...do you revert to other types of birth control and throw away the condoms?

It has been so long since I have been in a serious enough long-term thing that I did not use latex. I can't imagine not using them. Totally safety girl and don't need anything catching.

How do you approach this with your partner? After how long? Go for blood work together?

Why am I such a dork?

Also, everyone, please don't delete as a wrong forum. I worried if I posted in the Sex and Dating forum people would be sending me free condoms.

Hugs, M

i think that choice is completely up to you and what you are more comfortable using.

The only question you pose that I feel I am at liberty to answer is this:

MicheleNC- "Why am I such a dork?"

Because you're a Babbelah!! (sp? context??)

Guuuurrll....you know what to do! Don't worry so much! You'll figure it out!!

BTW, I like your plea to 'not delete'.

You deserve a free condom for that!!

Condoms yes!!! Until the aids test comes back neg, its latex all the way!!!!

You do what you feel is right for you. Don't ever let a man tell you that not to use latex if that's what you're comfortble with! Better safe than sorry! If you get mor comfortable with the idea of having sex without, then yes, I'd agree with getting blood work done. If your man really cares about you, he won't have any problem whatsoever doing that with you. Best of luck, Sweetie!

Darlings!

I know what I am going to do. Use latex forever!!! Trust no one and back up birth control. My beau is more than okay with my insistence on it. Only been in 1 relationship since my divorce that got past the latex time.

What does everyone else do? When do you feel comfortable enough to talk about blood work and going without?

I should be working rather than playing! Why aren't we all at the beach?

M

PS-Bayareagal...you are my bubbeleh! It's phonetics, you cant' spell it wrong.

I'll let you know what I'll do when I actually get into a relationship, sweetie. Right now, the closet I'm getting to sex is looking it up in the dictionary.

I believe Barbara Cartland when she says that sex with a condom is masturbation. There is no actual or real touch from which there are benefits. Some women say that if U can't ride em bareback, do not ride at all.
Unless one gets cut, aids is not transmitted by vaginal sex; but other stds are like herpes. Aids, when sexually transmitted, is by anal sex. I never did and will never do that. So my fear of aids is lessened.
Where I work, all have to take aids and other STD tests every year.

If I like a woman and she insists on condom, she could keep moving away from me.
If I am going to be with a woman FOREVER, what am I using a condom for? If it is to prevent pregnancy? I could take a vasectomy, (I'm 57) or she can tie her tubes or something.
She will be at an age where she either do not want or can't make any children.

In todays day and age it is wise to both get tested, It takes just a short time to get the go ahead or stop sign. If pregnacy is what your trying to avoid, somebody is going to have to either use a condom or use birth control.