Yeah i'm with Nervesgone. I rather be told the truth then to think that there might be something there when there is not. I think if you eplain to him in a gentle matter and if he is understanding then it you will make a good friend

If you don't feel it for the person then you don't feel it just br honest with him .....

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Curious ---- what advice would you give a woman in the same situation?


Yes, honesty is best.

Jbe,,I have been HIM, and I appreciated the helll out of the lady telling ME her truth the next day.

We have grown to best friends, but still we will NEVER be..

If she would have LED ME ON,,,I and HER would not be FRIENDS!

Tell him,,,,now....

what makes it difficult is the desire for genuine friendship
there is a fear that it will become impossible....

but cutting him loose is the only way to show that you
do care for him as a friend - and after feelings settle
down in a few weeks then friendship *may* develop. but
that is the only way.



not exactly the same for guys - as most guys imho simply
don't desire the friendship in the same way - except me -
but i am told that i am "different"

Oh, yes, definitely tell him the truth, and that you would like to be friends. The ball is now in his court and he has the option to become a friend or to just drop out of the picture.

Was it just completely obvious to you that there's no chemistry?

Initial chemistry is overrated. I usually give it at least 2-3 dates. Some of my best friendships/dates didn't always start off great, so I tend not to write off people so quickly.

However, you know yourself best. Straightforward honesty is the best policy. If you've met or at least talked on the phone, I'd tell him that way. I think doing so in an email is kind of a cop out, unless that's been the only way you've been communicating.

Good luck!

All you have to do, is tell him i want to find someone else
and just leave him, and find someone else.
Find someone like me

but be kind

well do like you have done me brush him off or just tell him the truth that might hurt but at least its honest striaght up no chemisrty ,

Go, u never know, maybe it was just a bad first date or something. Haven't you ever done something or talked to someone that at first you didnt think you would ever do or talk to again, then find yourself at a different time, liking it afterall? Ya never know, "he could be the one" lol, I doubt it, but it's worth a shot.

I would not give up so quick. At least try it one more time and see what happens unless you are apsolutely repulsed by him, then no be as honest as you can without hurting him

Honesty is the best policy..... tell him you just aint feeling him... and there is actually science behind the chemistry... that is why there are so many soulmates in our lifetimes people.... eons ago married and shelling out kids and dead by 30.... we evolve and live longer so why can't there be more than one for all of us.... hey that is great for someone to be married for 50 plus freakin years, but c'mon.... reality...

Trust your gut...

I wonder if He paid for Dinner?????

i agree-- be honest and tell him
never lead someone into thinking there is something there or
there might be a chance

Tell the guy that you think you have a flat tire and when he goes to look, run him over and speed away into the night.

Umm, sorry, I was just sick of seeing the "be honest thing" even though I agree with that.

Quake you need slapped....... but you would grow to like that too.....

Ladies go dutch, pay your half of the meal because certain "MEN" ((giving a few the benefit of the doubt)) may think they are entitled to some goods during or after...... which is and never should be ASSUMED!!!!

If you can't go dutch, then don't go.... and if he is real gentleman... they will respect you, pay, respect you, not wanna liplock, respect you and make it a respectable evening to remember....

Honesty, if you are sick of seeing it Sincereman, then I don't know.... bite me???? Umm, sorry, I was just sick of seeing it too ROFL (but I agree)