You cannot just do without it, can you? Think of when you actually feel desperate for a hug or even a smile from someone that would mean more than comfort to you. Perhaps, say a smile that would mean affirmation that you aren't after all left alone to struggle for love; at least you are considered worthy of love somehow. Yet you don't just know if the smiler or hugger simply meant appreciation or something more.

You know something, but you don't know how you knew it. I wonder what you think of people on this web when they write you: "I love you". Words are power, however you may dare an exception on a special place where those words are ice breakers.

I don't know what "I love you" would mean to someone whom I met minutes ago on this site. The thing is we don't just trust others enough because we can't trust ourselves either. What we don't want other think of us are those same things we do to others. A lady might want a test of time to prove if a guy's flirting would mean more or just a beginning of yet another heart break. Of course we cannot be blamed for not knowing what we should know because we lack human contact via web. However, we can also initiate contact at the end if we can trust each other.

Here is the dilemma: can you trust anyone at all, especially knowing that you have not met them before? and maybe worst, their picture is not who they really are but someone else looking "more attractive" as a mean to buy you? Skepticism is a normal start, but if we keep it long enough and are skeptical of one another then we can be guaranteed we will leave single and empty as we came on this site. Still on trust, how can you know if the flirter is honest? From my experience over few months of joining this site, some people are honest and by exchanging few emails you can tell a little of their intentions. People are here for different reasons - some are here to find true love and they are honest about it. Some are here looking for a shoulder to lean on, a sense of acceptance and love. The needs are different with each of us, but love is not simply romance or sex. Love is also identifying with what the other person is passing through and becoming relevant in the season of their life.
It is about being honest when people need healing. Will you call it a great day if you comfort a user on this site with needs that are enormous and emotionally demanding? Do you really care what people are passing through or do you assume each person here is doing fine and looking forward to romance, sex or relationship? You might conclude that this is not a place of comforting or being a friend ready to help others in their pain -- but if you don't. it might mean you actually have distorted perspective of true love.

If we should love, we should do so selflessly. We should see the psychological need and the emotional state of each other. At the end if supposedly you got someone on this site, and hopefully you will because I care , you will sure face times you should give in beyond romance. People always are needful emotionally, psychologically or otherwise. And if we don't have what it takes to reason with each other through those realities, then we are building our foundations on sand. It will collapse and all your investment gone. Our abilities to understand one another relationally and trust with patience is significant part of loving. Let's care and love, only then we will be stronger and learn better.

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I've done just fine without it for 18 years.

Cooly001 your words express a lot of wisdom, especially for a person your age (yes, I read your profile). The truth is we all need love. At your age, my age or my moms we all need love and affection. It doesn't have to be sexual or romantic love. But we do all need that human interaction. A hug from family and friends. A tickling match with my four year old nephew. A handshake and word of encouragement.

As for those of us on this website. We all came here with a small hope of something. Of possibilities. Whether its plainly stated that you want intimacy or, as in my case you dont know if you can handle more than friendship, we all came with a small glimmer of hope.

Your statements are so true. Everyone in this world at one point or another needs encouragement, a helping hand, a word of how much they are appreciated, or even how much they are missed. We all need more compassion, understanding and caring for those outside ourselves, and I believe what we receive from others is a measure of the giving we extend to others. Nice post!