Hey guys. Something's been bugging me for a bit. Whenever I talk to guys on any of these dating sites, they always seem to be looking for someone to have sex with. I'm not a virigin, but I was badly hurt by the man I gave it up to. So I talked to God a bit, and decided to wait until a wedding band is placed on my finger to do it again. Whenever I mention this to guys, they always seem to stop talking to me. What's the deal?

they don't want to dedicate time to a relationship that is going to be celibate. don't worry bout it, you'll find someone who will be willing to wait for you.

don't give up your morals sweetie. I think you are right and you get to know the person better. and the sex when it comes is more gratifying

sorry to hear that, but not all men are like that, you just have to find the right one.

oceangirl your the best match for kingbreeze it seems that he is concern about all your topic and he respond it exactly to rigth point.

hmmmm kingbreeze + oceangirl = oceanbreeze? lol

unfortunately....TOO MANY MEN PLACE WAY TOO MUCH ON SEX!

I agree with ann on that one an also on ocean view too just have to be patient an the right one will come along. I"m hoping agian for me after being in a long relationship just be careful out there

ok after going out with a few women from here I have decided that it is not just the men that place so much on sex.

yeah they have similarity we never know. maybe kingbreeze is the right match for oceangirl. that is only my observation

Yeah, but he's 11 years older and lives far away! lol

true love knows no age or distance, and on the flip side you can never have too many friends

love doesnt carry with age. it carry only how the heart beats that makes sense to your feelings to develop to somebody.

Very true.

wow i didn't realize i had so many friends.lol

we all looking out for ya breeze lol

Oceangirl I can tell you that God will NEVER steer you wrong...alot of times we, as humans, let our flesh get in the way, but truly our bodies are not our own, God is our Creator and to have sex outside of marriage is to defile what is His.

I am much older than you and I am not perfect by far...I have made more than my share of mistakes...I can promise you that you will be spared alot of pain & heartache in the long run if you follow what God tells you...that goes for sex before marriage and so many more things in our lives...God Bless,
Kaffey

Hey, the nicest man that I have ever dated was 16 years older than me. Don't let age be a factor. Guys your age are more likely to be looking for "just sex". An older man may be more sensitive to your wants.

well kingbreeze what are you waiting for, i just helping oceangirl and i found something interesting in you to match oceangirl so what are you waiting for, i know there is something sparkle between you and oceangirl. who knows your fate guys maybe this is it.

she's right. when i was younger i saw a lot of people who thought they were in love because of the intimacy that sex brought only to realize later that it wasn't.
if you fall in love with someone for who they are you'll have a much stronger relationship.