on the topic of distance in the world of dating sites.
I myself am guilty of this, and I see and hear it so often.. I like you but your so far away. There are so many tangents I can go on with side notes, so to organize myself I will start with; there is the first step of going on the first date, either meeting halfway or one or the other coming the distance to meet is the issue of gas. The other is meeting them and hoping that they are not creepy, obsessive or jerks. And this goes for both men and women I am indeed generalizing because this happens to both sides.
Everyone has had their fair share of doozies, and the ones that totally rocked. And there is not much way of being able to tell how someone will be in person vs how they act and are online and over text and phone calls.
And now for my personal experiences with the first dates, as I have mentioned in a silly frustrated banter. I am no model, but so many men seem to think I look otherwise and come expecting something resembling a twig when we first meet, so it has indeed been a bit hard even if I am working on losing the weight.. that always seems to be the deciding factor.. which is so very unfortunate. I have also come across guys that obsess after the first date, and that dear readers is when I generally turn away.. I am independent but not overly, I do like being close to the one I care for.
So when it comes to long distances of 40 plus miles, dont give up so fast, the person that long ways off could very well be the missing piece. :)
** love passionately, Laugh loud, be positive and dont give up **

Stacey

Agree

Hey, I resemble that remark.

You just crack me up, Dodo! I know, I know, you resemble that remark too!

OK so anyone who has ALF as their profile picture deserves hysterical laughter. Sorry fur ball :) I do think its super rad :)
I used to have an Alf doll.. yep sure did admit that.
:)

What's wrong with being a creepy obsessive jerk? Personally I don't see the point in hiding myself. If someone really wants to get to know me then I am going to give them me. If they happen to regret it after then that's their problem.

I know people don't like surprises or certain types of surprises. So I just give 100% crazy at all times. Then no one is disappointed. lol

I can agree with that, and that is honestly how I am.. but realize that honesty isnt always the winner when it comes to online sites. ;)
Id rather someone be honest and possibly hurt me then live a lie.

I agree with this!

That's why my pics are not edited-ME is what you get-near or far!

Newbiechick, I would like to get you, but you are too far.

You humans think that we Melmacians all look alike.

Once again, I am not my cousin Gordon, who used to have his own American TV show.

Oh well. I'm used to the confusion.

I also have an Alf doll! Loved Alf but I like this Melmacian lots better!

In response to your OP:

All the women that I date these days travel here to meet me if they aren't local. One woman that I chatted with on here said that that wasn't gentlemanly and that she expected men to come to her home town but she lived out in the sticks somewhere and I live in one of the most beautiful cities in the world and if it's good enough for all of the thousands of tourists that come here every year it's good enough for a woman that wants to meet me. I've even given a date her traveling expenses when I met her before because she was from Glasgow and I wouldn't want to go there if you payed me.

(Better add a disclaimer here because I'm not a mug and if you're a scammer you're wasting your time with me.)

I don't expect the women that I meet to be slim and I don't have a preference for that.

As far as obsessing after first dates goes, yeah I've done that in the past and it's stupid. What can happen is that you meet someone and the date may go well but then when you call them they get all weird on you. You may not know what their problem is and they may not tell you but usually they are the ones that are mental and they led you on. I try not to do that anymore. If a woman is really interested she'll call me. If she doesn't, then it's her loss.

I never think anyone will be very interested in anything I say, but here goes. My random subject.

I watched some interviewer on a documentary, trying to get insight, as to why Paedophile's do what they do. I guess I just wanted answer's as to what makes them do it. Yet even after it was finished, I still felt unsatisfied with the results. To me, there was no way, absolutely none, of justifying child rape. I will never ever have sympathy for them. I just can't. It's beyond alienic to me. Most things I can forgive, but with that, I'm not so sure.

Ssssssshhhhh-we did say,NO sadness-no crying over it!

My adopted nephew and his wife are going on 3 years together now. She lived 350 miles away...they met...they commuted on weekends, both ways...they decided, what the hell, she moved in (along with 3 kids), they got marrieds last year...had a new baby this year...and I'll be damned if they're not my ace-boon-coon favorite couple. And he's 45, she's 33.

So, guess what....long distance isn't the problem. It's state of mind. Would you not agree?

If I had my way then the pedophiles would be executed. I've never watched anything that tried to explain why they do what they do. But I know of a case where this guy as a kid was shown porn by his father and supposedly he was trying to understand what he had seen by doing it to nieces and nephews or who ever he did things to. Another case I know of this guy I actually knew was pretty much raping his brothers and sisters and from what I heard it started when two girls related to him took him into a barn and I guess molested him or rape him or whatever. I think he was around 10 or 12. There is no one reason as to why pedophiles are made.

I did once come up with my own theory which is about evolution of mankind. At one point people didn't live as long as they do now and so to survive sex for procreation was needed at younger ages. I would hazard a guess that some of that had to have result in some biological trait being passed on.

I don't believe it excuses the behavior. I believe it needs to be weeded out.

State of mind and fear of the unknown!
I agree...