Okay, so I would like to know this ...... If you know of a certain someone on the site who is a player, and really isn't looking for anything serious, this certain someone lies, cheats, very good at what they do, very charming etc .... all the above ... would you let the site know? Or perhaps warn the people this person is talking to?

And when this person got busted with the lies, cheating etc ..... of course you know how it ended.

Your thoughts on this would be appreciated!

Yes, i would..for i wouldn't want it to happen to me and wouldn't wish it on anybody...it's good you got out of it..don't fret though, for like everything else ,this too shall pass...mingle on!

That would mean e-mailing every female on the site.

I'd tell whoever asked me, otherwise there's nothing much I could do to warn them.

The good bit, is that you yourself never has to have contact with him ever again. I'd just block him and move on. No cheater is worth as much fuss as they seem to get.

The only thing is, he is really good at what he does. He is a really good charmer, and I would hate to see this women he is chatting with get hurt like I did. I mean it is what it is ..... but to lead a girl on is wrong too. However I was thinking if these women have the smarts they will catch on. I kind of knew when I first started chatting with him .... but always give people the benefit of doubt!

Lol, I don't think the site moderator is gonna boot someone because you don't like their personality. Seems more like spite, trying to get back at him for hurting you. Its just what I'd expect though...

"Hell hath no fury like a women scorn"
~William Congreve

No, it is not getting back at him, if you knew the full story you totally would understand. But I will not get into the full story here, cause it is not the place to do that. I just don't want other women lowering there standards is all ...... because of a charmer!

That's true I don't know the whole story. But your story is only one side of the story, he probably has a different opinion about what happened. Would you be ok with a guy who didn't like you warning other men to stay away from you and trying to get you booted because he felt you wronged him? Would it not be easier to forget about him and move on with your life instead of spending so much time and energy trying to think of ways to hurt him? I can understand venting too your friends and warning them about him. But you think your opinion of him should be every women's opinion of him?

I am not wanting him to get booted by all means. And I am not saying he is an awful guy. However what he does it not right either, again you just don't know the story, and once you knew you would get the point. I don't hate the guy, and don't wish him the worse ..... in fact I do wish him the best of luck out there..... however in this world of ours, who wants to be with someone who has had multiple partner's, unless you are into that life style .... and keep in mind, no protection is used!

Okay well thanks for your responses. Now tell me how to delete this post! :-) thanks peeps

Just realize that on EVERY DATING SITE, there are many players, who charm and make up stuff about themselves. A lot of men who just want tail and a lot of women who are just wanting a sugar daddy. The important thing to remember is to get to know these people as friends first --- expect nothing romantic. I am all about having a friend first, then see what happens from there. The type of man you're talking about just needs to be blocked and left alone. Any man who starts out talking sexually to you needs to be blocked right away. He is not a true gentleman. Don't lower your standards for any man, no matter how charming, good looking, rich, or educated they may seem. Have that person rise up to your standards!