I can only speak from my experience. While I am not going to give an expose' on my personal life on the world wide wild web I think you will get out of it just what you put into it.

I have been on Mingle before it was Mingle and trust me that has been a while. I am no "Spring Chicken", I don't put out, I don't give anyone money, and my hour glass has more than a few minutes of extra sand under my graying head. And I don't mince words with anybody about what I think. BUT I go out at least a couple times a month if not a couple times a week time/health permitting. I have dated some folks over five years and others once or twice. Have been offered several opportunities for marriage, engaged twice, and am willing to bet with in the next two years will be married since I am actually in the stage that I have the freedom to marry. (That is on top of multiple "barriers to dating" from the death of a fiance, and extended period of being blind, and working long hours as a hospice caregiver so no excuses folks.)

Online dating is not rocket science. It starts with a well crafted upbeat profile and ends with actually being social with people when they respond to you. A mingle profile works great if you direct people you are interested in to it. I get at least 80% of local dates from just having my Mingle monicer on the back of my business card. And I don't have anyone blowing up my phone, messing up my business or personal life, or messing my privacy.

My picture proves IF you feel like hell, are sweating like a race horse, don't have every hair in place, rumpled, and aren't model material it does not mean a hang if you SMILE in your photos. Mine is living proof because that is what 99% of the people who fill my inbox tell me.

Yes you have to have a plan for what you want to say when you write some one. I am not great literary talent (can not spell to save my behind) but when I am interested in someone I READ THEIR PROFILE, watch their posts, even research where some folks live or do for a job, and take notes when we chat because I am like everyone else... I get nervous and don't know what to say off the top of my head to strangers.
But once you do just listen, and be nice, the rest is pretty easy. Everyone responds positive normal interaction. Yea you want to be careful and ask a few questions but soften up the conversation a little with a FEW compliments (guys don't go over board)and or interesting facts about yourself and you will see people eager to talk to you.

You just don't want to get stuck in chat mode. Have a safe place you can bump into new people. It doesn't have to be posh or every day but if you grab a breakfast at someplace on the weekend or cold drink after work in the middle of the week it is easy to invite a meet and greet or develop a date plan once you have seen each other and made up your mind you at least want to exchange digits. You know you are going, you already have your act together, and the stress level goes way down.

Folks this is a BIGGY; if you are single and lonely you can't look it every where you go. Spiff up a bit, smile at people, make a nice remark to at least five strangers you see every time you go out so your hosts like you. I guarantee you will have friends to chat with and quite probably date or introduce you to someone to date in a month. Be nice to the people where you do hang out. Don't boogart a table all night or leave a mess to be cleaned up. Believe me a peeved waiter or annoyed cashier is not going to say oh yea they are good people if you never tip and are a pain treating them like your hot stuff and they are your slave or pretend lover. "Friends" in the "greater" world can also often give you the heads up when you trip over the very well known "players". I can't tell you the number of times friends or people in public that I would not date or would not date me have introduced me to people I would just because I do remember to follow back with thank yous. It can be small things I am not talking about bribery or having your landlady pimping you or dressing like your in some cartoon here just make an effort to be an asset as a general habit. This not suggesting throw your money around or spend a fortune on clothes but you don't want to look like some rumpled Baby Momma/Daddy that hasn't had a hair cut or a shoe shine in three years.

LAST but not least have some social manners on and off line even if you have to check a few books out of the library and read up. Nobody can know every cultural taboo or exactly what is appropriate in every setting but if you do your homework bringing your dating skills up to speed is not a big effort. The great thing about social skills is they usually cost nothing but they make a HUGE impression. Even if you are having the worst date of your life if you handle it with grace I guarantee you someone will notice that matters. If you learn some basics such as how to make and introduction, a few simple dance steps, at least the words to basic songs for holidays, how to give a toast, or write a thank you note you are miles ahead of the trolls that every single person who dates dreads. Good Luck.

that applies for some of the men in general as well

ok, statistics then... anything you divide by zero is still zero...if it's not working, then change something up, doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is a bit crazy, don't you think? change how you greet them, ask them questions about their profile, be nicer... jut have fun with it

I sincerely hope that I've not offended u in any way as this is not my intention. I know Mingle2.com is only a cybernetic tool, I was rather referring to the people behind the keyboard using Mingle.com. I must admit that I am one of those gay guys who don't feel the need to be a sheep and follow the latest going-ons on the gay scene, I choose to be an individual gay person and do what I feel comfortable in doing, and it doesn't help that in general I'm somewhat nervous around men, always have been which makes being gay irony lol. However Pacificstar48, I honestly do appreciate your feedback as well as your time, thank u x

Hello,i am new here on this site.

Sitting here and wonder is there someone for me here and am seeking a woman but many have put high hopes about a man.

Am not searching for mrs perfect here because am not perfect in my self here either I have being scam and freud in 5 years by african women but i have deleted that past here,since i just only get words and not action in it self here.

Yes,am here for thrue love but do i find it here?

There are chances... Just now i was reading an article regarding How to find the love.. and the one point was there.. reach out. And that point says talk and meet with more people.. facebook, Gtalk and many more social networking sites. i guess that's what we all are doing here. Even I'm expecting some one here...

no they all moved to Gary Ind.

@ Tormartin
Sorry to hear about u being scammed like that, I know how that feels but at least u haven't let those idiots put u off finding someone special. Anyway, u sound like a really genuinely nice bloke and hope some sweet nice lady notice u, because I jus know that she'll be some lucky woman having someone like u loving her. Big up for love and let's see what 2014 got up her sleeves for us all. Wish u all the best happiness :-)

only some?

U find lov in the most unexpected places,ths is merely a platforp to express uself to see wht others thnk,am i rite, just be patient n the end itl be all worth it.....it mite nt be n ths site bt sumwhr out ther shes waitin for u....

Hi, I need a woman, any type and where.

Hi, I need a woman, any type and any where.

Waddup waddup pretty ladies am New in here...buh I wanna mingle to jingle n make u bubble ...hit me up n let tlk buh feel free...tnx

Hi

Waiting for someone

So, here I am still on that proverbial single top shelf, but I jus wanna know how do I feel, truly feel about still being single 10 yrs after my last failed attempt of a relationship (I can't help giggling at my life so far lol). Ok, this is the thing, I must admit I don't feel lonely within myself and within my living space. I guess I selfishly want a relationship because there's so much things I wanna do and experience in life but I can't do it by myself. Yes, I've tried but I'm too shy and scared to do it on my own. This is the thing, with keyboard and a screen in front of you, I can pretend to be all self-confident and shite, but in person sadly I'm not like that. So, selfishly I want someone to do things with and to converse with and basically be a "human" with. (Ok, perhaps because of arses shyness around people, I'm not always people-friendly, and you would think that iphone would have already created an apps for that !)
I do want to improve myself for sure. Now, the other question I want to ask, am I equally selfish if I want to have a relationship knowing full-well that I have almost chronic ill-health? I was born this way, we all have our burdens to bear in life, but is it right for me to look for love with my inflictions? (By the way, anyone send me sympathy messages I will angrily respond because it's not about my ill-health, it's more about getting other people's opinion because so far my family and some close acquaintances do have the opinion that it would be wrong, which I respect their views; if you ask, you must expect the responses whether it's good or bad, hey. Don't ask if you don't want the answer if it's not favourable.
Anyway, here's to life and all it may bring to us, innit lol

sheesh... and he'll be posting later about how women suck and they never want him...

Uh huh....snickers*

i like snickers... M&M's, too...