains mine

How are u?

I just got on this site a few days ago and i'm looking for an intelligent convo.

I appreciate that ..thanks :)

Almost every second guy, bloodyhell you're doing well.
There are a lot of good guys on here I must admit, they're not all a-s holes.
Just block the idiots although it does get on your nerves after a while.

I'm not that guy :)

Lead Photos have something to do with the responses any woman will get.

It is sad that the cretins of the world will take even the slightest suggestion of sexuality and run like a brat with a stolen lollipop but that is the real world. Some you are just going to ignore.

A modest head and shoulder shot, smiling, no cleveage, may sound overly conservative but it does set a tone that says I am a person first.

I believe saying that either side of the gender divide saying they are not after sex makes them a liar is over stating it but under-stating it hurts credibility too. Men and women want sex they just don't want it to be an issue.

My personal belief is if more people would consider the exchange of sex as and equal gift to do in the stages that all participants are comfortable with then it would be less of a contest.

If sex is a power play everyone loses. Women can have co-operation from most men to have sex when it is mutually acceptable if they know that they are found desirable and it is not just a manipulation.

That said I think any woman who thinks you can you can get a guy all worked up and then expect him to be happy about shutting it down on your whim is as deceitful as a guy who professes love and the minute they get the booty they split. Serious sleaze bags on either side of the equation usually show their selves pretty early in the show so paying attention up front in relationships pays off.

Stepping back and assuming that sex will be an issue to be addressed after some of the other basics are worked out gives everyone a clearer view. What NOBODY should want is somebody having sex or staying in a relationship because they had sex or a kid on the way. Now days because so permenent chronic STD's exist you don't want to limit your options.

"A modest head and shoulder shot, smiling, no cleveage, may sound overly conservative but it does set a tone that says I am a person first."

Your point is both well made and well taken. A first impression picture of the type you describe is not only classier but sends the correct message. Some chowderheads will still think you are automatically game for an intimate encounter just because they think every woman wants that (because they do). Easy to spot and block. Genuine people will look at the pic, the bio and make a learned decision either way. Besides, their conversational cues tend to give them away pretty quickly if all they want is sex.

I have to admit these words are correct. We are all here in fact for the end result, which will ultimately include a sexual relationship. This is part of what makes a relationship work.

I think it is all about how you present yourself to others not only in your photos but in your profile. It may seem cliche but true none the less. If you show your breasts or your rear you are inviting it, even if you don't think you are. If you are wanting a relationship that is deeper involved then don't use those photos.

Wow!! What is wrong with people?? I am lonely and just want a friend...someone who cares about me...

LOL NKL

Im looking for a relationship

.. I'm looking for someone to bend to my will..hmm. . things that are bendy.. flexible.. not rigid.. sounds like. f....d..lol..

im new here and m looking for frnshp

Yes, but they're Catholic priests.

So, you're safe.

Unless you're an altar boy.