Been dating this guy almost 5 good years. But, we broke up because of his family issues. I know for fact he once loved and did not care about the color or religion.

And he wants to get back with...i dont if his family will be happy about or ih he still loves me the way he did before. I'm so confused.

Try to talk with him and make sure he loves you the same way you do...forget about his family, you were dating him not his family! Unless he is a "Mom's little boy" then forget about him JMO

I tried on a couple women who allowed their kids to run their lives.

One even had to ask her sons permission every time I asked her out.

That lasted a whole two dates too long.

Thank you for the advice. Well, he has proven that he is mamas boy! I just need settle down and make that decision.

Thank you for the advice. Well, he has proven that he is mamas boy! I just need settle down and make that decision.

Now, Honey, you can call him a manjina.

Come on over here to West Texas and I'll show you how a Queen is treated.

Sorry to hear you are suffering.

I tend to listen to what people say before the "but" in a post. That usually tells a lot.

Your own words are Five Good years. That is a LOT to toss out. Especially when later you say race and religion was not his issue.

Integrated relationships are never smooth. They will have ups and downs and when things get close to marriage and blending families things often get really dicey. But they can be gotten through with compromise and wisdom and love. Do you love him? Does he love you?

Is it possible that you have a FAMILY CENTERED MAN rather than a MAMMA BOY? That maybe he is being caught in the middle? Would a little more faith, understanding, and co-operation on your part resolve some of the issues? Or at least find tolerable ground? What if you actually built bridges allowing your family relationship to grow? Which every good marriage is. I call BS on you are just marrying him you marry a family which to often gets discounted as a blessing of marriage. One you will completly loose out on if you stick with the popular story book version popular but rarely working well in today's world. Or name calling which far to many bitter women who couldn't get along with a man or a family of in-laws if their lives depended on it resort to. The same women that would walk on your dying corpse to have that same man if you let them. lol

Is he willing coming back into pursuing a revived relationship to try to work things out? Is he saying he is SORRY? A man who admits mistakes is rare so I would not be to fast to discount.

Have you attempted to re-negotiate? Or just conquer? That is hard to see if the battle got personal which often it can. Fine to be a strong woman and stand up for yourself; especially if you are getting steam rolled but sometimes the most domineering Mother's in law are the best allies once respect and allegiance is earned. Could you loose one battle to win the war?

Life can be very difficult as an island. It can be very difficult if the love of your life brings another into his nation and you are alone.

If he is genuinely trying to get back with you clearly you matter and I would not dismiss that. Especially without input from people who know the whole story. People who have your same religious and cultural values. Especially avoiding people who have no stake in your future and might just be trying to entice you away from one for themselves. Misery loves company.

Only you know the real answers. I would encourage you to think long and hard and try to take away any extreams of pride or misunderstandings out of the deciding process before you toss aside something you may regret loosing.

One thing experience has taught me is You turn away a marriage minded man, especially twice, you will be replaced.

Be strong and stand up for what you believe! I was in a interracial relationship before and I left my family because they did not approve, at the time I was 25 and it was the first time being in a relationship. It took some time but eventually they understood and accepted the fact that it was my life to live. don't give up! just try to listen and be there for him even if it takes more time? if he loves you like you think he does he will always be there.

To me girl you have be careful honestly. Listen to your heart because no matter how much this guy loves youthe family may end up frustrating you. What matters is your happiness. Unless the guy can convince his family to accept you then you sure you will have peace.

Hum...let me tell you a "Mom's boy" never going to grow up to be mature enough and make his own mind, I dated one. Thank God I didn't want to compete with his mother. They never want to let go and wear a big Men trousers.

Then again is all in your hands, best luck to you!