I wait 50'ft or 50 seconds, whichever comes first! now thats if I really
really loved her, or then why wait.

it depends, if it was a three month relationship & I figured it
out that I never had what I thought I had, then I could be looking
to get under another "immediately".thats if I didn't think she
was sincere in the end. why sulk in your soup! some people
want to lick ice cream and some don't want to lick ice cream

if I loved her stupid, it takes me forever, longer than the ones I loved, I'm sure

yes yes yes yes, its perfect!

its can be a hard question to answer, there are a lot of variables

and after all, we are only human and subject to change.

oh good. I wasn't sure if I was expressing it right.
Sometimes my mind and my typing don't coordinate very well lol

I have the same problem my mind is working on the solutions to world problems and my fingers are off getting into trouble on their own ... It can be difficult at times.

Well at Least we know what we mean even if others don't lol.

Betty, yes we are of a mind, as long as your not reading mine . I still have many things to work through, but I am finding that I need a relationship. But my hands are tied and finding someone willing is going to be a large task.

1460 days. Actually 1461, because I forgot to account for leap years.

well I have ADHD and Dyslexia its been terrible on my relationships, its the same
problem every time, I keep mixing up my girlfriend with her friends *hits symbol*
ok, thats was a joke ladys & gentlemen.

the ADHD & Dyslexia is true, I could relate to what you said so much, not sure this is good news
for you

actually I couldn't hardly tell I had dyslexia until I started this site, and leaning to type a bit
quicker, now its as bad as its ever been, I've reverted back

For me, how long it takes me to get back to dating after a breakup depends on how I felt about the guy at the time we broke up, and which of us actually decided to break up.

I've had it take me more than a year... and I've had other times where I couldn't wait to date other guys. After my marriage ended I was ready right away, probably because the "in love" aspect of the marriage had already ended for both of us long before we openly acknowledged that and agreed to split.

On other occasions I've either had a difficult time letting go of my feelings for someone I'd dated and that made it so no one else really appealed to me because I kept feeling like I'd lost "the one" or else because I couldn't stop comparing new guys to the one I'd recently stopped seeing.

And then there've been times when I just moved on without any real problem... and some when I've just purposely avoided romantic entanglements for a time because I didn't want the hassle or I wanted to focus my energies on other things.

I don't have a set time to wait. I date when I feel like it. Could be immediate or (the longest I waited) 3 years. Just when I feel comfortable to get out there and date

I guess I have been out of love for a long while. I am still where I am out of a sense of 'duty'. Kind of a "if not I, then who" thing. But the situation has not allowed me to move on or get involved again. It is a kind of limbo state that seems to have no end. It feels like I can't commit to someone new, but that is also what I really need in my life.

I think you do just fine.

I am so sorry for what you are going through.
I can't even imagine. Just know you have friends here and if you ever need to chat privately, I am only an email away.

Thank you Betty. As odd as it seems I am usually the one that finds my way to support someone else. I know there are plenty of good people out there, but I have not found the right shoulder for me yet. I will accept long distance shoulders though :-).

I take up my alter ego....Goofball The Great. I fight crime, break a few bones (namely my own), rehab and then decide I should find a woman to settle down with. This is normally a 90 day process. I have repeated this three times within the last five years. Seems it isn't working for me.

Professional advice. This is just what I needed.

ya I was thinking of carrying around a big salami to whack them with. That should get their attention.

Hit them with whatever is handy. Some guys are just too dumb to see the signs (their minds are on other things for some reason).

once she says it's over,i'm pulling out my black book