Topic: Morals...
cooly001's photo
Thu 08/29/13 08:37 AM
Edited by cooly001 on Thu 08/29/13 08:50 AM
Very often we hear the word "moral" and we know by definition it is subjective - simply because you and I have been shaped differently by culture, society, people, experience and religion. Well then to start off, lets leave the argumented atmosphere open for opinions.
However, one gets skeptical or even judged being in a place such as this website; thinking "am I suppose to find real love on a website", yet feelings are just as real and we want to avoid rejection or heart break in our quest for relationship, love or simply friendship.

Suppose you tried really hard for acceptance to someone you love, what reaction or attitude will you put on if your efforts were frustrating? I would personally go with "modification". My approach will change, but still I intend to get what I want (in this case getting loved). Does change in method affects morality in this case? We can see that while the need is valid and unchanged, there is a step up from my side in the "how".

Lets go further analyzing the root of this modification. What I believe to be true about my first method was tailored to meet my supposed lover in guiding him/her to correspond with my feeling, which might have been affected with what I consider important while doing so, such as not hurting, insulting or hateful but being friendly, caring, descent perhaps, and so on. Well these are already a list of things that shape your morals because you are dancing to those tunes and avoiding breaking them.

Assuming our first method is a failure then what next? Ahhh now we can be critical in meeting the person's dearest needs by re-thinking ignored areas or trends that we should consider next. And if turns out that romance is a need, how would you deal with romance knowing it violates your belief? Say you believe romance should be in marriage context but to marry that person first there is a need for romance? We can go this logic on and on, and at certain point you will notice a trend that violates you or one you dodge sharply.

Now what can we say about morality? Can we suspend our moral parts in pursuit of someone we love or could we rather have our moralities more actively playing? Can YOU slightly change your morals to match your lover's needs or are you going to let go and lose your love? Can you abstain to match your love? Or can you do anything to gain your lover?

Our answers might be clearer if we deconstruct morality to its various components. I cannot make your list because we are just different :) But if you get your list ready, would you cross off which of those components such as "kiss", "nudity", "sex", "romance", etc will violate your morality? And if you have them on a scale of 1 to 5, can you estimate your values because it will make you understand your limits in entering a relationship and your strength as well.

However, that was an example of morality according to your standard, but we know there are beliefs with fixed moral lines mmmmh, I think for once that my personal morality is contradicting with my religion's, long story going about fixing it. However insightful you are, there are just certain part of you that want to contend with your morality and you might get thrown over the lines some how, but a website like this consist of real people with varieties of moral limits. Your freedom is what you consider valid in serving you without offending YOURSELF. But it could offend someone simply by exercising them.

There are though general guiding principles that are universal which many of us would find acceptable. One is respect for your body or your privacy, awww. If you will hesitate to upload a naked picture of yourself to the web, then it means your sense of morality is average. Why wouldn't you upload your naked self on the web? Perhaps you will be seen naked by people you might never meet. Then why worry about it? since no one will see you in real life? Well, you simply consider that nudity is not good enough in public places. You have to ask your extent of morality at this level, it is an "integrity" creating barrier. Its a barrier but the good type, right? So how about respecting the morality of your opponent who would post their naked pictures on the web? Would you rather shun it or reason "deviations" from standard morality. Now what is standard reference on morality -- hussh I guess none, but at the end we all seem to agree on certain aspect of life however different we are.

Conrad_73's photo
Thu 08/29/13 08:41 AM
http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/morality.html

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Thu 08/29/13 11:48 AM
I've never got naked infront of a stranger. If it's done in a tasteful way (life model/art), without being tacky, and full of dogma, then I can accept it, but someone getting naked doing whatever is nothing to do with me. Me and a male friend once went skinnydipping. Did I like it? Yes. Would I do that with him again? Sure.

cooly001's photo
Thu 08/29/13 12:06 PM
of course getting naked with someone you are in love is okay; e.g. couples get naked and its perfect - what I meant was if people would be naked to the world disregarding morals - that is if being moral in itself is rational.