I've been dating this awesome guy and we are both wanting to become more serious. He has not met my kids yet and I'm not sure about it. I'm afraid actually.

Well if he's so awesome why are you scared?

I don't want us getting so attached to someone and him walking out. I can handle my own heartbreak but I can't stand my children hurting.

Oh yes, i do understand that I would wait a while then...

How long have you been seeing him? I would just talk to him and explain your situation. If he cares about you, then he will understand. How old are your children and do you have little girls? Where did you meet him?
Honestly you have to be careful and make sure he is safe around your children. Did you do a background check on him and make sure he is not a sexual predator? Now before anyone goes crazy on me..if she has little children, YOU can not trust anyone around your kids now a days. You should check and make sure they are safe to be around your kids, I am sorry but I check everything out!!!

Yes, there some creeps around!!!

I did check the sex offenders list and he is not on it! He's been so good about it and sometimes I think I have offended him. He tells me its okay and that I can bring my kids sometimes because its hard to find time with him because I have to plan a sitter for my kids And it gets expensive.

How long ago did you meet him and where? Now let me say this..not all men are creeps there are some really nice guys out there. It is just when you have small children, you have to be very careful.

Young children adapt better then you may think. As long as they "understand" that your BF is not their "new Daddy" they will be fine. But it sounds like maybe your afraid of him meeting your children because you fear once he sees how much it takes to care for children with all their crazy energy and sometimes unruly behavior, he will not be interested in you.JMO

He has raised children and wants more! When I get upset and tell him things my kids are doing he laughs and says that's what kids do! He is a patient man for sure!

So I'm not sure what you are afraid of then...it would be one thing if he was moving in...but why the fear of him just "meeting" your kids?
Seems there is more to this that is not being told.

I don't know...maybe I'm just weird.

No not weird...but maybe not thinking things through.
In my opinion, as soon as you start to have feelings for someone(of course not on first date) you should introduce your children to your BF or GF because what is the point of falling in love with someone if they are not "compatible" with your children...it will only lead to problems and heartbreak.

;-) I just over think and worry about everything. I just don't want to rush things. Its not just me that my choices affect.

Well not sure what you mean by "rush things", you have left the impression that you have been seeing him awhile and want to take it to another level.It's not like your trusting this guy with your kids lives, just meeting your kids. Well I guess you'll know when its time for that but hopefully its BEFORE you get "serious".

One question you keep avoiding is, how long have ya'll been going out?

We started talking almost a month ago. He works about the same schedule as i do we've met for lunch almost everyday. Twice we spent an entire day together. Talk on phone every night. He wants more time and so do I and he doesn't mind if its with my children. I've just fallen so fast but not sure if its too soon to get my kids involved.

Just do what you feel is right - Lord not every guy is scum, there is a few normal guys left, I myself would have said the same things like its ok to do something with the kids so it is easier for him and you to get togeather.

a month is not that long. I agree with you on being cautious

If you are asking this question hun,it is to soon.I think 3 - 6 months is a good time frame...However if you want to introduce his sooner...Just introduce him as a friend and keep it platonic when the kids are around...don't let him stay the night,unless it is on the COUCH!If he is really interested in you he will be happy to work at your pace :) Good luck with it all.