Topic: married men that cheat
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Sun 01/05/14 11:49 AM
Totally agree!!...dnt be fooled..gullible or msled!

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Sun 01/05/14 12:43 PM

Why do they say they are going to leave their wives for u and never do?? Has anyone ever been in this situation? ?


I wouldn't wait for him to leave his wife because I wouldn't get involved in the first place.

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Sun 01/05/14 03:10 PM

Cause the women they are with are dumb enough to believe it. That's probably part of the appeal. An intelligent women would realize that if he is cheating on his wife with her he's going to do the same thing too her if she ends up with him?



Do you know what the definition of insanity is? Doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result...





how about going for a single guy instead of a married one? Just throwin it out there!!

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Sun 01/05/14 03:19 PM


Cause the women they are with are dumb enough to believe it. That's probably part of the appeal. An intelligent women would realize that if he is cheating on his wife with her he's going to do the same thing too her if she ends up with him?



Do you know what the definition of insanity is? Doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result...





how about going for a single guy instead of a married one? Just throwin it out there!!


finally someone sensible...laugh flowerforyou :thumbsup:

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Sun 01/05/14 04:05 PM
Why do guys do this? Because they have already seen how women will compete against each other and how so many want to prove that they can take something away from another woman and how easy it is to manipulate one woman against another.

Many wives know their husbands have mistresses just as often as mistresses know men have wives; they complain about it but really when it get's right down to it they enjoy the game.

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Sun 01/05/14 04:14 PM



Cause the women they are with are dumb enough to believe it. That's probably part of the appeal. An intelligent women would realize that if he is cheating on his wife with her he's going to do the same thing too her if she ends up with him?

Do you know what the definition of insanity is? Doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result...

I believe this is totally true.


I don't really agree. There are a lot of intelligent women who have been taken in by this "promise." The man wants to have his cake and eat it too. Some go to great lengths to maintain this illusion instead of working on things at home or getting out.

The woman wants to believe him....it's a delusion that she allows herself because she wants to believe it is true. it seldom turns out to be, however. People often believe what they want to believe, hear what they want to hear....

Yeah but why any woman would even want to get involved with a man who does not honour his commitment gets what they deserve..nothing in return.

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Sun 01/05/14 04:30 PM


Cause the women they are with are dumb enough to believe it. That's probably part of the appeal. An intelligent women would realize that if he is cheating on his wife with her he's going to do the same thing too her if she ends up with him?



True, but that is only one reason...Not all women are dumb and not all men stay with their wives...Many leave the marriage to be with the mistress...Don't forget, it takes two to make a marriage and two to break it...Some men (and women) cheat because they are driven to it by abusive or neglectful partners...Before anyone "jumps", I'm not saying thats right, I'm just saying people are not perfect and they're not always strong....

@ the OP...Sandy, if you are asking because you are a mistress, cut him off...If he loves you, he will end his marriage and begin a proper life with you...If he is a user, you will only hear his lame excuses about why he can't leave his wife and how hard his life is and how much he needs you tears ...All BS hon....If there is a next time, think before you decide to f u c k a married man...Think about his wife, think about his children if he has them, and think about your dignity...Doing so might make you back off and look for a man who is both emotionally and physically available to you....Good luck!

Yes some great points here{{Leigh}}
definitely the "if you marry a Man that cheats on his wife
then you'll be married to a Man that cheats on bis wife"
is a great rule of thumb but for sure there's circumstances
usually financial ties and fear of assets being froze that may
stop a person from being able to go. So yes there are cases were
there is clearly nothing left the person could be completely
disrespect and emasculated but is caught in a trap,no financial means
to separate or to much to lose if things are rushed.

IMO thats not cheating, its a trap..A man made trap,
Slip in easy and go out less a limb

The 60,000 thousand dollar question:
How do you know this is the situation or how do you no
he's not pulling your chain and he's not lovey dovey
and feelin' almighty in his wifey's nighty alrighty.:laughing:

"In his wifey's nightynoway
"And sometimes frases have two meanings"
As {{Leigh}} and many are saying
Don't go there!

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Sun 01/05/14 04:59 PM




Cause the women they are with are dumb enough to believe it. That's probably part of the appeal. An intelligent women would realize that if he is cheating on his wife with her he's going to do the same thing too her if she ends up with him?

Do you know what the definition of insanity is? Doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result...

I believe this is totally true.


I don't really agree. There are a lot of intelligent women who have been taken in by this "promise." The man wants to have his cake and eat it too. Some go to great lengths to maintain this illusion instead of working on things at home or getting out.

The woman wants to believe him....it's a delusion that she allows herself because she wants to believe it is true. it seldom turns out to be, however. People often believe what they want to believe, hear what they want to hear....

Yeah but why any woman would even want to get involved with a man who does not honour his commitment gets what they deserve..nothing in return.


good question. but we know it happens. from my experiences online I will say that married men do not always disclose that factoid right away...IRL I guess that's analogous to his removing his wedding ring when he goes to the bars..lol

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Sun 01/05/14 05:07 PM





Cause the women they are with are dumb enough to believe it. That's probably part of the appeal. An intelligent women would realize that if he is cheating on his wife with her he's going to do the same thing too her if she ends up with him?

Do you know what the definition of insanity is? Doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result...

I believe this is totally true.


I don't really agree. There are a lot of intelligent women who have been taken in by this "promise." The man wants to have his cake and eat it too. Some go to great lengths to maintain this illusion instead of working on things at home or getting out.

The woman wants to believe him....it's a delusion that she allows herself because she wants to believe it is true. it seldom turns out to be, however. People often believe what they want to believe, hear what they want to hear....

Yeah but why any woman would even want to get involved with a man who does not honour his commitment gets what they deserve..nothing in return.


good question. but we know it happens. from my experiences online I will say that married men do not always disclose that factoid right away...IRL I guess that's analogous to his removing his wedding ring when he goes to the bars..lol

That is so true. It does happen. But once they find out he is married they should run away and not ever look back.

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Mon 01/06/14 02:04 AM



Cause the women they are with are dumb enough to believe it. That's probably part of the appeal. An intelligent women would realize that if he is cheating on his wife with her he's going to do the same thing too her if she ends up with him?

Do you know what the definition of insanity is? Doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result...

I believe this is totally true.


I don't really agree. There are a lot of intelligent women who have been taken in by this "promise." The man wants to have his cake and eat it too. Some go to great lengths to maintain this illusion instead of working on things at home or getting out.

The woman wants to believe him....it's a delusion that she allows herself because she wants to believe it is true. it seldom turns out to be, however. People often believe what they want to believe, hear what they want to hear....


I guess we have different ideas about what constitutes an intelligent women...

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Mon 01/06/14 02:25 AM


Cause the women they are with are dumb enough to believe it. That's probably part of the appeal. An intelligent women would realize that if he is cheating on his wife with her he's going to do the same thing too her if she ends up with him?



True, but that is only one reason...Not all women are dumb and not all men stay with their wives...Many leave the marriage to be with the mistress...Don't forget, it takes two to make a marriage and two to break it...Some men (and women) cheat because they are driven to it by abusive or neglectful partners...Before anyone "jumps", I'm not saying thats right, I'm just saying people are not perfect and they're not always strong....

@ the OP...Sandy, if you are asking because you are a mistress, cut him off...If he loves you, he will end his marriage and begin a proper life with you...If he is a user, you will only hear his lame excuses about why he can't leave his wife and how hard his life is and how much he needs you tears ...All BS hon....If there is a next time, think before you decide to f u c k a married man...Think about his wife, think about his children if he has them, and think about your dignity...Doing so might make you back off and look for a man who is both emotionally and physically available to you....Good luck!


There is no excuse for cheating for any who are involved, there are always honest ways to go about these things. Committed relationships aren't the time to be keeping your options open.

Cut him off eh? Yea that's great advice, use sex like a carrot to manipulate him into making a decision in your favor. I guess some things will never change...

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Mon 01/06/14 03:29 AM

Why do they say they are going to leave their wives for u and never do?? Has anyone ever been in this situation? ?


Would it be bad if I said this question every time I hear it reeks with deceit?

"they say they are going to leave their wives for u"

Maybe we should ask the wife how she feels about it.

Really, how do we become so blind?

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Mon 01/06/14 03:36 AM
:angry: Before dating it starts as a casual conversation. Then if interested i ask 1st.Are you married?2nd Do you have a boyfriend? I'm not into all this Cheating thing going on now,never have been-never will be as long as i live!!! The first sign of either"i'm gone!!" Call me stupid "i don't care"but it has happened to me and"i won't do it to another!!"1 at a time if it don't work"move on"!! I'm not a player nor one to be played won't go there,and if you do its your own fault so enjoy the heartbreak you created for yourself!!! mad I've lived with an abortion of my first born because my Wife couldn't keep her knees together,My last marriage to a lazy(lesbian) that wanted a home just for her and her girlfriend"never suspected" So what is next a bunch of S__T i'm not going to address on here? No, I created the problem and know My Remedy for the situation from now on!!explode Alls Good!!!happy happy happy I refuse to eat at another man's table!!:tongue:

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Mon 01/06/14 05:22 AM
I don't know why Guy's cheat maybe it's because they want their cake and eat it too....or is it their not man enough to love & cherish the woman who gives him her heart. Or is it that they think they're such a player or is it they think there God's gift to women I don't know but I do know one thing I can't stand is a liar and I'll be the first to say I'm not a homewrecker so don't put me in the middle of your BS grumble

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Mon 01/06/14 06:26 AM



Cause the women they are with are dumb enough to believe it. That's probably part of the appeal. An intelligent women would realize that if he is cheating on his wife with her he's going to do the same thing too her if she ends up with him?



True, but that is only one reason...Not all women are dumb and not all men stay with their wives...Many leave the marriage to be with the mistress...Don't forget, it takes two to make a marriage and two to break it...Some men (and women) cheat because they are driven to it by abusive or neglectful partners...Before anyone "jumps", I'm not saying thats right, I'm just saying people are not perfect and they're not always strong....

@ the OP...Sandy, if you are asking because you are a mistress, cut him off...If he loves you, he will end his marriage and begin a proper life with you...If he is a user, you will only hear his lame excuses about why he can't leave his wife and how hard his life is and how much he needs you tears ...All BS hon....If there is a next time, think before you decide to f u c k a married man...Think about his wife, think about his children if he has them, and think about your dignity...Doing so might make you back off and look for a man who is both emotionally and physically available to you....Good luck!


There is no excuse for cheating for any who are involved, there are always honest ways to go about these things. Committed relationships aren't the time to be keeping your options open.

Cut him off eh? Yea that's great advice, use sex like a carrot to manipulate him into making a decision in your favor. I guess some things will never change...


I already said that Indent....People don't need an excuse to cheat on their husbands and wives because people are not perfect and chit happens...Grow up ...,,,Commitment doesn't mean a thing when people become depressed or feel desperate or are too drunk or drugged to control themselves and those are just a few scenarios...You're right, some things never do change...Some men will always find a way to blame their infidelity on the woman...You can find a lot of guys like that hanging out at World's Gym pumping iron and trying their damnedest not to notice each other....whoa

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Mon 01/06/14 06:39 AM
Any woman who goes with a married man and then moans when it goes pear-shaped, deserves all they get! Solution? Don't get involved with men that are attached and you won't have this problem! Tells you the character of a man if he is sneaking about doing the dirty on his wife or girlfriend anyway? He's a cheat with them and will be a cheat with you! Go with someone who is unattached, with no ties, who can focus totally on you!

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Mon 01/06/14 06:47 AM

Any woman who goes with a married man and then moans when it goes pear-shaped, deserves all they get! Solution? Don't get involved with men that are attached and you won't have this problem! Tells you the character of a man if he is sneaking about doing the dirty on his wife or girlfriend anyway? He's a cheat with them and will be a cheat with you! Go with someone who is unattached, with no ties, who can focus totally on you!


Exactly....Pretty hard to change a dogs spots (and that includes the biotches too)...There are those who cheat and those who don't and sometimes they arrive in identical packaging so pay attention....

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Mon 01/06/14 06:56 AM
I never lie to women friends about being married.

I won't open that laundry on here.

When one of the partners has medical issues that only allow periodic sex, there are cases when the other partner is given permission to have a discreet affair.

Up front honesty is always best.

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Mon 01/06/14 06:59 AM


Any woman who goes with a married man and then moans when it goes pear-shaped, deserves all they get! Solution? Don't get involved with men that are attached and you won't have this problem! Tells you the character of a man if he is sneaking about doing the dirty on his wife or girlfriend anyway? He's a cheat with them and will be a cheat with you! Go with someone who is unattached, with no ties, who can focus totally on you!


Exactly....Pretty hard to change a dogs spots (and that includes the biotches too)...There are those who cheat and those who don't and sometimes they arrive in identical packaging so pay attention....


I agree totally! Besides, who in their right mind would want the pain and heartache involved in a situation like that. I'll pass, thanks! JMHO :tongue:

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Mon 01/06/14 07:36 AM
They are committed in MARRIAGE for better or worse .Does that mean anything to you at all.Best for you to to find a single man , have you though about how devistaed the wife and kids will be if he has kids.