So I have a tough time judging what people are actually looking for when it comes to the online thing.

How many people that are asking for a 'relationship' are just online to have some fun?

Personally, I think most people that float around the online thing are here to feel good about themselves and have some fun, not overly looking for the marriage thing.

What are you looking for?

Honestly, are we all lying to ourselves say that we want long walks on the beach and true love. Or do we just want someone to make us laugh, have some mystery and then see what the next person holds?

I agree with you. I have noticed people online tend to also be more selective than " in real life" It's so much easier to ignore an email than someone sitting right next to you trying to have a conversation.
And frankly, since I live in Illinois, if you tell me you enjoy long walks on the beach, I will tell you that you live to far away lol But I know what you mean. Profiles are so general but, often so many people don't even bother to take the time to read them.

I'm definitely here seeking for a long-term relationship but I also agree with you. It seems as though many people are just here for some fun and then on to the next. Which is why I'm beginning to just come here just as a pass time and no longer worrying about finding "the one". Maybe we are a bit confused? IDK

oh ya ... definitely.

men especially, we are so visually driven that words don't even sink in ... its funny, cause the stereotypical males profile with his shirt of in his profile picture is a direct relfection of what he is looking for (they are just not as smart as the other guys that go "ya that won't attract most women").

Whereas a females profile is always way way more in depth. You put into your profile what you are looking to get out of it i find.

in the end arent we all just looking for a little friction

ya i believe that too ... most people just get sick of the run around ... also this may sound bad as we are all discussing this 'online' /// but has society gotten so bad that we cant talk to each other in person anymore? like honestly now.

I see your point but I think its really no different then meeting people in person some are genuine and some are looking to hang out.Myself I would like to meet someone genuine who is looking for that mental connection.

Firstly, it's a gross overgeneralisation to say that about women's profiles being "more in depth". Most of the profiles that I read are crap and a lot of women seem to think that all that they need to do is to post some pretty pictures.

To answer your question though, I'm definetely on here looking for more than a fling. A lot of the women don't seem to know what they want though if they aren't just liars and players. A girl that I dated is back on here again and this time at least she's openly saying that she doesn't want anything serious. She's still saying that she's looking for an honest guy though, while she's lying about her age and marital status.

This is easy. Majority of people have no clue what they want, and then when they get what they think they want?...then they don't want that anymore. Confusing? Well...that's dating in the 2010's.

Start off by asking those you're getting to know what they're looking for. That's the easiest way to figure it out. There are a lot out there just looking for fun.

Why generalize and wonder if everyone's lying to themselves? Everyone's different. Some like long walks on the beach and want to fall in love. Others don't.

This...^^^

Some say you don't know what you want 'till you get it!!

I can only speak for myself - I am looking for the whole enchilada, the full meal deal so to speak! I am searching for the man I wish to spend the rest of my life with.

In my search I have met some wonderful people and I enjoy chatting with them. I find this site a very non-judgemental and open social circle. Many people here are absolutely awesome!

I have no expectations. I would love to discover someone to share my life with, but I don't expect that to happen online anymore than I expect it to happen in the grocery store check out line. It could happen anywhere...or nowhere at all. Meanwhile, I'll just be getting to know some people here...or there...and just enjoy the journey.