I know this is a bit controversial and to be fair it's probably not something that would be limited to just this site or free sites in general. It could happen anywhere.

So a woman who looks like a model(that should have been my first tip off)matches with me. She soon wants to do pms on im(who even does instant messenger anymore? Lol).

Before too long she wanted me to open up some kind of naval account for her. This was when I knew I was being duped. I blocked her and deleted her from my email list.

Be careful folks! There are scammers out there. I'm a bit reluctant now to try to meet someone especially online but now that I know what to look for maybe it won't be so bad.

A few guidelines:

If a woman who looks like a model(or very close to it)wants to be friends with you or matches with you be cautious. I'm not saying there are no good looking women on here but most of the time they won't be so forward or approach you. Let's face it if attractive women don't approach you in real life(and it's rarely ever happened to me personally and I'm not bad looking)then chances are it won't happen online either and if it does watch out.

If she wants to go to instant messenger right away or tries to get your email too soon. Just insist on sending messages on here and don't go to email or give out your email or phone number until they have agreed to meet with you or have met with you.

Also, if they have two different adresses or don't live in your area. This one apparently was going to school in Canada but lives in my area or used to. Ummm, yeah ok. Whatever.


I found this online and it's good advice from a woman.

There is no such thing. Every single dating site, even the paid ones, attract their share of scammers. It's nothing for some Nigerian or Russian scammer to pay $20/month for a legitimate site if they know that in that month they can con at least 10 people out of $500 each

The reality is, an estimated 60% of profiles on dating sites belong to scammers and on some sites it's up to 80%

But you can avoid the scams if you know what to look out for
1 - ONLY stick with local people you can meet face to face. If they claim to be one place and when you write they claim to be elsewhere with work, a sick relative, missionary, voluteer, etc drop them ASAP as that's the first sign of a scam. And any mention of West Africa or Eastern Europe is almost always a scam - whether they say they are an American in Africa or they are a nurse working in Russia.
2 - NEVER communicate offsite until you have actually met face to face. Only a scammer will want you to immediately start chatting through IM. Until you meet you only communicate through the site, even if it takes 3 weeks to actually meet. if they insist on communicating offsite they are a scammer - they don't want the site to have any record of their chats with you
3 - NEVER give any personal information to anyone you have not met - not your full name, birthdate, home address, phone number, employer name, etc. All they need to know is your first name, your general occupation, and your age will be on your profile
4 - Real profiles look like real women. If she looks like a model or is posting sexy pictures, the profile is always fake. Women who look like models do not go on dating sites - those are scam profiles using pictures stolen off modeling sites. And real women would never post a sexy picture on a dating site - those are normally from webcam sites
5 - Meet in person right away. I have a rule that if they can't meet for a casual coffee after exchanging 3 emails, then I move on. The more time you spend online, the more unrealistic picture you build up in your head and the more time you are wasting. Online dating should be used as a way to be introduced to people, but you have to meet in person right away and you'll know after a 15 minute coffee at Starbucks if there is any chemistry or not. And if not you didn't waste any time or emotional effort. The worst is when you spend weeks or months chatting with someone then when you finally meet it's a complete letdown, and you could have spent all that time finding someone else
6 - Be realistic, if you don't have gorgeous 24 year olds approaching you in bars every time you go out, they are not going to approach you online.
7 - it's a numbers game - you might have to contact 100 women to find one who gets back to you

Make sure you report her to the mods so they can delete her profile. Once you click on someone's page there is a "report this user" option and a drop down box to give an explanation for the report.

Sorry this happened.

Yes, I can just confirm, everything you wrote is absolutely correct.
That`s the reason I usually offer to meet on local coffee to have some coffee. Usually scammers dissapears after that. Also, I never dial phone numbers I receive, unless I already met some person face to face and checked the phone number ;)

Deleting profile changes absolutely nothing- I can create as many profiles as I wish. Anyway, it`s reality.

Thanks for your article!

Some people are just born naturally beautiful in the look's department. I've met "good looking" men on here, and they looked like they did on their profile pic's. So I'm reluctant to just suddenly ignore a guy, just because he happens to be "handsome". Some men like to take care of themselves. Nothing wrong with that. I already know what to look for. I've been experienced at this. lol. I'm mostly cautious of west indie type countries, because that's mostly where the scamming is coming from. Within one email, they love me already and are ready to marry me? I see that as way too desperate/too fast.