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Topic: Dont change who you are
Stan4life Joined Sun 06/16/13 Posts: 69	Mon 07/29/13 01:39 PM
Compromise in a relationship is a good thing but some people go too far and end up changing who they are...if a relationship demands too much change then it will never bring fulfilment and ultimately not worth it.

incagrass Joined Fri 07/19/13 Posts: 221	Mon 07/29/13 01:52 PM
A sound philosophy there. Never try to be someone you are not.

Stan4life Joined Sun 06/16/13 Posts: 69	Mon 07/29/13 02:03 PM
Its not just about pleasing the other

ridewytepony Joined Sun 04/14/13 Posts: 3697	Mon 07/29/13 02:08 PM
that's right, its better to be disliked as yourself that liked as someone your not. do it for yourself if you need the self improvements, but don't be a people pleaser.

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Mon 07/29/13 02:12 PM
that's right, its better to be disliked as yourself that liked as someone your not. do it for yourself if you need the self improvements, but don't be a people pleaser. so true..I shall stay the same picky *** wrotten biotch clown I have always been

jaded72 Joined Tue 12/06/11 Posts: 1456	Mon 07/29/13 02:14 PM
that's right, its better to be disliked as yourself that liked as someone your not. do it for yourself if you need the self improvements, but don't be a people pleaser. so true..I shall stay the same picky *** wrotten biotch clown I have always been Please do! We love you just the way you are.

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Mon 07/29/13 02:20 PM
that's right, its better to be disliked as yourself that liked as someone your not. do it for yourself if you need the self improvements, but don't be a people pleaser. so true..I shall stay the same picky *** wrotten biotch clown I have always been Please do! We love you just the way you are. Thank you I needed that.... although keeping these qualities, will always make me be alone,because they are not appealing to the men...or maybe it is me being sick...or to faraway.. I'm just me. ((((jaded))))

ridewytepony Joined Sun 04/14/13 Posts: 3697	Mon 07/29/13 02:59 PM
that's right, its better to be disliked as yourself that liked as someone your not. do it for yourself if you need the self improvements, but don't be a people pleaser. so true..I shall stay the same picky *** wrotten biotch clown I have always been I am considerate & perceptive and spontaneous people pleaser but that allso makes me feel good if the guy or chicks just a Biotch for there "suggestive way" all the time then that will wear thin ..QUICK! I like been curtious but I used to have a huge problem with people not caring enough to say thanx I would always say stuff like "YOUR WELCOME" or "is it that much trouble to say thank you" it would burn my butt, it came up in a psychology workshop & the psychologists asked: why do you hold the door? because YOU wanted to! you didn't do it to be rewarded. why didn't I of that, a total different outlook now, now It doesn't matter if they say thank you or not...there not my kid ((hey 2km )) peace

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Mon 07/29/13 03:10 PM Edited by 2KidsMom on Mon 07/29/13 03:11 PM
that's right, its better to be disliked as yourself that liked as someone your not. do it for yourself if you need the self improvements, but don't be a people pleaser. so true..I shall stay the same picky *** wrotten biotch clown I have always been I am considerate & perceptive and spontaneous people pleaser but that allso makes me feel good if the guy or chicks just a Biotch for there "suggestive way" all the time then that will wear thin ..QUICK! I like been curtious but I used to have a huge problem with people not caring enough to say thanx I would always say stuff like "YOUR WELCOME" or "is it that much trouble to say thank you" it would burn my butt, it came up in a psychology workshop & the psychologists asked: why do you hold the door? because YOU wanted to! you didn't do it to be rewarded. why didn't I of that, a total different outlook now, now It doesn't matter if they say thank you or not...there not my kid ((hey 2km )) peace damn (((( ride))))) I don't know if that was a compliment or an insult but you know what I think you're real cool real funny real smart and you're always okay in my book love 2 K

ridewytepony Joined Sun 04/14/13 Posts: 3697	Mon 07/29/13 03:47 PM Edited by ridewytepony on Mon 07/29/13 03:52 PM
that's right, its better to be disliked as yourself that liked as someone your not. do it for yourself if you need the self improvements, but don't be a people pleaser. so true..I shall stay the same picky *** wrotten biotch clown I have always been I am considerate & perceptive and spontaneous people pleaser but that allso makes me feel good if the guy or chicks just a Biotch for there "suggestive way" all the time then that will wear thin ..QUICK! I like been curtious but I used to have a huge problem with people not caring enough to say thanx I would always say stuff like "YOUR WELCOME" or "is it that much trouble to say thank you" it would burn my butt, it came up in a psychology workshop & the psychologists asked: why do you hold the door? because YOU wanted to! you didn't do it to be rewarded. why didn't I of that, a total different outlook now, now It doesn't matter if they say thank you or not...there not my kid ((hey 2km )) peace damn (((( ride))))) I don't know if that was a compliment or an insult but you know what I think you're real cool real funny real smart and you're always okay in my book love 2 K (((( snickers ))) and......and.. you were saying about me...and...there's got to be more lots more...oh stop would ya! my heads got to fit through the door when I leave very kind but TRUE words from a very kind and true person all my love to a most wonderfull woman love jamie I was just rambling on about a random but important life lesson was all.

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Mon 07/29/13 06:12 PM
Right on :) I keep telling people they're still who they always were. And it's because of going through a few heartbeak's, that you feel you've lost part of yourself. Yes, we grow, but you still like those particular movies, or the bands you liked as a teen. We forget because we go through bad stuff, sometimes.

unsure Joined Wed 08/16/06 Posts: 4886	Mon 07/29/13 06:17 PM Edited by unsure on Mon 07/29/13 06:19 PM
You have to be the real you or you are being a lie. I had a friend that changed herself for every boyfriend she had, in the end she did not know who she really was. When you try to please the person you are with, all it does is bring confusion to you. BE YOURSELF...IT THEY DON'T LIKE YOU, THEN GO LIVE YOUR LIFE.

incagrass Joined Fri 07/19/13 Posts: 221	Mon 07/29/13 06:29 PM
You have to be the real you or you are being a lie. I had a friend that changed herself for every boyfriend she had, in the end she did not know who she really was. When you try to please the person you are with, all it does is bring confusion to you. BE YOURSELF...IT THEY DON'T LIKE YOU, THEN GO LIVE YOUR LIFE. Hear hear! Very well put.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 07/29/13 07:49 PM
well short of entering the witness protection program and getting a new identity, I don;t think it's possible all kindsa people ask us to change things about ourselves.....no thanks

sanjeev009 Joined Fri 01/18/08 Posts: 2115	Mon 07/29/13 10:05 PM
agreed....dont change urself for others...live ur life ur own way....

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Tue 07/30/13 04:40 PM
Yep; I am too stubborn to change who I am so accept me or hit the road.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14597	Tue 07/30/13 08:19 PM
A change with some people can be a positive thing. When tring to make a serious relationship work, it is best to take a look at one's own self and see if there is room for improvements.