Ok I know this topic has been done to death, but lets take a moment to examine ones physical and mental reactions to the emotion we call Love.

When we are in love with someone there are chemical reactions activating in the brain such as Pheromones adrenaline and hormones, these chemical reactions can occur when one person is both sexually and emotionally attracted to another individual, first of all we are all individuals we all have different attractions, for instance by smell, I believe smell or scent is a major aspect of attraction as the body is releasing pheromones, scent plays a major role in most mammals and primates (human) when two people have compatible body chemistry it will induce an immediate attraction.

But being that we are the higher primates, scent may be all well and good for lower primates, but humans are more complex animals, there is also the mental factor involved in attraction or our analytical side, where one woman finds attraction in the quiet brooding type male, another may be attracted to a more boisterous man, there is also intellectual capability, when we communicate on an intellectual level it will create a mental bond between partners, after all we can't spend our whole relationship in the bedroom (even though a lot of us men would prefer this) lool, it has also been proven over a period of time all of these brain chemicals lower or disappear entirely.

However I also believe one can make themselves attracted to an individual even when these chemical reactions are not evident at first, attraction can also occur from familiarity, such in the case of friends of the opposite sex finding their selves attracted to one another.

So we are all different, the same rules of attraction don't apply to every man and woman, since there are many factors involved in attraction for each individual this is why (and I know I probably will get bashed for this)I don't believe in soul mates. humans are just to complex of a specious.

So, it's not strange that I like it when my man smells yummy?


So, moving on...I agree with this to an extent. I believe in all this, but also think that though there may be thousands that would suit each of us based on both instinctive and cognitive factors, there are fewer still we might find a deeper connection with....call it a spiritual connection if you like. This is what I consider a soul mate...but don't believe there is only ONE of those either...just fewer than the ones I want to smell.

I think scent amu play a greater role with "high"er primates than we may realize. with the scents we respond to nor always readily or obviously detected by our noses that our concious brain perceives

Scent issue: Just take a bath and you'll be fine.

Soul mate issue: Semantics. That term is used loosely. If it means that you are supposed to have only one person that you can love forever.. no, that's not true.

Like attracts like. When you are drawn to someone who is very much like you, you can think of them as a "soul mate" if you want.

I think we can love more then one person at a time, after all aren't we suppose to love others, it is also possible to be in love with more then one person at a time, however we must keep in mind the person we have chosen to be with needs to be put first, it's OK to have feelings for another that is not your partner, however it is not OK to act on those feelings, we can't always control how we love others.

We may all be a little different about that. I can love tons of people most certainly, but when I'm "in love" with someone, if I'm dedicating myself to that person, there's no room in my mind to think of others that way.

Sure, I can think another guy looks HOT or know that he's nice or talk to him and appreciate that he's intelligent, but I'm not going to be taking the time to get to really know him like I KNOW the one I'm already in love with, and that's what it would take for me to fall for someone...so it's just not going to happen.